From my experience, being shy is a tough one. Becaused shy people don't like eye contact, people get the wrong idea and don't trust them, even though they may be a beautiful person. I am looking for experiences that shy people have dating and in the real world. Back when I was younger, the women loved shy men because of their meek personality. Nowadays, shyness is a terrible thing to be. I am shy myself, but I am capable of speaking my mind if I have to or pushed to. Experiences please !!! Thanx.

My experience is that shy people are often passed over because the second party doesn't realize there is an attraction...or neither realize the potential or present attraction..and then there is that pesky self doubt.

But I agree, its a rough deal to meet people if you are shy....a lot of good gets passed over

Oh rats,
I am just hopeless


As a child I was horribly shy, i grew up in the bush and didnt have to deal with people.

As a young adult I learnt to just laugh at everthing, that way as long as I was smiling and laughing i didnt have to think about who i was talking to. now in a group I still do the same thing, Yep i always smile, constantly. that way noone knows what is hapening inside.

The more nervous i get the more i smile. so when I meet someone I smile,
i smile constantly throughthe day as i deal with people and by the end of a busy day i am just about smiled out, but i smile naturally anyway, so it is sort of just frozen on my face.

i can get through almost any situation and look people in the eye, but if they make me nervious I will start to giggle, if i hurt myself i giggle, if they upset me i giggle, and if i get mad, i giggle, Which is so frustrating.

The only time I have had trouble lately and not been able to hide it . was when I had to meet anaconda, then i couldnt look at him, such a bummer, as i got really shy.

I guess the hardest time for me was in america as not only did I have to deal with meeting new people, but i was away from everything i knew, all the things that i could normally talk about to fill in gaps didnt work as you are all different, and it wouldnt have worked to talk like I do here. So over there it was hard to be me as i couldnt work out who i was so couldnt relax, except at home.

So yep being shy sucks big time. I hate it and that it still affects me , even though i can make myself deal with it most of the time.

I guess to get through it, I make sure i talk to everyone first, i smile, and chat,no matter what.

Being shy isn't really a "bad thing". What is bad about being shy is allowing it to dominate your whole life. Every aspect of it. You can't do that.

You can be a confident shy person. People can sense when you don't feel confident, or good about who you are. But if you are shy, and when someone speaks to you, you can look them in the eye and give a confident response, then being shy works. It tells people that while you might not eagerly start a conversation, or say hello to someone that passes by, if they speak to you you will give them a firm, confident response.

But your eyes were so blue and your smile was wounderful, and it was the cutest giggle I had ever heard, and you did take a good look at me before the giggle. I loved it! And the looking away and giggles didn't last long, soon you were always looking at me. But you never lost that giggle, I love it!

The quite ones are always up to something.......

Just imagine everybody in their underwear. No wait. That's for people who have stage fright. Probably wouldn't work here.

thank you

I've always been shy, especially when I was young. always had a hard time meeting people (women ). I think that's one reason I drank a lot when I was young, wasn't nearly as shy when I was drunk. as a matter of fact you couldn't hardly shut me up

Me too. I just had to get to a point where I figured that there is nothing to lose.

I know and you didnt make me feel bad, Thank you

I am shy in some situations and in other I can be very confident. I mean I am very secure in myself but I know that´s not always the opinion other people have of me. Mostly my shyness is of the opposite sex and I think I haven´t got anything to offer, feeling ugly, fat and finding no reason why they shouldn´t pick the other guy. So I get introverted and just kind of give up.

But when I meet a shy girl I often find her interesting and want to know more about her. I know it makes no sense...Just some random thoughts...

Hmm shy eh? Does not compute for me.. Nothing shuts me up ever.. my friends call me up and tell me they are stopping by but dont have much time to talk ...I think it's a sign, they would like to get a word in. But I do find shy kinda sexy!

I'm the kind of shy that everyone around me seems to fear. At some point I managed to procure the title 'that creepy chick with the sunglasses and boots'. I rarely am able to look a person in the eye, and when I do, my height apparently presents me looking up at them in a rather intimidating manner, only accompanied by this terrifying gaze I seem to adopt whenever I'm nervous.
I can relate to any shy person in the sense that I'm either completely out of the woodwork and no one knows about me, or someone's interpreted my behaviour in a very inaccurate way, leaving me looking like some scary, world-hating pesimist.
From my experiences, however, I've found that it's always important to be able to express yourself honestly. If only for a second and if only to one person, doing this can greatly increase your chances of people starting to talk to you in a way that lets you talk back.
I was lucky enough to wander into a group of 'alternatives' in high school--a group of kids that basically has at least one stereotype from every subculture. While I was too shy to really speak out around them for the first week or so, I eventually managed to scribble my name on the door that presented all of their signatures (which for them apparently accounted for an iniciation) and that action alone immediately seemed to break the ice.
While I'm still shy around people I meet, I try to remember how that one sudden action managed to break the ice so easily and I try to act accordingly on that memory.