Is dating suppose to be just 2 people dating each other to get to know one another? Is it okay to go out on a date just to eat or watch a movie and not do as I asked in the first question? Is it okay to date more than one person at a time?

Here is what I found that defines dating: A dating system is any systematic means of improving matchmaking via rules or technology. It is a specialized meeting system where the objective of the meeting, be it live or phone or chat based, is to go on a live date with someone, with usually romantic implications. Recently, "couple-dating" and "friend-dating" systems have also become popular, especially among those who met on dating systems and enjoy the interactions, but have settled down with mates.

I have been arguing with a person about the definition of dating and he tells me that it's okay to date more than one person at a time and that this system of dating has been around a long time.

Dating is an escalating dance of mating. The mating dance ends when body are slapping, wet and sticky.



More often than not the mating dance like hunting ends in failure. But every once in a while the hunter is successful.



Now at least to me dating implies that I and the woman I am dating are participating in the mating dance. Otherwise I am just "going out." At least to me there are HUGE differences.

I 'go out' with women who are my friends and there is no expectations whatsoever. I date women who's pants I am trying to get down!


Simple enough to me!

Dating is, essentially, getting to know someone over an extended period of time. Be that going out to a movie, walking downtown, sitting down for a dinner at a nice restaurant. It is all to determine if a relationship is something worth pursuing. Thus the second date.

A play date, or a couples date. In many ways does also constitutes, if a relationship is also worth pursuing.

Dating - the crap you have to go through to get a chance to shoot your DNA at another person.

AndyBgood- So when you are dating a woman is it just her or more? If you want to just go out with someone just to eat or watch a movie it's called "going out" and not dating. Is this correct? To me if you are dating someone it should be just him or her and no one else. Dating is just what it defines and what I thought it should be. Then he proceeds to tell me that he is not going to wait around on someone to call him to go out on a date and that is the reason he has another one lined up. Why go to all that trouble to have another date lined up when he could have made it with the previous one? He said he wasn't looking for an relationship and just experience. Well, then he is not dating and just going out. Is this correct?

That's what I thought. So if you are not pursuing a relationship and just doing those things with someone or many what do you call it? Do you call a date?

Wouldn't you want to get to know the person before giving them your DNA? There is such a thing as STDS, criminals, crazy people, etc.

You might get hit by a bus before you get a chance to get to know them though!

for me, dating is the stage before a commitment in which people spend time getting to know each other and its perfectly ok to be getting to know more than one person at a time as long as there is no commitment involved with any of them,,,

When I was younger, going out was to meet up with friends. Just to hang out, talking or movies. Driving down the street, to watch others watch you.

I do believe that a date is between two people. If you bring others into that situation then it is a gathering of friends. So I do not call that a date. Just the way I think.

Oh lordy! That is a bit extreme.

So your saying it is considered dating as long as the parties have open communication about the date and what they expect? And it is okay to date more than one person? As long as the other person is aware of it?

I believe in the same thing as you do.

Just my old way of thinking. I feel you are dating then that person deserves your attention. If you are dating others then to me you should tell the other people. But it is not dating to me. That is fooling around. I for one will not be fooled around on. If you are dating me then I will be dating you. Not going out with others calling that a date.

sometimes dating to me is just the obnoxious step we have to take to see if we want or are compatible with each other.......


why cant we just walk up to the person and say....


Hey...Tom/ Dick/ Harry....Mary/Sue/terry...you look cool to me...i am attracted to you...wanna see if we match?...come here and talk to me awhile....


Instead like Andy said....we gotta do the dance....plan it all out...spend the money..look great...all the ********

just mho

If there's a target to hit, well Gossipmpm you have the perfect view

waste of time.

You think the same way as I do about it. Thank goodness someone does.

yes, once sex comes into the equation though I feel there should be a commitment, and dating should become exclusive, but I dont see getting to know each other as the equivalent of having sex

Oh ok. So you are saying it's not worth going out on a date just to see if your compartible?