I don't date men with kids so I've never had that problem.

My daughter and son picked my matches, My daughter picked men with muscles and she actually picked the right man, and my son picked men that he thought would let him get away with things, so they normally had tattoo's and bikes.

That's what I intend on also.
Just because the kids might be grown and gone doesn't mean they won't attempt to butt into their Moms lives.

I have seen a few that have the gnads to tell their grown kids to butt out, it's her life and she'll do and she who she pleases.

just a warning

the pool of grown ups who have no CLOSE relations(and CLOSE relations of ANY type can lead to intrusiveness) is gonna be very slim,,,and probably not very socially adept,,,,

grown children have a close relationship with their parents, if they are lucky, that is no different than a close sibling or a close cousin, or even a close friend,,,,,all those relations have the POTENTIAL to butt in and often do when they feel CLOSE enough in their relationship,,,,

I consider myself close to my family as well, but they know that my personal life is none of their freaking business and vice versa.

If you're comfortable letting other people run your life and influence your decisions, that's great for you, but not the way I choose to live as an adult.

Yep, I avoid those people. I don't need drama and that's what it adds up to- drama. That and co-dependence, but we won't go into that here.

My kids want me to stay with together with there Dad and honestly I still have feeling for him just don't know why he wants to seperate, is he tired of the married life or me?

I guess it all comes down to respect on both side, everyone has to get on, so I wouldn't consider anyone who didnt fit in and find my chaotic household wonderful.

thats the rub, How ADULT are we?

if one is dating someone MATURE, they will do as you say and decide for themself, whether they are someones parent, or cousin, or best friend.


if you are not, you might find those who allow the opinions of their friends , or siblings, or parents, or cousins, or neighbors to dictate their lives


I just dont quite get why the assumption is automatically made about those who are parents that this will be the issue any more often then it is with others who have loved ones in their life

I would have to say that i was one of those kids who had to tell my mom who to date and who she couldnt flirt with, lol didnt make any diffrence to her.

Please keep in mind that while the children may not have a say in who you date or don't date, you also have to accept that they don't have to like the person just because you do.

I have a friend that didn't have anything to do with her mother for 3 years because she couldn't stand the mothers boyfriend. The mother adored her boyfriend but accepted that her daughter didn't. It's a rough decision but it's one that has to be made.