What is the toughest thing you ever had to face with your partner or significant other(past or present)? Some experiences just to get folks thinking or put out there what they feel makes up endurance and stamina in a relationship or marriage.

My ex-husband's son committed suicide
while we were married.
His other child had done this also, many
years before.
Heartbreaking.
It did not help the marriage.

I had a girlfriend whom I was very close to. She had a terminal case of Breast Cancer. She refused to buckle despite all of the therapy, drugs, and other treatment she had to go through. She stayed up beat despite everything she had happen. I saw her drop in weight from 225 lbs to below 125 lbs at her passing. She could not even remember me at the end. She was a very powerful and upbeat person. I missed her a lot for quite awhile.

My heart goes out to women who have fought and survived breast cancer and I have seen first hand how it ravages a woman's body.
From that experience I hae learned that staying power will help love grow from nothing to something in a blink of an eye.


I wanted to start this thread to illustrate the need for staying power and endurance in any relationship, just as some couples had in my generation. feel free to add anything you wish.

My toughest thing I had to face. Was moving to UT knowing I had a child on the way. Only to find out two days latter after moving. my ex was getting back with her bf.

The tough part was knowing I couldn't just move back to Cali because of my son, and living out here for the first year not really knowing anyone.

My toughest thing was the adultery which ended our relationship. The closest second to that was a battery which put me in the hospital.


We had both done a fair share of antagonizing that night but he was extremely drunk and lost his temper. I moved out temporarily, he got counseling, we did alot of talking, and we worked it out. He was truly remorseful(he did the work to prove it) and we were able to truly put it behind us without ever having another episode.

Right now I am going through some difficult problems with my house and with my health, but TheCaptain is a constant source of strength for me. He was also there for me when my older daughter moved out to live with her father and has been a wonderful role-model for my younger daughter and let her move in with him when she was being stalked by an ex-boyfriend.



(Mrheartfelt....drop me an email please, you have restrictions and I can't email you.)

Okay. I will remove them from this. Go ahead and email me if you wish.

Death, a long ugly death. Cancer sucks for the survivor too.

Lost my wife to cancer this year. So that would be right on top.

Posting about it=baby steps :-)

Getting out of a marriage because of his children from a previous marriage. They totally sabotaged our relationship and he couldn't see it. It killed me and I am still recovering from that fiasco.

Finally realizing that our relationship was going nowhere, and going downhill fast. That his lack of work was never going to change, that his friends would still provide him pot. When he threatened to behead the parakeets, it was the final nail in the coffin.

my divorce and separation from my children is the most difficult thing I have ever faced. I was totally alone. One my own and struggling to become independent to support myself. It is also probably my proudest accomplihsment as I had no transition time. One day I was a stay at home mom making supper & folding clothes & telling bed time stories like I had for the previous 14 years. The next day I was parked in Polen Farm Parking lot with a pickup truck that did not belong to me & suitcase...but I guess I was made of whatever it takes.

Together as a couple while married we faced a lot of things successfully - though obviously not all - I had an emergency C-Section and we both supported each other as we finished college during our marriage.

Drug addiction....waking up to everything being removed from my home......my car gone and not being able to go to work......being left with a basket full of groceries at the store to come out and find my car missing and traded for drugs......a knife pulled on me to steal my winter coat to trade for drugs......a call from my child that while I had one of my children at the ER he had left my youngest 4 week old baby with my eight year old.......had to leave the ER with my 15 month old burning with fever to get the other two kids and recheck into the ER.....seriously the night he pulled the knife on me I almost decided to hit him with my car..............am glad I didn't.........I would probably still be in jail

alcoholism...unless you are in it, you never can fully understand the hell it is to live with an alcoholic.

you did the right thing seakolony. Most if not all the choices I made at the time were made to keep me and my oldest son out of jail - as far as staying away from revenge and paybacks etc , and other choices that lead to some things not being fair for me BUT being in jail- we are no good to our kids that way

so ya, I missed out on some revenge opps for sure - but I now have a life that includes a positive relationship with my sons AND local law enforcement

Moving to another country with my wife only to separate and being stuck because I wont leave my son - this is my life and probably why I put it first.

My exgirlfriend and I were both drug addicts. I made it out. She didn't. I loved her but left her.

Being cheated on by another ex with my supposedly best friend. Lost two people that day.



Finally just want to say that what you people have written have touched me!!! It is unbelievable what you've lived through, and amazing that you made it out alive! You have my respect and gratitude for sharing!!!

Both of my parents were alcoholics, so I know what that is like. I had the oven blow up in my face because my mother was too drunk to watch dinner. An accumulation of gas caused the oven to blow. I had my whole face burned and wound up in pretty bad shape.It is a major reason why each year I make a vow to never touch alcohol.

The hardest thing for me to deal with is my ex. We went and looked into getting preapproved for a house, having another child in 2 years and getting married.

He was "seeing" this girl I use to work with while I was pregnant. I believed he would change. Once our daughter was 2 1/2 months old I finally had enough. Dealing with his mom calling our daughter a stripper, calling me a slut, and being told I was fat and lazy after just having our daughter.

Now the hardest part is when I see him and his gf together I feel sick to my stomach and want to throw up. Then seeing how excited our daughter gets to see him. Knowing that I am just another statistic contributing to the separation rate. To top it all off I have realized how hard it is for me to date since I have a young child.

Knowing I let myself down and should have realized how horrible me and my ex were for each other. I wish I had of left him a long time ago. He held me back from being truly happy and constantly cutting me down. He was so selfish that he would make me feel guilty for things I did because it made me happy. He blamed everything on me because he could do no wrong.

But we all live and learn.

Not as serious as all the above but watching my husband lose his dignity and mind to Alzheimers for almost 7 yrs was horrible.. And when I divorced my first husband , I packed up my kids and moved ( with only a couple of thousand $$ and an 8 yr old car) from Ohio to Arizona, had no job or place to live until I got there.. Rented a house, enrolled the kids in school and then had to talk someone into giving me a job because with only a high school education I was "overqualified to pull charts" in a dr. office.. Duh, how much education does that take, just need to know how to spell...
We are all survivors for whatever reason and thus we are still here...