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If I was involved with you(ladies only)
Like lets say that I and you started dating and it turned into a relationship....Now your job took you away for two or three days each week,,,,well, I have some friends both men and women who stop by to see me,,,some to just talk some to drink a few drinks with and talk. Now YOU confront me about them and I tell you that their just friends and if YOU have a problem with them stoping by,,then WE HAVE A PROBLEM! How would you feel about this,,,,,,would THAT offend you,,and if so WHY? or, would you be fine with all this? |
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Honestly I'd be the one running to the store picking up beer & something for dinner. Last time my BF invited a couple co-workers over that I'd never met that's exactly what I spent 3 hours doing. Treat your BF/DH friends as you'd want him to treat yours if you invited a few friends over. JMHO
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Jon has female friends that he goes out with once in a while for drinks, coffee or play pool with and I am fine with it. (One I even helped with her thesis for college, when I was there one time.) I also have male friends that I go to dinner or movies with and he is fine with that too......(okay maybe he gets a little jealous that they get to see me more often but we just laugh about it.)
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It really boils down to trust. If you trust the person you shouldn't have a problem with it. All to often, we let our past bad experiences color our present situation. It is difficult to break the pattern. If you had someone you couldn't trust in the past, it doesn't mean you can't trust the new person in your present. JMO
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If I was involved with you(ladies only) Like lets say that I and you started dating and it turned into a relationship....Now your job took you away for two or three days each week,,,,well, I have some friends both men and women who stop by to see me,,,some to just talk some to drink a few drinks with and talk. Now YOU confront me about them and I tell you that their just friends and if YOU have a problem with them stoping by,,then WE HAVE A PROBLEM! How would you feel about this,,,,,,would THAT offend you,,and if so WHY? or, would you be fine with all this? im confused, is this relationship a co habitation? in which case my question would be if those 'friends' also dropped by in her presence, or just the days she wasnt there....THAT MIGHT BE A PROBLEM of inconsistency If it isnt cohabitation, then the question remains the same, do they JUST stop by when they know she is gone, ,,,in which case I can imagine there being a problem if they are such good friends they should probably be getting to know her too and not limiting visits to exclude her |
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If I was involved with you(ladies only) Like lets say that I and you started dating and it turned into a relationship....Now your job took you away for two or three days each week,,,,well, I have some friends both men and women who stop by to see me,,,some to just talk some to drink a few drinks with and talk. Now YOU confront me about them and I tell you that their just friends and if YOU have a problem with them stoping by,,then WE HAVE A PROBLEM! How would you feel about this,,,,,,would THAT offend you,,and if so WHY? or, would you be fine with all this? im confused, is this relationship a co habitation? in which case my question would be if those 'friends' also dropped by in her presence, or just the days she wasnt there....THAT MIGHT BE A PROBLEM of inconsistency If it isnt cohabitation, then the question remains the same, do they JUST stop by when they know she is gone, ,,,in which case I can imagine there being a problem if they are such good friends they should probably be getting to know her too and not limiting visits to exclude her just friends who stop by at my place when she's gone,,well two women and sometimes a male friend..We like to drink together.. all of them,,drink. and yes we share living together.. |
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Just beacause you trust someone not to cheat doesn't take the fact away that you don't like men around your girl
or if your a girl you probably don't like girls around your guy. I know I have always trusted my girlfriends but that don't mean I trust the guys she hangs out with not to be physically/sexually attracted to my girl and that bothers me a guy looking at my girl thw wrong way because lets face it when I see a hot chick I am like damn and I eye F*** her. So what's is stopping a guy from doing the same thing to your girl. So your girl having a problem with your situation is normal she could trust you but not like that other woman may be interested in you it's primal instinct to claim territory on what's yours. |
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This appears to be a question about control.
Everyone has friends, most of which have probably been in your life long before I was. To think I would even have a say so seems ridiculous to me. Your life is still your own, to do with as you wish. Now, if I were REALLY upset about it, I might go all devious, and make it SO freaking pleasant to be home alone with me that you autonomously shifted to doing that instead :-) |
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Just beacause you trust someone not to cheat doesn't take the fact away that you don't like men around your girl or if your a girl you probably don't like girls around your guy. I know I have always trusted my girlfriends but that don't mean I trust the guys she hangs out with not to be physically/sexually attracted to my girl and that bothers me a guy looking at my girl thw wrong way because lets face it when I see a hot chick I am like damn and I eye F*** her. So what's is stopping a guy from doing the same thing to your girl. So your girl having a problem with your situation is normal she could trust you but not like that other woman may be interested in you it's primal instinct to claim territory on what's yours. ALSO,,,let me say,,THIS IS NOT MY LIVING LIFE,,TODAY, This has been on my mind about my past life already lived through,wink....BUT,,I have wanted other's imput on this as to just FEEL and read their THOUGHTS to review,,,,my own.. Thanks |
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This appears to be a question about control. Everyone has friends, most of which have probably been in your life long before I was. To think I would even have a say so seems ridiculous to me. Your life is still your own, to do with as you wish. Now, if I were REALLY upset about it, I might go all devious, and make it SO freaking pleasant to be home alone with me that you autonomously shifted to doing that instead :-) you in this,,,because that was a possibility to come-about,lol Thanks for her perspective inner thoughts to make,,, |
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