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Does anybody read profile information before contacting a person? I do because I don't want to waste people's time. I also don't want to lead people on to believe I am interested in them when I'm actually not. If you don't read profiles than how are you actually going to know if you are interested in that person?
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I always read profiles.. Sometimes when not busy I just browse and read as I like to see what everyone likes and does...
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Does anybody read profile information before contacting a person? I do because I don't want to waste people's time. I also don't want to lead people on to believe I am interested in them when I'm actually not. If you don't read profiles than how are you actually going to know if you are interested in that person? yea i do all the time even if im not interested for you can see a profile and run across some funny info when i was in a relationship i had a guy email me and ask why i was lookinjg at his profile when i was in a relationship.. well geeze it was no harm done.. |
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I do....but very obvious that some don't as I was just hit on in an email.....lol
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The problem that I've found, after reading 17,883,294,018 profiles, is that most of the time there isn't anything useful in them.
The vast majority of profiles are either empty or completely cliche-ridden -- "I don't know what to write here," or "anything you want to know, you'll have to ask," or "I'm laid back and easy going" or "I like to go out and stay in" or "I'm shy at first but I open up once you get to know me." And that doesn't really tell me anything about a person except they're good at copying the same text I see in every other profile. Rarely is there anything that would serve as an incentive for me to contact anybody. I really don't think I'd have much interest in people who can't even construct a few decent sentences about themselves. I have seen a few good ones. Not enough! For the most part, you could write 100 adjectives on a wall, throw a dart, hit an adjective, and you'd have a better chance of accurately describing something about that person that way than what you'll get from their profile. |
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I'm pretty sure most don't read them, other than to see what gender you are. They look at the pic, decide if you're hot or not and then send a weird email. Perfect example, I got hit on by a guy in another country last night. I wanted so badly to write back "why do you even bother???" But I didn't want to encourage him....
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I'm pretty sure most don't read them, other than to see what gender you are. They look at the pic, decide if you're hot or not and then send a weird email. Perfect example, I got hit on by a guy in another country last night. I wanted so badly to write back "why do you even bother???" But I didn't want to encourage him.... i had a guy that email me the other day and he said he lived if i recall right in texas i ask him all these questions and his reply was can we do one step at a time so i email him again and ask him what his nationality was and he said american.......LOL OK so i ask him again and he said why does it matter |
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The problem that I've found, after reading 17,883,294,018 profiles, is that most of the time there isn't anything useful in them. The vast majority of profiles are either empty or completely cliche-ridden -- "I don't know what to write here," or "anything you want to know, you'll have to ask," or "I'm laid back and easy going" or "I like to go out and stay in" or "I'm shy at first but I open up once you get to know me." And that doesn't really tell me anything about a person except they're good at copying the same text I see in every other profile. Rarely is there anything that would serve as an incentive for me to contact anybody. I really don't think I'd have much interest in people who can't even construct a few decent sentences about themselves. I have seen a few good ones. Not enough! For the most part, you could write 100 adjectives on a wall, throw a dart, hit an adjective, and you'd have a better chance of accurately describing something about that person that way than what you'll get from their profile. im pretty sure you didnt read all those profile. for i would find that beyond crazy 
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I'm pretty sure most don't read them, other than to see what gender you are. They look at the pic, decide if you're hot or not and then send a weird email. Perfect example, I got hit on by a guy in another country last night. I wanted so badly to write back "why do you even bother???" But I didn't want to encourage him.... i had a guy that email me the other day and he said he lived if i recall right in texas i ask him all these questions and his reply was can we do one step at a time so i email him again and ask him what his nationality was and he said american.......LOL OK so i ask him again and he said why does it matter He sounds like a real winner. I would have blocked him. |
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Does anybody read profile information before contacting a person? I do because I don't want to waste people's time. I also don't want to lead people on to believe I am interested in them when I'm actually not. If you don't read profiles than how are you actually going to know if you are interested in that person? Yes, I do. |
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Edited by
Ysabeau
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Thu 04/07/11 10:27 AM
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I look at the photo and read the profile, too. They're of equal importance to me--but not for the reason you might think. I couldn't care less whether a guy is "hot." But I do very much care whether he has taken the time to put his best face forward in his photos. I've seen far too many photos on here of men who looked angry with the world, and to me, that is a deal-breaker in itself. I want to see a smiling face because that is the person who is approachable. But that's only half the picture (no pun intended); the profile's important, too. I want to connect with men who share some of my values and my interests, too. I want somebody I can have conversations with--and laugh with.
At the risk of being lynched by the guys for stereotyping them, I suspect (from my experience so far) that guys just look at photos, whereas women read profiles AND look at photos. The reason I suggest this is that I've had several contacts from men who wanted to talk on the phone after a single round of messages. My profile states that I want to move SLOWLY; if they had read that, they'd have saved themselves time by not contacting me. And since they seem to be in such a rush to enter into a relationship, I'd think they'd want to save time by only contacting like-minded women!  Well, gents? Care to refute my assertion? Or tell me to go suck eggs? I mean no insult, guys. I love men...I think you're terrific.  In fact, of all the Lord's creations, I'd have to go so far as to say that men are my favorites--at the very least, right up there with big dogs, tiny kittens, and a big bowl of jambalaya. 
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I look at the photo and read the profile, too. They're of equal importance to me--but not for the reason you might think. I couldn't care less whether a guy is "hot." But I do very much care whether he has taken the time to put his best face forward in his photos. I've seen far too many photos on here of men who looked angry with the world, and to me, that is a deal-breaker in itself. I want to see a smiling face because that is the person who is approachable. But that's only half the picture (no pun intended); the profile's important, too. I want to connect with men who share some of my values and my interests, too. I want somebody I can have conversations with--and laugh with. At the risk of being lynched by the guys for stereotyping them, I suspect (from my experience so far) that guys just look at photos, whereas women read profiles AND look at photos. The reason I suggest this is that I've had several contacts from men who wanted to talk on the phone after a single round of messages. My profile states that I want to move SLOWLY; if they had read that, they'd have saved themselves from time. And since they seem to be in such a rush to enter into a relationship, I'd think they'd want to save time by only contacting like-minded women! Well, gents? Care to refute my assertion? Or tell me to go suck eggs? I mean no insult, guys. I love men...I think you're terrific. In fact, of all the Lord's creations, I'd have to go so far as to say that men are my favorites--at the very least, right up there with big dogs, tiny kittens, and a big bowl of jambalaya. Sometimes I have to close my eyes at the photos, so many of them are shirtless. And it's always the ones who should never never NEVER be shirtless in public. 
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I look at the photo and read the profile, too. They're of equal importance to me--but not for the reason you might think. I couldn't care less whether a guy is "hot." But I do very much care whether he has taken the time to put his best face forward in his photos. I've seen far too many photos on here of men who looked angry with the world, and to me, that is a deal-breaker in itself. I want to see a smiling face because that is the person who is approachable. But that's only half the picture (no pun intended); the profile's important, too. I want to connect with men who share some of my values and my interests, too. I want somebody I can have conversations with--and laugh with. At the risk of being lynched by the guys for stereotyping them, I suspect (from my experience so far) that guys just look at photos, whereas women read profiles AND look at photos. The reason I suggest this is that I've had several contacts from men who wanted to talk on the phone after a single round of messages. My profile states that I want to move SLOWLY; if they had read that, they'd have saved themselves from time. And since they seem to be in such a rush to enter into a relationship, I'd think they'd want to save time by only contacting like-minded women! Well, gents? Care to refute my assertion? Or tell me to go suck eggs? I mean no insult, guys. I love men...I think you're terrific. In fact, of all the Lord's creations, I'd have to go so far as to say that men are my favorites--at the very least, right up there with big dogs, tiny kittens, and a big bowl of jambalaya. some of the photos can be bogus there was this one website i was on yrs ago and this guy email me and i took one look at his pic and omg!! i ended up sending it to 3 other psychic friends and it also blew there mind the pic of that guy his eyes were flaming red like a devil it had nothing to do with the lighting of the camera |
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I read the profiles before I make contact. However, that doesn't stop them from NOT reading mine and contacting me in hopes for a date. (It says very clearly I am engaged in the very first sentence.)
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I'm pretty sure most don't read them, other than to see what gender you are. They look at the pic, decide if you're hot or not and then send a weird email. Perfect example, I got hit on by a guy in another country last night. I wanted so badly to write back "why do you even bother???" But I didn't want to encourage him.... i had a guy that email me the other day and he said he lived if i recall right in texas i ask him all these questions and his reply was can we do one step at a time so i email him again and ask him what his nationality was and he said american.......LOL OK so i ask him again and he said why does it matter He sounds like a real winner. I would have blocked him. im waiting for him to respond back and if he doesnt answer that question i will block him i still may either way |
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Sometimes I have to close my eyes at the photos, so many of them are shirtless. And it's always the ones who should never never NEVER be shirtless in public. Oh gosh I know what you mean! I saw a photo last night of a fellow whose boobies were as big as mine (and mine aren't small, either). I do NOT want to see man-boobies! The worst part is, I was all out of eye bleach because I had been trying to edit my own photos earlier in the day, and I always need to bleach my eyeballs after gazing upon my own visage. 
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Well I just had a woman tell me she was interested in me and getting to know me but when I told her some information (which is in my profile) she said she wasn't interested in me. So I just find it rude when you lead a person on when you haven't even bothered to read their profile. I was just curious if I was the only person on here that reads profiles. I keep getting those emails from guyus in other countries too...but i am not looking for a guy so right away they prove they only look at photos
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I definitely read profiles before contact. It's nice to have an idea whether I am likely to get a rotten tomato in the face in return for my attentions.
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Well I just had a woman tell me she was interested in me and getting to know me but when I told her some information (which is in my profile) she said she wasn't interested in me. So I just find it rude when you lead a person on when you haven't even bothered to read their profile. I was just curious if I was the only person on here that reads profiles. I keep getting those emails from guyus in other countries too...but i am not looking for a guy so right away they prove they only look at photos Yep. If it's a female and they think she's "hot" they email, they don't care about anything else. And if you engage them in conversation and tell them you're not interested, they're insulted. If you ignore them, they claim no one answers their emails. :/ |
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Sometimes I have to close my eyes at the photos, so many of them are shirtless. And it's always the ones who should never never NEVER be shirtless in public. Oh gosh I know what you mean! I saw a photo last night of a fellow whose boobies were as big as mine (and mine aren't small, either). I do NOT want to see man-boobies! The worst part is, I was all out of eye bleach because I had been trying to edit my own photos earlier in the day, and I always need to bleach my eyeballs after gazing upon my own visage. The one who emailed me was like that. Boobies as big as mine, not a good thing.
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