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| Topic: Who is real, Blk Men or Women? | |
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People like who they like and want what they want. I imagine older women who take care of themselves and those who take care of children want a man who is not going to be another responsibility. And these same women expect a "partner after the fact" (the man who becomes involved with a woman who already has kids) to absorb ALL of the responsibility for a child or children that are not theirs! That is pure bull since they are putting responsibilities not of teh man upon their partner. Men with children act differently in that men who do raise their own generally will not put the responsibility on others! Not true in ALL cases but true in most! Its usually about being at a similar place in your life. Someone who has done the work and provided their own needs probably is more interested in another person at that same point in their life than someone they will have to also lift up to being self sufficient. And yet the real fact is that the mathematical chances of someone being on the same level as one is financially is staggeringly against! I came across this before. This thinking is also total BULL! I have been involved with women with no job and others with a job. Worst is when a woman suddenly is the greater bread winner and suddenly the man has to make more becasue she feels so. Success does not come to people at the same time. If she is "financially stable" but he is busting his azz to get ahead and she is mad at that SHE is at fault! it shows people do not share success! Suddenly HE becomes worthless to her and she seeks out the "better man" based on wallet size! I see this way too often. Fact: MOST people are just fuqued up self indulgent shitte heads. FACT: FAMILY VALUES AS WE KNOW THEM HAVE BEEN DESTROYED! who mentioned the same financial level? I only mentioned being at a similar point. How often will someone want to REPEAT the work they have done for themself with someone else? I am not talking about making the same amount of money, I am talking about being similarly independent. I am talking about someone who is going to be an ASSET to what is already there and not another burden. Having kids has alot of responsibility attached; financial and emotional Single parents of both genders take it all on, BUT , USUALLY, once single parents become a couple they no longer have to take it ALL ON by themself, so Im not sure what responsibility you are talking about putting on others. Same point or financial level, same difference! not quite from my perspective anyhow someone who is independent making 40,000 a year, who takes care of themselves and their financial obligations (like say a teacher) in my perspective would be at the same point (in their life) as someone who took care of themself and their financial obligations making 70,000 per year(like say a ceo) its not likely someone who had done the work to become independently living as a teacher would want to take on someone who was still having their bills paid or laundry done by their parents,,,,, similarly, someone who had done the maturing necessary to be responsible for someone else (like say a responsible single parent) might not wish to take on someone who was still in a stage of life that was all about them (like say a 'player',,,) or that someone who had done the work to become 'self sufficient' would wish to regress back to waiting on someone who still had work to do,,,, there are many examples of being at the same point in life that arent about a specific income amount at all... You are taking this point to the most extreme angles you can go to! There is a difference between a panty waste looser who lives with mommy and daddy vs. someone with a life. You want an extreme, hell lets get extreme. How ludicrous is it for someone no name no body like me to become involved with a celebrity? I live a private life, a celebrity lives in the public eye. I would not want to live in the public eye. Likewise where one person has money flowing to them I have to fight for every dollar! Want to talk about a weird situation or extremes, here you go! Now if she really wanted to be with me BOTH of us would have to adapt. If I was the ONE person on this planet she trusted and I lived my life to uphold that trust but I still was having a hell of a time making money the adaptation would be she would subsidize me. But again there would have to be a performance standard on my end to uphold her trust. But what does trust matter to someone who has money now? Sorry but there is a huge hole in your stand! On top of that people change and worst is the changes women make when they get older. The older a women gets the more control hungry they get and that is a generalization I WILL STICK BY! Not every woman is control hungry but still this is one generalization I will stick by since I have lived it! I am hesitant to date women over 30. my cut off age is 35. I will date women around 30 but my days of women my age and older women are OVER! I want a serious relationship with room to grow. Not one where I have to wear a leash or lead someone around! Not one where I have to be Mr. Perfect, not one where I have to fit social expectation. Us men need recognition too but lately we seem to not get a whole hell of a lot of that. Worst is this whole combativeness between men and women is such BULLSHITTE to me! Cottontails of any gender SUCK SO HARD THEY SWALLOW! I have my ideas and I have my standards as well like anyone else. I would love to find the perfect woman for me but... I wish in one hand and shitte in the other which one will fill up first???? 
And there in lies the root of my personal frustration!
And I am done compromising! so are most people, which is why they choose partners based upon who is COMPATIBLE , at similar points in their life, and going in a similar direction WITH their life adaptation is a two way street, but it should be as equal as possible if one is having to do 80 percent of the adapting to someone else or adapting means REGRESSING more than PROGRESSING, there is usually going to be a compatibility issue in short, if one has been there, they usually dont want to return, but to find others that have been there to move forward with |
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What CEO makes only 70k? Thats a pretty bad company XD.
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What CEO makes only 70k? Thats a pretty bad company XD. exactly! 
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What CEO makes only 70k? Thats a pretty bad company XD. bad example,,,perhaps a small business manager |
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