royalblue599

The comment I made regarding "missing the point" was directed at the other poster giving me an english punctuation lesson of all things.

Most people here are never married or divorced, but there are quite a few who have lost their mate. So I'm sure I'm not the only one that would be offended by that type of question without the poster providing his own answer along with the question as to not cause someone like me to misinterpret the intent.

i simply asked a question. i cant walk on pins and needles and always worry if im goin to offend someone. but im sorry i guess

not the only one... perhaps, but I'm pretty certain you're in a very small minority.

royalblue599

My wife was diagnosed with malignant glioblastoma multiforme stage 4 (brain cancer).

As a loving husband I know it was much more difficult for me than any of my kids because I was the one caring for her and doing everything else around the house all the while trying to remain positive so that she wouldn't lose hope. My kids were all in Oklahoma until her final days.

Yes, she was your Mom, you loved her dearly, and yes I can understand that it was easier for you to get over it.

Joe, do you really know that they got over it that easily? I lived my daily life but it took me 10 yrs to be ok with my dad dying and even now it's hard but I know I have to go on b/c he didn't raise weak children... I lost 2 of my grandparents the same day and another just a couple of weeks before.. More death than I've seen in my life so far.. I was glad their pain was gone but still miss them so.. That is a private pain that I share with no one...

its not a matter of getting over it. its accepting it. i know shes in heaven looking down. she is where she needs to be. god needed her so who am i to think otherwise. its not something thats ever forgoten.

DaveyB

So me being in a small minority makes it okay? Yeah right!

I was just making an observation. You're the one who is pissed about a simple question, I hardly think I'm the one missing the point here.

Joe are you in grief counseling?

joe i understand it was a very hard loss for you and im sorry. it doesnt give you the right to judge others or suggest that they loved the person they lost less. thats a unfair judgement to make on someone you dont know.

royalblue599

I thought I was doing pretty good "getting over it" and "GOD's will" and all that but you sure opened my feelings up again.

Everyone loses someone close to them. That's a fact of life. We all share that pain, and eventually it gets better.

I lost my mother-in-law, mother, dad, youngest brother, and now my wife in a period of only five years, but losing my wife hurt the most.

Thank you all.

next time i'll just ask every person on here what offends them.

Sorry for ur lost Joe. And no one is trying to make u feel bad. My mother in law just lost her husband of 42 years and is going thru a depression. She wont admit it. But she is. And if you are i hope u seek help. There is no shame is asking for help. I will pray for u!

royalblue599

Can you even provide the medical condition that caused your Mom's death as I did? That's something that will remain embedded in my mind till the day I die.

Go ahead and feel free to post whatever mind boggling questions you may have. It seems you have a better following than I do. wink

Joe, really stop being an azzhole! You're hurt and you're pissed, we get that and we're sorry but that doesn't give you free rein to be a d*ckwad!!!

DITTO!

Well said!

BellaV

I'm sorry for the loss you have suffered, and I thank you for expressing your sincere concern. I'm a big boy who got over the suicidal stage about one month after.

Of course he has a better following, he is being pretty cool given all of the flak he is catching from you on this topic.

The azzhole and d*ckwad is outta here - have fun all

Thank you Bella.. I've been conveniently ignored for every comment I've made b/c the truth is not convenient for some to deal with...