Perhaps "own" isn't the right thing now. Withstanding "little shocks" and realizing that they are not "trauma" is exactly what's needed now???

i dislike living with people.
i live in a dorm.
single.
but i want a studio apartment.
for myself.
no one else.
i like visitors and all.
but just don't stay forever.

Exactly. I need to stay aware that I'm not in danger. I kind of/sort of am, so. But that's not a discussion for here.

I always had a motto. If you didn't call first, you better not be knocking at my door. You had the choice to call first and see if I was ready for company. I have the choice of ignoring you until you leave. See how that works?

that's a great motto.
XD

I knew you'd appreciate it.

Living alone takes some getting used to. I went from under my folk's roof to getting married and living with hubby and then kids. Now kids are all grown up and lost hubby three years ago, so I am now seeing what it is like to live alone.
I can walk around in my underwear all day long, just have to remember not to go outside in nothing else.

I was so excited after I got over the shock! I went from folks, to roommates, to folks and daughter. Then just daughter and I, then I got married (just shy of 37th birthday). Then six years with both of them, then the rest with he and I. Then 4 months with sister and her partner.

Then just me! And yes, I got way used to naturalism, either partially or totally nude. Now if I even feel like my nighty is too short, I have to put some pants on before I hit the ladies room.

This makes me a sad panda.