My boyfriend brokeup with me about three weeks ago because we were to different. Just as I was accepting him for the way he was...Cold...he wanted to "take a break". I asked if he was breaking up with me, he said "yeah". After crying, telling him how much I loved him he told me I had to understand and we could still be friends. I didn't try to contact him in any way. I had time to think everything over and was prepared for when he called me two days later. I was composed and positive which he respected a lot since he has a past of girls going psycho on him. In the three weeks apart I've been keeping busy, still leaving it to him to keep contact. He gives me gifts, like a TV, and calls me regularly, even visits my house now and then. I don't know if it's guilt, that he still has feeling's for me, or if he just wants sex, or something else. Id like to get back together if he does, but it may be to soon. There is no resentment between us.

Am I doing the right thing by giving him space and being friendly, or am I stuck as his "friend" forever when I still have feelings for him? Are the gifts...etc...a sigh he is still interested? Any advice is

Sorry...Advice is welcome!

Sounds like he's using you for a booty call. And paying for it with those "gifts".

Do yourself a favor.
Give him up, take time to get over him and find yourself a new man.

Jerks are a dime a dozen.

A good man is one in a million.

Find you that one in a million.

Some guys never realize what they have until it's gone

BUT ALOT of guys know what they got and they just think she'll never leave

checked out your profile and if those pictures are really you and he broke up with you. he's gay

We haven't been physical since we broke up though... He hasn't asked for anything...yet.

Yeah, that's me. Lol, I donno if hes gay...maybe?

I had a similar situation, He finally admitted that he just wanted "a friend with benefits" and was afraid to tell me. Yeah, real gem, that one. Don't be bitter , Be Better :)

Can't get a real grasp on the whole situation from the story, but I would say move on. If you can still maintain a friendship that's great, if he wants FWB I think that's disrepectful towards you.

The "girls going psycho" part worries me....There has to be a reason. Either he hooks up with a lot of women with problems (i.e. he has poor judgment), or he finds a way to burn his bridges.

The gifts also worry me. If he wants to be with you exclusively, he should have already come out with it. Instead it is like he is trying to buy your affection, hoping maybe you will put some moves on him so he can get some nookie. Then when he dumps you again, he can point the finger saying that you made the move, not him.

I dunno. This smells like a sincerity issue, especially since he is giving you mixed signals instead of being straightforward. I would call his bluff, and see how he responds. If women usually flip out on him, then he probably isn't a smooth talker when under the gun....He'll probably just dig himself a hole instead.

Thank you for your advice and perspective on my situation. I take it to heart.

Real men don't throw away a good thing. If he really wanted you, he would be up your butt and you would be asking for 'space'.

Remember where your backbone is girl! Tell Mr. Fraid-of-normal-girls to take a hike.

I got nothing to gain here so I will say what no one else is saying...

You are being used.

I don't care if he has eyes like a baby chimp and a magic penis.

You are being played and kept on the side...

You are a fall back option and the "Gifts" (hookers would demand cash)..will ensure that you will keep him open as an option.

If you are one of the people who don't mind being kept on a string and used for when his other options are running thin....keep on crying....you will be used.

I would use you. I could do it for less than a T.V. or whatever crap that little dikd manslut is paying to keep you waiting in the wings for.

I got a monster dik and can use nothing more than that and words you want to hear to keep you waiting and willing to put up with me banging whichever ginch I chose....(Did it in my past so..I know what I am saying)

If you don't mind being used....keep doing what you are doing.

Personally...I don't settle.

You are gorgeous and reasonably intelligent from what little I have read from you....

DEMAND no less than what you are worth.

If you are willing to settle for being used...pencil me into your schedule and I will turn you out.

You, Mr. Krupa, are a very bad man. Honest, but bad.

I'd go for being penciled in for sloppy seconds if she was at least 20 years older.

When he broke off with you,,,he also ruled out ANY ""MORE"" deeper with you and him,,,,so NOW,,,you've become his FWB...and his gifts (MAKE HIM FEEL HE'S NOT JUST USING YOU) but in his mind,,,thats all you are to him,,,sorry Krupa called it like I see it to,,,IF your hearts into him,,,,you need to take it back out,,,because HE'S a user and hurter for any REAL COMPASSIONS to get to be MORE with him....Good luck finding this out on your own,,as I am sure in your own way,,you will...I just hope this lightens the deepness you had for him...

Naw....She is a little old for my tastes..if she was 10 year younger and I was 8 years older........maybe


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Short and sweet here. He is tapping another chick. I mean, if he isn't tapping you, then he is hitting another chick. The gifts, the talks, the friendship....it's all to keep you interested in him and hopeful that he will come back. And guess what. He could come back....if the other chick he is banging doesn't work out. He will come running right back to you with "Baby. I was stupid. I messed up. I did not realize what I had, and now I do. Please. I want us to try again". My two cents, but that is how I see it.

How about stop trying to figure out what he wants and actually do what you want. It's understandable that you want him back. But there is no sense driving yourself nuts trying to figure him out when you have yourself to take care of. And that alone goes for anyone.