I think it just fun to meet and chat with others its not like i'm hooking up with anyone.

Depends on how much you respect her wishes.

I mean...your profile does state you are looking for more.

It's really fun to meet and chat, that's true. You can surely emphasize in your profile that you are not hooking up because you already have someone. Tell your girl about your desire to just mingle and she'd understand... better yet, let her join us too

yeah friends are ok not relationship

I see what you mean.

i think shes paranoid or feels guilty but i'm jaded and self important....

men stay where they want to stay and stray when they want to stray..so do women it it what it is

She probably has a account here and i just dont know about it HHmmmmmmm

I've been on this club for years and have not 'hooked up' with anyone. I just like the forums.

I didn't cancel my account on here when I was dating someone, I was very open about it and he trusted me. Simply put, I won't date someone that puts restrictions on me because they don't trust me. This is a site you can chat with just friends. Now if you were on Match.com or Eharmony.com, something like that... where you're pursuing a relationship, that's an entirely different matter.
IMO, if she's paranoid about this, she will be paranoid about more things to come.

I'm not trying to breed jealousy but if its becoming a problem and you want to( or are being asked to) distance yourself from appropriate sociability then obviously ya'll have lost some sense of each other and you need to talk with each other.

keep in mind i did say appropriate...if you flirt by nature she should be accepting of that, its probably part of what started the relationship in the first place....but i i know neither of you from adam before or during the relationship you got my knee jerk reaction

and being on mingle is more like being a regular at a bar...after a while you just know everybody and its comfortable

Create an account together. She may like meeting new people too and then you can share the experience. That way she can see that its all very innocent.

And I checked out your profile, it says you're just looking for friends, you're pretty clear on that. Maybe you could add a sentence or 2, stating you are in relationship and you're really only looking to chat and friendship. That's what I did when I was in a relationship.
If she's doing things tho like having fake accounts to monitor what you're doing, that's pretty creepy and a big giant red flag.

Trying to figure out how you being here has ANYTHING to do with cheating.

Who the hell is "SHE"?

If "she" has an account here...so friggen what? So do you.

What the friggen hell is the question?

and another thing to mention... I have found usually, not always of course, but USUALLY when you have 1 person that's jealous, paranoid, accusing of cheating of trying to cheat... it's USUALLY from a guilty conscience because that person is already cheating, so assumes that you are as well. JMO

wow thanks love the responses.

With all due respect to the OP...I agree with this. Personally I would feel disrespected if I was in a relationship and the other says "Wide open spaces need someone to share it with as your headline and well....you changed what was in your profile. You did have that you were looking for friends and possibly more.

I would have no problem if the other was here to chat and make friends but you are giving off the impression that you are looking for more and are with her until you find better.

This might be why she isn't happy about it. Just be open and honest and let her see on your profile that you aren't looking for more than chat or friends.

JMO

uh oh...surely hopes this is not the case. Good luck to your relationship kernturner. Still be fair to her and to yourself. cheer up!

she is abit insecure .....she thinks you might find someone on here after all this is an dating site ....but if your minds and intentions are pure , then she has no need to worry ....she will come around ,if not delete the goddamn account which is more important ????

he needs permission to defy his girlfriend's wishes

Well I have no problem with my man being on here, and he doesnt have a problem with me being on here,
BUT..
Both our profiles are very clear that we are taken, my feelings would definately change if he had that he was looking for someone to share the wide open spaces with him, If I went to his profile now and saw that, he would definately need to start looking for someone else to share them with
Hmmm so as long as everyone knows he's mine, i am fine..