Don't you hate that?

I've been on so many vacations and various travel plans and parties etc.. where I had to go with a couple. Or 2 couples. It burnzzzz inside!

And there is the family thing, when you go with your brother or sister or mother or relatives somewhere.
The whole concept of being a family member around all the time ruins everything.

So, for a while now, anytime someone asks me to go somewhere and I know I'm gonna be a 3rd wheel, I refuse, because it makes me feel worse than not going anywhere. I know they want me to feel good or being nice, etc..but I just can't do it. I had enough of experience in those 3rd wheel role - vacations and every minute with a couple having fun is like a reminder of my situation.

I know the feeling but when it is family I still go for I feel worse if I don't go. And actually normally always have a great time with family....

Now if it is friends and all are a couple I have backed out....at times..

But heck I figured getting out even if I'm the third wheel it is better then sitting looking at the walls....

yea, better stay at home for the rest of your life

I know what you mean.. .I've been the 3rd or 5th wheel for a lot of dinners and outings.. It kind of stinks but it's better than being in a relationship and being miserable in the relationship...

I don't go sometimes as well.... Vacations, I don't think I've done, I usually plan vacations with all my single friends...

Actually several of my family now do plan vacations with the whole family. I go heck I'm not the only single one and besides I have fun they all know I'm crazy anyway so we have a blast together.. It is not like I'm looking to hook up while on vacation.

But if it happen hell I would still have fun...

I'd go with a few family members "if I liked them enough"... LOL.. But just a couple or two it'd be a little uncomfortable... In NJ they had a get together when I was there last March.. I was the only single person out of 10 people, even my sons had girlfriends... That felt a little weird...

Yeah now that would but with ours normally there is at least one or two still single

yeah I ended up on mingle to try and find some friends that were not attached to do things with, but no luck finding anyone local to hang with! I have still made some great friends here so I am not complaining. Last year my Mom planned our family vacation as a women's retreat (there aren't many men left in our family). I broke up with the ex on the way home (not the way I intended to do so) and a week late my little sister broke up with her bf so it all got blamed on stupid women talk on the vacation...LOL!

i miss being a third wheel.... r.i.p. gary

it takes special people to make you not feel like a third wheel, which is a rarity. i was lucky.