alright, so i'm oficially confused to the point where I can't see straight. I have a friend who i've known for a good year, now, she knows I have feelings for her, hell, i spend half my day with her as it is. the problem is, that on somedays she makes me feel like if I have a chance, or like she feels the same way i do,on other das though, its as if she sees me as a friend and nothing else, is she messing with me, or are girls just naturally like that?

Have you asked her about this in the same way you are asking here? If not do so quickly. It will spare you prolonged confusion.

Women are notorious for having a "safe place" when things are not going well in their lives... someone they can run back to that cares for them while they lick their wounds.

yes, i did, her exact words were "I don't know"

so wait, smiles, you think im just her safe place then?

If she is giving mixed signals, I would say it is very possible.

What's more important is how you feel about this. If what she is doing (not knowing) then step back really, step back stay away for awhile and see what happens. I might be that it just isn't meant to be.

Oh yeah,,, and the "I don't know" crap is just that.. crap. When it comes to affairs of the heart,,, WE KNOW!

All smiles is right.

i thought as much. well, about this stepping back thing, what do you mean? like stop talking to her? or...?

She could be messing with you or flirting, buy her a small gift, see how she responds... nothing too expensive, you dont want to give the wrong impression.

yes just tell her that you need some time for yourself, see if she winds up missing you.Tell her that the way it is right now is too hard on your feelings.

You know what they say about setting someone free

You need to ask yourself why you are spending half your day with her to begin with. Is it that you are trying to develop something romantic and are trying to avoid the "out of sight, out of mind" issue? If you can be satisfied with merely being friends, then don't back off... just be careful.

um, i bought her sourskittles and ice cream (her favorite food) a few days ago, she was happy about it, but then said "you didn't have to" to which i replied, "i wanted to", at which point she pushed my hat down over my eyes and said " thanks E.T., appreciate it.

oh, smiles, she actually wakes me up around 10 am and asks me to go hang out with her,and thats where we start talking about random stuff

Her true intentions are unknown but I think we all know she is not romantically interested. It does not mean she doesn't value your friendship.

If it's hurting you...Tell her that if she does not feel the same about you, then you need some time to get rid of these feelings you have for her. And it would be great if she left you alone for a while.

Don't torture yourself or allow yourself to be tortured.

Good advice TOOL.

She sounds like a tease for the enjoyment of your behaviors towards her reactions of flirtations. You must confront her and ask her if she likes you as a lover or friend. But again lovers are often started as friends. Perhaps, she is in to you but too shy to express it but only to play games. Step up your games as well and ask her out to a nice dinner and moonlight walks in the park. Hold hands and say "woman you drive me crazy when you look at me like that, I enjoy being with you; can we give this a chance for more than just being friends". Good luck dude!