Topic: Not Sure What I Am To Him?
Stacy1970's photo
Sat 01/01/11 10:59 AM
I dumped this guy 3 wks ago because he displayed "Running Scared Syndrome" on me. I have four kids and support them myself. I make more money then this guy. All I wanted was for him to give me a chance to get to know him. But as the days went by he stopped calling and answering my calls. Until one day he called and I met up with him at the local pool hall for league nite. After league we went back to his place where he and I got into a discussion about his life and how he doesn't have time for a relationship, has a problem with my weight, doesn't want to get to know my kids down the road, didn't want to plan to spend any time with me, etc. I got up and replied,"I'll call you". I didn't speak to him for almost 3 weeks, until last Tuesday nite. A friend of mine, two my kids and myself went to the pool hall to get something to eat. He was there and I bought a beer for him and sent it over to his table. I wasn't going to be a ***** about him freaking out on me. Not too much later he came up to me saying how he was sorry and wanted another chance. Said I really like you, you are really pretty and always have been, and a really nice woman. So, I decided to give him another chance.
Fast forward to eve before NYE...We went out. We had a good time playing around and nibbling. But he started biting my neck and chest pretty hard. He left vivid marks. I told him he was biting too hard and he replied,"I'm marking my territory". I'm like ???
So, NYE we went out again. A friend of his asked who was I to him. He replied, "A buddy"...I'm like "WTF"
What Am I To Him?

TheShadow's photo
Sat 01/01/11 11:25 AM
Stop wasting your time on someone that isn't really interested in you. It will only make things worse for you.

IndnPrncs's photo
Sat 01/01/11 11:37 AM
Did you ask him? If you want to be in a relationship with him it would be good to know if he does as well otherwise you're going to be riding the same merry-go-round...

Stacy1970's photo
Sat 01/01/11 11:43 AM
I thought we were in the "getting to know you phase" not a buddy phase. Certainly I didn't expect him to say I was a buddy. But he doesn't want me seeing other men! Well, I can see he is still sending me mixed signals. I think I am done with him.

Stacy1970's photo
Sat 01/01/11 11:45 AM
First of all...I did not meet him here. Second, It is a song!

IndnPrncs's photo
Sat 01/01/11 11:45 AM
Sounds like he doesn't know what he wants and you're better off moving on and doing your own thing... One day you'll meet someone who wants the same thing..

Stacy1970's photo
Sat 01/01/11 11:51 AM
Indian Princess...you are so right. I am moving on. He keeps flipping on me. If he rans scared in the beginning, he will always run scared with other situations that may come up.
Thank you, you read and understood the problem. Not like others who decide to tear apart at the person that asks the question for an opinion.

FearandLoathing's photo
Sat 01/01/11 12:01 PM
All I can say is pool league is a terrible social circle to meet someone.

Stacy1970's photo
Sat 01/01/11 12:03 PM
I didn't meet him there either! But I am done with him...MOVING ON!

msharmony's photo
Sat 01/01/11 12:05 PM
oh ,,pool hall romances are so difficult


but the jukebox is usually pretty niceflowerforyou

Stacy1970's photo
Sat 01/01/11 12:07 PM
It's a FAMILY POOL HALL. Everyone takes there kids there...restaurant, music, pool tables...Not a big deal.

FearandLoathing's photo
Sat 01/01/11 12:09 PM

I didn't meet him there either! But I am done with him...MOVING ON!


Okay...no need to get all aggressive, just a statement.

Stacy1970's photo
Sat 01/01/11 12:11 PM
Grrrr!

IndnPrncs's photo
Sat 01/01/11 12:13 PM

Indian Princess...you are so right. I am moving on. He keeps flipping on me. If he rans scared in the beginning, he will always run scared with other situations that may come up.
Thank you, you read and understood the problem. Not like others who decide to tear apart at the person that asks the question for an opinion.


Good luck Stacy...

msharmony's photo
Sat 01/01/11 12:14 PM


oh ,,pool hall romances are so difficult


but the jukebox is usually pretty niceflowerforyou


You silly!!



happy happy


Nebojsa, if you are out there, it was a great time,,,,sigh

venusenvy's photo
Sat 01/01/11 12:30 PM
Man!! Run from that like your azz is on fire darlin sad2

Stacy1970's photo
Sat 01/01/11 12:35 PM
That I can do.

krupa's photo
Sat 01/01/11 12:38 PM
Yeah doll....no one wants to be kept on a string as an option yet, a lot of people put up with it cause they act like no one else will ever take an interest.

actionlynx's photo
Sat 01/01/11 12:46 PM
"Save a horse, ride a cowboy." I know the song...

The headline was meant to be a joke, but it is a bit misleading.

I agree that moving on is the best thing. I think once he gets what he wants, and tires of you, he's just going to toss you aside. He probably just wants sex because you have a pretty face and the proverbial "huge tracts of land". If he bites too hard, but ignores what you say, he only cares about what he wants....and he probably likes it a bit rough. I bet he has deep-seated issues which will only become more apparent over time. It would explain how he's acted all along.

Stacy1970's photo
Sat 01/01/11 12:49 PM
I totally agree with you. Underlying issues are becoming apparant.