Hi, hope everyone had a Merry Christmas. Im new to the whole online dating/meeting scene and alot of it is very discouraging. I believe you should be appealing to the opposite sex (to men) but why does it seem that you have to undermine yourself and people are so willing to do so. When the body ages and its functions change, the illness strikes,the unforseen accident comes, the money changes...life happens then what remains. After the series of one night stands you need one more because the last 5..10 just didn't do..then what? Just a thought.

I have had similar thoughts. Welcome to Mingle.

WELCOME

Welcome to you!!



Tammy

Welcome. Never been a big believer in one night stands, or in being phony just to attract the opposite sex. Why begin with a lie?

Welcome to this site

Ditto. No casual stuff, and always be yourself!



Hello and welcome tryn2believe.

Exactly. I believe it was Amy Grant who once said something along the lines of "You don't know what Real love is until somebody has cleaned up your vomit and tucked you back in bed." (Pretty sure she was referring to illness, not drunkenness.)

If'n you looking for handsome and intllergent, you done hit da' jackpot with me.
C'mon down and we can talk all about, squirrel huntin', muddin' and I'll even teach you how ta' clean and cook yer own road-kill possum.

You do know how to light a fire under a girl

Welcome to Mingle Tryn - it's a great place to make friends and who knows about the rest!

I believe you should be appealing to the opposite sex (to men) but why does it seem that you have to undermine yourself and people are so willing to do so.


You don't have to....and people want to be accepted, so take on the social 'norms' of wher ever they are.



When the body ages and its functions change, the illness strikes,the unforseen accident comes, the money changes...life happens then what remains?

You.
Irrespective of what external forces are placed upon you, you are the constant, and so, be clear in who you are, be comfortable with the Who of you, and leave the What of you, to those that aren't relevant.


After the series of one night stands you need one more because the last 5..10 just didn't do..then what?


Stop.

How about getting comfortable with yourself?...and leave the desperation of lonliness to someone less evolved?




Refreshing to read your thoughts and have an opportunity to respond, welcome, greetings, and all that guff...







Just a thought.

well all i gotta say is good luck! ive been on here for 4 yrs.. havent found one that lives within 50 miles from me that is age 40-50.. that has an iq higher than maybe 110! and to boot on here at all but maybe 4 of them that is above that!... in that age range...

WELCOME :)