Is it bad for a gal to be opinionated?

I always thought it was a good thing to be direct, because then the guy knows you aren't playing games and understands you.

Apparently, I have been informed by my family that it is very unattractive?

Could anybody clear this up?

I feel like I am getting brain damage.

Typically to be opinionated means to be obstinate or conceited with regard to the merit of one's own opinions; conceitedly dogmatic.

So yes, I can see how it's found unattractive.. To have beliefs and stand for those beliefs is different..

Being direct and being opinionated are not the same thing...


Being honest and stating things honestly but hopefully with 'tact' something different as well and much more attractive...

I like chicks that are up front. I don't like being expected to read someones mind. I have a hard enough time with my own.........

YA Be (HONEST)

You make a solid point, and I probably have been guilty a time or two of doing that when I was younger. However, my family's whole deal is that I don't agree with their opinions, so I should just not speak unless spoken to.

Then they are the opinionated ones no?

Shhhh you aren't supposed to speak! Pointing out they are wrong is too much honesty, they will gather a mob and burn you at the stake!

I'm sure they'll have to get in line...

My mother, bless her, has told me that she still loves me no matter what. But that my sisters double up on anti-depressants when I visit.

She is convinced its why I don't have more grandchildren for her to dote on.

Don't let anyone make you feel like your thoughts don't matter.. Don't act in an arrogant way you'll regret when you look back.. Not a full circle piece of advice but something I've learned as I've gotten older and looked back...

NOPE,,,,,


WOMEN ALWAYS tell me where to GO,,,,,




well,,,,,, they do ya know??

Back in the 20's maybe. Women were expected to be idiots who only knew how to cook and pop out kids. That is why they were not allowed to vote. Men considered them to be stupid.

Further back, any woman who would speak out and be too opinionated was executed by the church.

Women who talked back to their husbands were forced to wear a torture device over their face that prevented them from speaking.

Today, if a man thinks a woman should not have any opinions, he is probably an insecure macho creep.

An outspoken woman will sometimes scare a man away, but only a man who is not as intelligent or strong as her.

How's that for an opinion.

Thanks, I don't think I have really thought about every thing that pops out of the old 'motor mouth' in quite a while. Maybe I should start.

I like you very much.

Thanks!!!

Opinionated people are better than someone who just blindly agrees with you. Personally I would like to find someone who can handle a stimulating conversation, play a little devil's advocate just to get things stirred up. But there is a difference between arguing and a difference of opinion, as long as you are not crossing the line into arguing then it is all good I would think.

Having strong opinions is perfectly acceptable as long as you can be humble enough to realize that the nature of an opinion it that it does not necessarily hold any validity.

So basically you are saying you are full of chit........

Whateva! I do what I want!

I'll drink to that!! There is definitely a difference and the lack of being able to distinguish the difference between the two can be difficult for some.