I was asked to deactivate my account by my last gf. She was afraid that if I was on Mingle then I was going around talking to other women. If I was talking to other women, then I must be entertaining the thought of moving on to someone else. Or, I was cheating on her.

She deactivated her account after meeting me. She felt I should do the same. BUT, she never told me she had deactivated. I had to discover it on my own. Therefore, by mentioning her deactivated account, I drew attention to the fact that my account was still active. Eventually, I deactivated to focus on her. She still accused me of cheating anyway, even after I deleted and blocked all but my closest contacts, and after I shut down all my dating site accounts. I was wrongly accused, but the seed of doubt may have originated from keep my Mingle account active.

That is what I was trying to point out.

As far as the fake/scammer, she wasn't one of them, but she might having been cheating on me instead. I know her boss' brother was interested in her, even though she denied it. I don't know....I didn't deserve it. But, I wasn't allowed to know details or to even defend myself. I'm very bitter about it.

Hence, just be careful, maganda-po. Walang anuman at magadang suwerte.

Yes I have decided to stay as i could not tell yet if my bf is true to me. Now I'm still open to meet other people.

Venus

Glad you decided to stay Honey!

Look at my number of posts....I got a lot...

But, I am happily with a woman who also plays on these threads.

It is great if you met a GOOD person here...now, you can meet really good friends who don't want or need anything from you....now, Mingle2 is your playground to talk to people from EVERYWHERE...you can experience peoples lives from places you will never visit.....and you will see that we are all a bunch of simple and good people who love to love and laugh.....

Except for the idiots who need drama....

You can deactivate and reactivate your account anytime. Mingle will forgive you. lol

Do you have a relationship with this person in real life or is it a new relationship online?

To Krupa:

Now if only I could stop being a drama magnet myself.

Live and learn, I guess.

Even though it is online, Mingle does create strong friendships. It is something I am grateful for.

I think you made the right choice, LadyVenus. Stay true to yourself.

someone from mingle will probably email you regarding your question about your account. As to the rest, everyone is different, if you have trusting and open communication and he says its not an issue than all that matters is if you feel comfortable in leaving or not.

unless or until a more official mutual commitment can be established, I wouldnt feel too much stress about keeping the account personally

if it gets to the level of an exclusive relationship, I would change my social status in my account or leave it completely,,,,but thats just me

I was wondering the same thing, do you live close enough to be with each other for dates etc or is it an online thing so far?

I am glad you choose to stay, as others have said people are here for many reasons. I am here for fun, friendships (which I have made many of) and sometimes for support. I pay no attention to the dating part of this site. Since your new boyfriend was on here he should be aware that this is much more than just a dating site and not be threatened by you being in touch with friends and spending some time in the forums.

Take this slowly, he sounds a bit controlling and jealous to me.

Best of luck to you, hope all goes well!

I met him here and we chat in yahoo and we email each other and have seen each other through web cam and have talk in the phone. Yes were miles away from each other. I just don't know now. I just said we have to break so i will not be disturbing you much from your work and he just let me go. I don't know next day or even tonight if her will communicate to me again.


Venus

I guess we have different ideas of "relationship", if it is just online then this is just the flirty stages and should have no effect on you seeing other people or having other online relationships. I thought that you were seeing the person as in physically there with them...

Relationship starts when you start waking up in the morning together...lol

Well that's your opinion i don't have to be physically present because i don't intend to be intimate physically but emotionally and mentally since we have a long distance relationship .TO be together? It will come but needs more time of getting to know each other well.

Ok....are you an insecure type person?

If your new neighbour four doors down, that you had become friendly with over the past month, moved their rubbish bin to inside their yard....would you feel compelled to do the same?

I sense a really clear lack of inner strength...a desire to please...and hand over your personal power rather quickly.

You have no commitment to this man, other than what YOU choose...he, nor anyone else can make that choice for you.

Meet in real life....he can meet you halfway, unless you have children, have coffee, dinner, a few outings, THEN see if you wish to pursue this further...

THEN decide on the level of commitment, YOU so wish to choose with this guy.

People always show themselves.