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Topic: Single dad with three girls
Oceansrun200's photo
Tue 03/29/11 07:24 PM
Mom out of state...pretends to want to be here but animals are too important in her life to come be a mom...tired of being alone...I need a new life after her affair......hard to go out to meet people when I'm home with the three...what do you think?

Totage's photo
Tue 03/29/11 07:26 PM
I think you have your hands full. GL

JulieMP's photo
Tue 03/29/11 07:28 PM
maybe decide what you want and do it. You can you know, even with three kids. Stop sulking and start living.

Oceansrun200's photo
Tue 03/29/11 07:32 PM
Just moved back here...got them in school..only been a few weeks..hard starting over...I know what you are saying..but it's harder than it seems..

seamac's photo
Tue 03/29/11 07:32 PM
Yes, you have your hands full with three children. Hire a baby sitter and go out once in a while, even just to a movie. We all need a little 'me' time.

Affair usually means a bad thing but you also sound like you want her to come back to help raise your children, sort of a short post loaded with questions we have no way to address based on what little you said.

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Tue 03/29/11 07:34 PM
If it's already hard for you to go out because you have 3 kids under your care, I'd say don't make it harder for you by getting a woman who would surely take a lot of your time and effort (much more energy laugh ).

What I'm trying to say is, you have to keep moving and refrain from thinking that everything is hard for you because of your situation. There are lots of people who are in the same boat but continue with life conveniently because they do something about it. Good luck flowerforyou

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Tue 03/29/11 07:35 PM
First thing is get established with your kids and where you live then take a hard long look within and decide what you want then get a divorce if that is what you want. One must get their life in order before trying to bring another into it.....I feel one should close one chapter before starting a new one.....whoa

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Tue 03/29/11 07:36 PM
If your having a hard time coping with the afair, get some counselling. My advice to you is , make sure to get some "me" time. I only have one (5 yr old son) and I love when I can go have dinner with friends or even shop by myself. HAng in there and stay strong.

Oceansrun200's photo
Tue 03/29/11 07:37 PM
She has came and visited after I flew her here for a week..all about drinking and vacation for her..I want someone to watch movies, go fishing, beaches,out to dinner...those old feelings weren't quite there.....hard to explain...

Totage's photo
Tue 03/29/11 07:39 PM

Just moved back here...got them in school..only been a few weeks..hard starting over...I know what you are saying..but it's harder than it seems..


Sounds like you should give yourself time to heal. Focus on you children and taking care of them, let yourself heal before getting into anything. Also, be there for your girls, and help them to heal as well.

Queene123's photo
Tue 03/29/11 07:45 PM
she no freaken mom if she thinks that the dang animals are more important than her own kids..

its time for you to finalize the divorce and start a new life
for the kids dont need her for she worthless as you already know that... if the kids arent in counsleing as yet i would advise it so that can help you as wellexplode mad pitchfork huh

Oceansrun200's photo
Tue 03/29/11 07:46 PM
You guys are pretty cool..it really helps to hear input from other people..I never saw myself in this position..always dated and had fun.... Just nice to take a break and reflect back on the big picture...

Queene123's photo
Tue 03/29/11 07:49 PM

You guys are pretty cool..it really helps to hear input from other people..I never saw myself in this position..always dated and had fun.... Just nice to take a break and reflect back on the big picture...


if you feel you need someone to talk to
just email me away
and if i dont get back to you right away just be patient

Oceansrun200's photo
Tue 03/29/11 07:56 PM
I will email..can't post pic yet .iPad won't allow..switch over to laptop shortly...

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Tue 03/29/11 08:03 PM
I understand your situation completely. I agree that you need to giv eyourself time to heal, and get over your relationship with her. Meanwhile make su reyou kids know you love them and they had NOTHING to do with this. These kind of situations cna effect them very much. If you need some advice(or just a friendly ear) message me and I'll see if I can help.

Oceansrun200's photo
Tue 03/29/11 08:06 PM
I will email..was just able to post a pic finally....

Queene123's photo
Tue 03/29/11 08:33 PM
i wrote a poem for you


http://mingle2.com/topic/show/299896

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Wed 03/30/11 01:45 AM


Just moved back here...got them in school..only been a few weeks..hard starting over...I know what you are saying..but it's harder than it seems..


Sounds like you should give yourself time to heal. Focus on you children and taking care of them, let yourself heal before getting into anything. Also, be there for your girls, and help them to heal as well.


I agree with Totage

first thing I felt after reading the OP is - this guy is still bitter - trash talking his ex in an OP when we all know there are 2 sides to every story - plus you sound more like you want a substitute mom than a love interest- dating a guy with kids is fine as long as he's not looking for a substitute mom

and has a full roster of babysitters handy

Serious drama risk

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Wed 03/30/11 01:48 AM

First thing is get established with your kids and where you live then take a hard long look within and decide what you want then get a divorce if that is what you want. One must get their life in order before trying to bring another into it.....I feel one should close one chapter before starting a new one.....whoa


Oh yeah OMG if he's not divorced yet he shouldn't even be on here In my way of thinking anyway

you really can't expect very many women - the kind you'd want anyway - to date you when you aren't divorced

marathahalli's photo
Wed 03/30/11 02:29 AM
hi

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