My son is probably older than most of the kids on this site.
He is 23.
My son and daughter are in a bad place right now , arguing and hating each other so not talking.
My daughter came to me saying her boyfriend heard My sons girlfriend talking to a guy he works with. They were talking about dating.
I don't know if it was harmless flirting or if they were actually setting up a date.
My question is this. Do I tell my son? I try not to get in the middle of his love life as he is not a child. But as a Mom I hate to see him possibly being hurt. Or treated like that.

Let him figure it out on his own, that's how a person learns and grows.

How is your relationship with his girlfriend? My son is 22, so my son is also older then most people on here. IF someone told me that they heard his fiance talking that way, I would actually go straight to her. I would say, hey this is what I am hearing and IF you are thinking of dating someone else...then you need to tell my son before I do.
I actually have a good relationship with her though. LOL I might not after that talk BUT my main priority in my life IS my son. Yes, he might be 22 but he does not know what I heard and I refuse to keep any kind of secrets that would break his heart!!!
Good luck

i must agree with unsure on this one as i am a father and altougth my little girl is 2 i would do the same i have done it with friends and there partners too, and yes this is the best option to go with as then you dont look like the big bad monster. but what are the chances that this is a bit of nasty snipeing between the siblings and this is another case of one-up-manship between them?

he said/she said information is not worth repeating, in my opinion


had your DAUGHTER heard it for herself, and could tell you for certain that she was not mistaken about what was said or the context of what was said,, that would be a different story

Well I am not sure if I am right but I opted to stay out of it.
She is a sweet girl, just young. They are together all the time.
If I see something myself then I would say something.
I don't know the girl very well so I don't think now is the time to approach her either.
I definitely don't think it is a sibling rivalry thing at all.

I think you are making a good choice.

You will always be a parent no matter the age of your kids. It was easier when they were little and you could kiss their owies gone. The older they get some times the harder it can be to fix things and some times you just cant.

It's so true. I hate watching them make the same mistakes I did.
But They are smart kids.
I'll cross my fingers :)

They were talking about dating.

This sentence alone does not say at all that they were talking about dating each other, or going on a date.

If I read your family situation, your daughter may be wanting to put a bug into your sun's ear, by insinuating that his girlfriend is trying to cheat him.

You buy this story, and take it at a face value. Remember, your daughter heard this from her boyfriend, who hear the two... now you hear it... you are already misinterpreting what exactly was said and you put a meaning around it that may not be there.

No think...think...your daughter is not in good terms with your son.

If she is not in good terms... she wants to put him into misery, not a big one, but to annoy him...

Think again... if she could make him get mad at his girlfriend, would that not make your daugther happy? Yes I think it would.

So your daughter may be fabricating this story; she is making it up, and she puts buffers between the story and herself (she said, "my boyfriend told me that...") and she puts a buffer between herself and her brother (you!) and bang, she wins. Your son will believe you, you are his mother; and you will be hurting him if you tell this story, which is very-very likely not even true.

Your son will be sad, he will fight with his girlfriend, maybe even break up, your daughter will be laughing in joy, and nobody will suspect she made up the entire stupid lie she is using to manipulate YOU, and to cover her own tracks by saying she heard someone else say what she alleges.

This is not nice.

The least you could do before passing this on is to ask the boyfriend of your daughter, when she is not there, about it, and ask if any of what your daughter said her boyfriend said, was really said by him. Ask him if he heard this conversation between a "friend" and your son's girlfriend.

You can't take everything you hear at face value, and you must be extra careful to not propagate a malicious lie. Malicious lies are invented by those who want to hurt, and you said your daughter and your son are not in good terms.

As a more general rule, use your head before you make a decision. It's okay if you ask others, but learn from what other say, and try to learn how to apply your new knowledge.

LIES ARE TO HURT. YOU MUST LEARN HOW TO RECOGNIZE A POTENTIAL LIE. DON'T PASS ON A NEWS IF YOU HAVE EVEN A LITTLE SUSPICION THAT THE NEWS IS A LIE.

hi sister.. my sugustion is u must care to both ofthem first.. first of all need to understand son and daughter character.. u need to me friendly care.. sure both of them it will be change.change.. now waydays situation it will happen like this.. we need to care.... take care...

That says it all.