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Topic: Is it good to date out of your state
hunter5169 Joined Fri 01/07/11 Posts: 138	Thu 01/27/11 09:39 AM
no not really but so far that might be my olny option lol hell I dont think there are any women in Kansas that are ever online on this site. they all have the not been on here for a month thing on thier profiles, did have one nudge me the other day but after sending her an email the olny thing that came back was another nudge lol. oh well lol. I guess if I will drive over a hundred miles to hunt or fish a spot I might beable to bring myself to go on a date out of state. your generosity is under-whelming if you want a loving, lasting relationship to work it has to be a greater priority than your hobbies whether locally or long distance I have been on both sides of that equation so I know it's true lol read the topic,I think it says DATE,,,, oh ya my hobbys as you call them will always be there but a DATE is olny a one time deal..... sometimes a date is a one time deal, and sometimes it turns into more. Whether it does or not cannot be predicted at the outset - usually. So you cannot always know that it prolly always will be one time for you as no woman is going to want to play second fiddle to a hunting rifle. But if you want something lasting as I said (read MY post) you will have to think a little differently. I have hobbies that are really important to me also so I understand that. But judging from how you say what you say, - not necessarily what you say - I would not be interested in someone with your attitude - and you prolly would see me as too demanding and high maintenance because I would actually expect to have priority over a hunting trip... just love how you can pridict my future, and this topic has nothing to do with anything lasting it asked about DATEING lol now dont let the fact that Im a hunter/gun owner cloud your jugment of me.I did read your profile and you are not a match for me lol. but that doesnt mean that I dont like you ,for you see all I know about you is what I have read on here,and how can a sane person make any kind of judgement from that ? and no you wouldnt have priority over a hunting trip if all you are is a DATE, now if you were a wife or shackup then maybe,and thats a strong maybe .

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Thu 01/27/11 09:41 AM
thats kinda something you have to decide on your own. This.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Thu 01/27/11 09:50 AM
no not really but so far that might be my olny option lol hell I dont think there are any women in Kansas that are ever online on this site. they all have the not been on here for a month thing on thier profiles, did have one nudge me the other day but after sending her an email the olny thing that came back was another nudge lol. oh well lol. I guess if I will drive over a hundred miles to hunt or fish a spot I might beable to bring myself to go on a date out of state. your generosity is under-whelming if you want a loving, lasting relationship to work it has to be a greater priority than your hobbies whether locally or long distance I have been on both sides of that equation so I know it's true lol read the topic,I think it says DATE,,,, oh ya my hobbys as you call them will always be there but a DATE is olny a one time deal..... sometimes a date is a one time deal, and sometimes it turns into more. Whether it does or not cannot be predicted at the outset - usually. So you cannot always know that it prolly always will be one time for you as no woman is going to want to play second fiddle to a hunting rifle. But if you want something lasting as I said (read MY post) you will have to think a little differently. I have hobbies that are really important to me also so I understand that. But judging from how you say what you say, - not necessarily what you say - I would not be interested in someone with your attitude - and you prolly would see me as too demanding and high maintenance because I would actually expect to have priority over a hunting trip... just love how you can pridict my future, and this topic has nothing to do with anything lasting it asked about DATEING lol now dont let the fact that Im a hunter/gun owner cloud your jugment of me.I did read your profile and you are not a match for me lol. but that doesnt mean that I dont like you ,for you see all I know about you is what I have read on here,and how can a sane person make any kind of judgement from that ? and no you wouldnt have priority over a hunting trip if all you are is a DATE, now if you were a wife or shackup then maybe,and thats a strong maybe . well there u have it. A date to me is a first impression. As such if it is not a priority I would not be inclined to believe that any future activity would be either. Because I never believe words unless actions support them. I have actually canceled a date when it became apparent that the date was not the man's priority, (I thing the poor guy is still in shock, w/e) but this is me- at least we are both being honest about what we need and can or cannot give First impressions and all... The most important impression you make - if you lose there. you lose. Good luck to you - we can all use a little of that!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 01/27/11 09:56 AM
no not really but so far that might be my olny option lol hell I dont think there are any women in Kansas that are ever online on this site. they all have the not been on here for a month thing on thier profiles, did have one nudge me the other day but after sending her an email the olny thing that came back was another nudge lol. oh well lol. I guess if I will drive over a hundred miles to hunt or fish a spot I might beable to bring myself to go on a date out of state. your generosity is under-whelming if you want a loving, lasting relationship to work it has to be a greater priority than your hobbies whether locally or long distance I have been on both sides of that equation so I know it's true lol read the topic,I think it says DATE,,,, oh ya my hobbys as you call them will always be there but a DATE is olny a one time deal..... sometimes a date is a one time deal, and sometimes it turns into more. Whether it does or not cannot be predicted at the outset - usually. So you cannot always know that it prolly always will be one time for you as no woman is going to want to play second fiddle to a hunting rifle. But if you want something lasting as I said (read MY post) you will have to think a little differently. I have hobbies that are really important to me also so I understand that. But judging from how you say what you say, - not necessarily what you say - I would not be interested in someone with your attitude - and you prolly would see me as too demanding and high maintenance because I would actually expect to have priority over a hunting trip... For a first date, I would not expect to have priority over anything that's already scheduled. However, if they decided on a date with me, then schedule something the same day to go do instead, that's not a great sign.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Thu 01/27/11 01:24 PM
no not really but so far that might be my olny option lol hell I dont think there are any women in Kansas that are ever online on this site. they all have the not been on here for a month thing on thier profiles, did have one nudge me the other day but after sending her an email the olny thing that came back was another nudge lol. oh well lol. I guess if I will drive over a hundred miles to hunt or fish a spot I might beable to bring myself to go on a date out of state. your generosity is under-whelming if you want a loving, lasting relationship to work it has to be a greater priority than your hobbies whether locally or long distance I have been on both sides of that equation so I know it's true lol read the topic,I think it says DATE,,,, oh ya my hobbys as you call them will always be there but a DATE is olny a one time deal..... sometimes a date is a one time deal, and sometimes it turns into more. Whether it does or not cannot be predicted at the outset - usually. So you cannot always know that it prolly always will be one time for you as no woman is going to want to play second fiddle to a hunting rifle. But if you want something lasting as I said (read MY post) you will have to think a little differently. I have hobbies that are really important to me also so I understand that. But judging from how you say what you say, - not necessarily what you say - I would not be interested in someone with your attitude - and you prolly would see me as too demanding and high maintenance because I would actually expect to have priority over a hunting trip... For a first date, I would not expect to have priority over anything that's already scheduled. However, if they decided on a date with me, then schedule something the same day to go do instead, that's not a great sign. of course, I agree, but to schedule a first date when one has other important plans is not the best course of action. Nor would I expect pre scheduled plans to be pre empted for me. Not at all. Heavens I'm not THAT self centered. I simply view a first date as a first impression.

RainbowTrout Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 13869	Thu 01/27/11 01:40 PM
I think it depends on what state you are in when you get there. If you have been driving for a long while and haven't gotten pulled over you might want to check into a hotel first. Take a long hot shower and get some much needed sleep. Then when you wake up change clothes and see if you are able to walk first without falling down. If you stagger to her front door in the middle of the night and her neighbours don't know you chances are you might get an escort to the local jail. Worse off is if she has had a stalker and you didn't know about it; You might get shot on site before she finds out it was you.

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Thu 01/27/11 01:58 PM
If I found love in another state I would not turn away from it just because of the distance.

FETTS61 Joined Sat 08/18/07 Posts: 31425	Thu 01/27/11 02:08 PM
i have dated out of my state, she was an amazing woman. would i do it again? YES! There are pros and cons to LDRs, if youre on the same page with the other person, then it can work. the distance can also drive you apart no matter what you feel for one another. So youve gotta ask yourself if that is a chance youre willing to take

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Thu 01/27/11 02:15 PM
I don't see why not if the honesty an trust is there it will work out for both parties

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 01/27/11 02:28 PM
of course, I agree, but to schedule a first date when one has other important plans is not the best course of action. Nor would I expect pre scheduled plans to be pre empted for me. Not at all. Heavens I'm not THAT self centered. I simply view a first date as a first impression. Yes, it definitely is a first impression.

seamac Joined Sun 03/22/09 Posts: 3104	Thu 01/27/11 04:21 PM
For me it is "Chat globally, date locally". So I agree with the poster who already said this... I know long distance works for a lot of people, in fact one of my ex's met the women he now lives with on line. (good luck to her!) For me it is to complicated and to expensive. I haven't seen my son in over three years due to money, job schedules etc so how would I have those things to see a long distance date. If it does become serious, then what? Someone leaves their job, home, friends, maybe near by family too and moves. I wouldn't do that and wouldn't expect someone to do it for me. So since the question is about dating out of state as opposed to keeping an established relationship that becomes long distance (for any number of reasons) I wouldn't do it. By the way my late husband was an avid hunter, besides his many day trips he always took an 11 day hunting trip that included, by chance, Thanksgiving and often my birthday. I not only encouraged him to go but shopped and sent him with lots of food and lots of dry socks!! There was never a doubt I was a priority over his hunting so it was easy to give him my blessings that he enjoy another love. I know this isn't exactly to the point...just saying...

winterblue56 Joined Sun 12/12/10 Posts: 2465	Thu 01/27/11 04:31 PM
So since the question is about dating out of state as opposed to keeping an established relationship that becomes long distance (for any number of reasons) I wouldn't do it. By the way my late husband was an avid hunter, besides his many day trips he always took an 11 day hunting trip that included, by chance, Thanksgiving and often my birthday. I not only encouraged him to go but shopped and sent him with lots of food and lots of dry socks!! There was never a doubt I was a priority over his hunting so it was easy to give him my blessings that he enjoy another love. I know this isn't exactly to the point...just saying... Very nicely spoken by alot of people. I also would not expect anyone to move for me. My family and friends are very important and I would hope they would be for someone that I might consider my partner.

seamac Joined Sun 03/22/09 Posts: 3104	Thu 01/27/11 04:42 PM
So since the question is about dating out of state as opposed to keeping an established relationship that becomes long distance (for any number of reasons) I wouldn't do it. By the way my late husband was an avid hunter, besides his many day trips he always took an 11 day hunting trip that included, by chance, Thanksgiving and often my birthday. I not only encouraged him to go but shopped and sent him with lots of food and lots of dry socks!! There was never a doubt I was a priority over his hunting so it was easy to give him my blessings that he enjoy another love. I know this isn't exactly to the point...just saying... Very nicely spoken by alot of people. I also would not expect anyone to move for me. My family and friends are very important and I would hope they would be for someone that I might consider my partner. Exactly!!! If you have similar life styles, ie. that family, friends, job, home etc are important...it begs the question who is going to walk away from it all and move? So why even have a first date with some far away? This has come up for me on a number of occasions and my answer is always the same, even when it meant not pursuing a friendship to see if it might be more. I count my friends as blessings so I don't see this as a lose. I see it as adding and keeping a friend.