agreed. I gave in on some pretty important stuff for years & years in my my last relationship- so when some things came up & I stood my ground, my ex wasn't ready for that

Oh, I don't think anyone really ever drops it. I think it lurks in the subconscious or not so subconscious and comes back later, especially if the person dropping the issue was right to begin with.

I guess it kinda depends if the issue is more important than your relationship. In my opinion, good relationships depend upon communication, honesty, commitment and compromise...

All agruments should be constructive (healthy), and handled in a way where both partners feel acknowledged and understood. You are not going to agree on everything.

Only you can decide this for yourself, if you compromise who you are, it's just as bad as blowing an issue out of proportion and destroying a relationship just to be "the winner"...

Good luck to you!

$.02

agreed - that's why what good guy said is so important, i think

there has to be some kind of acknowledgement of understanding - no pouting, no games, no trying to Win" - your love relationship with your partner is not a competition

at the end of the day, if u treat it like one - using competitive instead of cooperative speech (i.e. trying to be "right" rather than trying to find solutions) that's when those resentments start simmering in the background

in my experience that's very destructive and lurks behind negative stuff like refusing sex, cold shoulders and other passive agressive behaviors

Bout damn time woman!

Hmmm Well i love them and I hate argueing ,
but, no way am i going to act like it was my fault
I just want to talk about it, work it out and be happy
I cant see that there is any need to fight over anything if we talk about whatever is bothering us.
That way its fixed before it is a problem or an arguement.

Amen to that

Damn! I guess I'll never win!