Just wondering

Some say love, it is a river That drowns the tender reed
Some say love, it is a razor That leaves your soul to bleed
Some say love, it is a hunger An endless aching need
I say love, it is a flower And you, its only seed
It's the heart, afraid of breaking That never learns to dance
It's the dream, afraid of waking That never takes the chance
It's the one who won't be taken Who cannot seem to give
And the soul, afraid of dying That never learns to live
When the night has been too lonely And the road has been too long
And you think that love is only for the lucky and the strong
Just remember in the winter Far beneath the bitter snow
Lies the seed That with the sun's love, in the spring

Becomes the rose

http://youtu.be/oR6okRuOLc8

I guess it's when your usual sensible self suddenly had an aversion to reasoning.

when my day is not complete whenever I don't hear anything from my bebe

I've been told that you will just know. Of course, I think I've been in love several times. I "knew" every time... lol

I have a feeling that when you're in love, you don't even question it. It's just one of those things that is a given, happens when it supposed to, and you just go with it without actually thinking about it.

Still trying to find it, but so long as I'm breathing there is always hope right?

It means different things to different people.

I thought I was in love three or four times. When I actually found love the other times paled in comparison.

How to describe how you know? I would say you want to talk to them all the time. You understand what they want and need without having to be told. You truly love them for who they are and want the best for them. You try to express how you feel and no words can capture your true feelings. When cuddling together, nothing else matters.

Unfortunately, the way I am trying to describe it doesn't capture the real meaning either.

I avoided this topic previously. And Cap just summed up my position.

I can explain what it means to me, but the truth is that it means nothing unless both people feel it. So, how you define love may actually be different than how your partner defines it, but if the two have a synergy then all is good. If not, then the two of you may be looking for something different than what you have. On the other hand, I've been in love, but ruined the chance of having it returned. I spent years hoping for a chance to mend things. Then I received an invitation to her wedding. I couldn't allow myself to go. It would have hurt too much, and I might have tried to stop the wedding. It was better to just accept things, and move on.

we can decide to defined this in a long way lol wish some of you already did am gonna save you the time
WHEN YOU ARE INLOVE YOU WILL KNOW TRUST ME

I guess an addendum to that is: if you are asking - then you are not...

I disagree Lynx...it means everything to the person who feels it.


To love is to be open....to open yourself up and be vulnerable......to everything around you.


What you described is what someone does with love....it's far different to what it is.

That's the problem. It is easy to convince yourself that you are in love. It is just as easy to talk yourself out of being in love.

Only you can know when you are in love. When you are, it's different than those other times, and it goes right down into your soul. It's more than just an emotion. It's something much deeper.

Hence, you just know when you're in love.

There will be some people who try to convince you otherwise, but you will not let them sway you. You stick with that truth that goes deeper than your brain and your heart, down into your soul, knowing that the naysayers will be proven wrong.

Like what you said Jess. I have been saying that for awhile now.

To find true love you must be willing to get hurt. Because you must open yourself up to your love fully and completely and be totally vulnerable and hope they take you in loving arms and don't reject you.

It is scary. There are a lot of people that just aren't ready to do that for anyone.

always want talk any time ! always hear his voice on the phones...n save money to meet then

Rereading how I phrased that, I think you misunderstood my intended meaning. In truth, that line was horribly written.

Yes, it does mean everything to the person who feels it. But if the other does not, cannot, will not, then that love can turn into something else. Sometimes love also means knowing when it is time to let go. Been there, done that. I could have interfered, but I knew I would only cause more pain. All the signs had been in place for more than 10 years....She was my best friend from the time I was 6 years old. She had already completed medical school by the time she got married. It was time to let go, and let her be happy rather than let my unrequited love become something ugly.

In other parts of that post, I was referring to how different people define love. Truth is, what triggers that deep down feeling is different for different people. If only one feels it, then it is unrequited. But if both feel it for different reasons, then there must be some kind of chemistry between them that pushed all the right buttons to make it happen. That's a form of synergy.

These were the points I was trying to mention, though my opening line was poorly phrased.

As far as your definition, that is a love that no one has mentioned yet in this topic. That is a much further reaching love that extends beyond two people. And it is something worthy of further discussion.

it's a selfish little thing, isn't it?

We feel...therefore we want...a cyclical thing, a responsive thing...we want something from the other when we love..


but that's not love.

Love is truthfully enjoying your own bliss...and enjoying the object of your paramour...expecting anything in return becomes love with condition..


To learn to love without condition is the freedom of being vulnerable....and not giving a sh * T...meaning no guards...irrespective of the outcome...you get to experience the most overwhelming and completing reason for your existance...



I probably make no sense to those who haven't experienced it....and all the sense in the world to those who have...

ese.....you're a darling....

It's all good. Truthfully, I think our little exchange was more along the lines of what the OP was looking for.

Just took a moment to read both back to back several times.

When we are searching for love, our motives are selfish. When love is found, we become selfless. But if we are selfless to one who does not love us, then we need to recognize that, and move on. Therefore, unrequited love places us back into the mode of selfish thought.

But when we find love and it is returned, we enter that selfless state and continue in it until love is gone. How love leaves is a whole other subject for debate.

Point is, when you feel it deep in your soul, it becomes a part of your being, your entire existence. It alters the way you think and act. Yes, it makes you vulnerable, but that is the risk you are willing to take, even if it means taking a bullet for someone you love.

Maybe I just wasn't doing a good job of describing it. Jess642 pointed out what was lacking. I hope I captured the essence of her message here while integrating with what I was attempting to express also. If I was successful, then Jess642 gave me a simpler way to express it.