i am about to have a breakdown here. To start off my rant i shall keep you up to speed. As a child i was abused physically and sexually by both my parents and their spouses. So at 15 i moved in with my grandmother who raised me and was my mother in a sense. Well i moved to the city at 18 so grams moved to florida for cora and stan to take care of her. My uncle and his ugly *** wife. Well cora is a *****. She hurt my grams in so many ways. So much that grams moved back here to missouri to live alone. Well grams went into the hospital for blood pressure and heart problems and she has to have a heart cathader. So my aunt cindy called cora and my dad to tell them that mom is in the hospital and they get pissed and don't care and say its a bunch of ****in drama! Wtf?

you want worse
it has nothing to do with me
but with a friend and i would prefer to email you
and tell you

Hmmmm...

Firstly....expecting people to be more than who they have shown themselves to be, is expecting miracles....your grandmother's children..Dad, aunt, etc... have shown you who they are....dysfunctional, broken people.

Secondly....it's a huge responsibility...but time for you to step up to the plate and look after your grandma, like she did, when you needed her.

Getting mad, upset, hurt, by what other people do...or don't do...won't help the situation or your grandma, or you.


The rest of the family are obviously not the people to take care of her....so getting ruffled won't help.

sometimes families can really suck... do what you can for yourself and granny, and hopefully everything will be good

I agree with Jess forget the rest of the family only worry what you can do for your grandmother... Be there for her as she was for you....

check your email

thanks guys. And i do take care of her the best to my ability. I've been the one at the hospital. I've been the one there for her. She asks if dad cares and i can't tell her no. It's tearing her down that they are the way they are. My dad wont even text her. She made me teach her to text so he'd talk to her and he still wont. She is so loving and family orientented and the fact that her family doesn't give a rats *** about anyone but themselves pisses me off. She deserves more. And i just can't do it all.

No you can't do it all Lizzie...and your wanting to protect your granma from the uncaring-ness of her children is beautiful...

however....they have been her children a lot longer than you have been her grandaughter...and she knows their failings....why would she have you live with her, if she was not aware of the abuse you sustained at her son's hands?

She knows her own kids...and you don't need to lie to her....painful, yes...but shows her respect when you are truthful.

You don't have to do everything yourself...although, you, as a young adult, CAN source the relevant help your granma needs...you can talk to the hospital social worker, and explain the circumstances in the family...they can direct you to who you need to speak with.

I'm here for you, even if I'm not sure on what to say/do, you have my support

thanks mucho