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Topic: How to say no!
josie68's photo
Thu 01/20/11 01:04 PM

man up bro. get your scary azz up on that airplane and get your chute on. then when she stands up at the jump zone, push her out of the aircraft and enjoy the rest of the ride. once you land she will have had ample time during the freefall to realize you are serious about not jumping (side note, be sure to tether yourself to the aircraft before you attempt pushing her out, she might over power you and throw you out)



Hmmm yep if you cant just say no, this is probably the best idea. but be prepared to face hell when you land. Honesty first is always easiest.

hiddenmeaning's photo
Thu 01/20/11 01:17 PM
Edited by hiddenmeaning on Thu 01/20/11 01:18 PM

man up bro. get your scary azz up on that airplane and get your chute on. then when she stands up at the jump zone, push her out of the aircraft and enjoy the rest of the ride. once you land she will have had ample time during the freefall to realize you are serious about not jumping (side note, be sure to tether yourself to the aircraft before you attempt pushing her out, she might over power you and throw you out)

great idea but i will be strapped to her lol

after thinking about it i will probably just do it but the air will be sooooo blue while im going down and the follow up lovin better be the best ever lol

TheCaptain's photo
Thu 01/20/11 02:13 PM
You won't be strapped to her unless she is a certified trainer.

hiddenmeaning's photo
Thu 01/20/11 02:16 PM
shes airforce and yes she is.
was hopeing for a bit more of you captain i feel let down now

no photo
Thu 01/20/11 02:22 PM


You should never be expected to do things you don't like & especially things you have a phobia over. If it's a deal breaker then maybe she isn't the right woman. I'd respect a man for telling me he's uncomfortable with doing something I like to do. I'd look into other things we both enjoyed.

its not a deal breaker this is a example.
its other things aswell obviously i will do things i dont like but i dont like letting people down i feel bad for like a week after.


be more concerned about being true to yourself

if she has any respect for you she will accept your decision

it's one thing to be nervous about something but do it anyway because it could be a good idea, it's another to participate in a risky & dangerous sport like parachuting that could kill you. JUST SAY NO

TheCaptain's photo
Thu 01/20/11 02:43 PM
Can I assume that she has jumped before???

And does she have any phobias to mention?

stefy's photo
Thu 01/20/11 03:00 PM
You have your limits. If she doesnt understand that she is not right for you. Just say sorry but no i cant do that right now!
You can even try oneday if you think the challenge of overcaming your fear is worth it!
If you dont learn to say no you will never be trully happy with someone. How can you be yourself and not show your dislikes?

DTHRomeo's photo
Thu 01/20/11 03:10 PM
I agree with Stef :thumbsup:

stefy's photo
Thu 01/20/11 03:12 PM

I agree with Stef :thumbsup:

flowerforyou smooched

DTHRomeo's photo
Thu 01/20/11 03:29 PM


I agree with Stef :thumbsup:

flowerforyou smooched

smooched flowerforyou

Monier's photo
Thu 01/20/11 03:45 PM

dont thing breaking a plane just to get me to jump is the right way lol.
i know she wants me to do it so i kan prove i trust her but im still really really scaired about it lol


Hey man, everybody had things they enjoy doing, but to force them on others is just wrong.

I think maybe she is saying she wants to do certain things with you and you are coming back with discouraging comments about the idea instead of just saying 'yeah that's cool for you and you do it well, I'm just not that interested in it'

If she says that 'it will prove that you trust her', come back with 'how about you take a lie detector test if you have trust issues?' Say it kind of kidding with a smile, it breaks the ice on her not getting upset.

You can get the 'NO' result without actually saying NO. You just need more communication.

Give her more verbal support about what she does. Tell her you are her biggest fan but you will be cheering for her like a good land lover.



I'm with you actually. I have an extreme fear of heights. I jumped out of planes in the military but that was much closer to the ground than skydiving. I won't do that. Mentally it makes no sense to me. Personally I can think of no good reason to jump out of a perfectly good airplane.

SurrealRealist's photo
Thu 01/20/11 08:48 PM
Take lessons on how to be assertive. just agreeing to get along will only cause you to be resentful. Understand? If they always get mad when you voice your needs or opinions thye are manipulating you through anger.

SurrealRealist's photo
Thu 01/20/11 08:48 PM
Take lessons on how to be assertive. just agreeing to get along will only cause you to be resentful. Understand? If they always get mad when you voice your needs or opinions thye are manipulating you through anger.

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