this is a good question

why men dont search others

this is a gay kind ?
if not
why we not making this ?

That's a great question. I'm going to have to think about it before I offer an opinion. I hope you get some good feedback.

tanks artlo...


is hard thinking about it
because we are not accustomed
and i'm here for know why this happens

Since this is not posted in the Dating and Relationship board, I assume you don't mean search for romantic relationship.

We may not know it but there could also be those men who search for male friends but is uncommon to us because there might be only a few of them and they don't announce it the way women do. As far as I remember I see some profiles of men which show male friends in their friend list.

Hope I got the question correctly, n3rdy.

Four or five of my very best friends in the world are men, but I certainly didn't seek them out. Rour or five of my second very best friends are women. The men, I know, will still be there till the day I die, no matter how much time passes between our contacts. The women, I'm not so sure.

I think the main reason is that this is a dating site so, unless you want to date a man why bother?

If men want to find male friends they would probably look in a place where other men with similar interests (over and above women) hang out.

Maybe that's just me. Either way, good luck to all the men out there!

I think that's true for the vast majority of men on this site. But, many of us are really only here to make pen pals. Or is that true? I love to flirt, and there is always that little thought in the back of my mind saying, "Maybe a miracle might happen with this one". Knowing one's own mind can be a very difficult thing.

personally i just dont like most men.

we learn how to search for friends from a very young age and most people looking for a partner probably already have a circle of friends. so a dating site serves another purpose to most. i do know however, that by participating in the forums, very good friendships, within and between both sexes, form. probably more often than finding a partner.

lonely mens
true
we wanna find other persons but just girls because we are lonely. virtual need.

I'll second that!

Good analysis!

I don't think that women "search" for other women just to make friends either! It's most likely that they want to date a woman.

All female friends on my list are a direct result of interacting with them in the Forums

interesting answers


good job -

I do not know about anyone else but I do not search for friends, friendship is something that just happens over time. On here there will people that you will notice who post on the same threads as you do (either before or after your post) and they will be saying the same thing as you are thinking. Maybe they said it good enough that you do not feel that you need to post because it is like you already posted...lol. This may not be the "friendship" that you are asking about though, this is more of an online only friendship. With guys nothing really needs to be said, IMO...lol Like me or don't like me, that is not my problem...but if you go around asking guys to be friends you might find some are turned away because of miscommunication (homophobic).

well as somebody else says 'its a dating site '
unless that guy is gay then he will wanna befriend males .....

most males on here have male friends assuming they interact with them in the forum .....just like myself all my friends and i do mean all ....are active in the forum .

but if a guy just randomly choose a -straight- male on a dating site and send him a friend request ...then he might get block or put on ignore lol ....but if that random person is bi curious them you just did him a favor .....

I think it's because that if I guy wants to have more male friends, all he has to do is go to the local pub, when the game is on, and start talking sports. (Maybe buy a round)

When I first started online dating I searched an read a lot of men's profiles. But, I wasn't looking for friends. I wanted to see how I stacked up compared to the others. Also, I wanted to learn how to make my profile stand out.

I meet all my new male friends standing next to them at the urinal.

You're in competition with George Michael, eh?