Hello just need some opinion here. I met my bf here in mingle about a month already and i saw he deactivated his account already. I asked him why he told me he deactivated his account so he can focus on me. I asked him if he wants me to deactivate my account to he just replied its up to me because its my life. I really feel compelled since he deactivated his account for me. DO i have too also? maybe just to give him chance and if it won't work will mingle allow me back with same account? lols

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Deactivating the account is up to you, the only thing I would suggest is to change your profile to show that you are in a relationship right now so no one gets the wrong idea. You might get some people who think you are single or your boyfriend runs across this and wonders about your relationship since you look like you are still on here looking for a relationship. Good Luck either way

I think you should explore what you and he have.. After all he left here for you, don't you think you owe him the same?

no many that are even married that have met on here,
still join in the forums
now if the guy gave you a choice you know there is more fish in the sea. but he said it was up to you..

nothing is wrong joining in the forums
posting stories, poems and so forth

everyone does that...

dont feel you have a choice or dont feel you have to
be forced for your not

when you deactivate your account
thats not a perm thing
for you can come back anytime
for many have done that

im sure you have made some friends on here
dont go away and make yourself feel miserable

Thats a rightious dude ya have there to leave that up to you..Because he is suggesting it your choice,,but probably also thinking in his mind,,WILL SHE do that for me....so HE wins at whatever you chose to do,,as to be unreadable through his thoughts,,,lol
Hey,,,IF he fits your mind as your guy,,,then why stay here?

Leave,,and yes,,IF you deactivate your account,,you can return under your present name when you re-activate it...

And who knows if he left for the reasons he said or if he left so you might not know his other female friends on here,,,wink,

HEY,,I'm just real here with someones ideas as to why they do things??

because,,I am a guy,,and have had EVERY issue there is on here WITH ALL THAT,,,lol

So I have walked this walk before,,many times..



Hey I like the last two lines your said. Ty


And to be real with you here,,IF I get involved with a lady and we become MORE,,,I don't come on here much at all,,or ANY sites,,my computer lays mostly,,,but,,THATS me?


Maybe he is that same way...and feels you might be offended if he stayed on here,,knowing he and you are now together.

Just keep it real with him,,and ask him to do that same,,and everything should be fine...Good Luck..with all of this and to your both finding happiness together

i left my account for 3 years and came back with no problems...

Deactivating the account is up to you, the only thing I would suggest is to change your profile to show that you are in a relationship right now so no one gets the wrong idea. You might get some people who think you are single or your boyfriend runs across this and wonders about your relationship since you look like you are still on here looking for a relationship. Good Luck either way

I might get some back lash for this but...

I think you opened a can of worms by bringing it up to him. You see, if he was sincere in why he deactivated his account, but did not tell you, then he probably made a personal decision without expecting you to do the same. Now that you have mentioned it, you have created an issue of trust. If he feels neglected or ignored, he will question you about your Mingle account from now on. No one should ask you to deactivate. If you do though, you will still be able to reactivate it later without a problem. Therefore, if you trust this guy - and believe he is sincere - then you probably should deactivate it now, only because you brought the topic up.

Some people on here are fakes/scammers. They often deactivate their accounts, or the Moderators shut them down instead. Therefore, he should have mentioned this to you to avoid any confusion. He did not. We don't know the whole story here. We have no right to ask, really. You know what you need to know, so you need to decide what is best based on that.


I'm really getting confused with the idea. But I think i just have to let my account stay here and if he ever ask me i will just tell him i am just here to meet good friends and not a relationship anymore. And its true i need him to trust me.


The only reason why I mention these things is because I went through something like this recently. It ended poorly. I still can only make educated guesses about the truth. So, I advise caution, but hope for the best.

Some people on here are fakes/scammers. They often deactivate their accounts, or the Moderators shut them down instead. Therefore, he should have mentioned this to you to avoid any confusion. He did not. We don't know the whole story here. We have no right to ask, really. You know what you need to know, so you need to decide what is best based on that.