One of My friend got married with his girl friend without the consent of their parents from both end in 2008.A few month later, Boy's family became agree and started communicating with both.

It's been two years now but girl's parent is not ready to speak with them and broke all the relation with her. mom is showing the ego.

I tried to suggest them do not dwell in the past and make their life happy....
They gotta kid on 31st August but situation remains same..

Would you people love to suggest them something........

Tell them to have a kid to win the mom over. Failing that, bury her alive for a few hours to make her see sense.

They have a 3 months old baby boy.....

Best to go with burying her alive to give her some perspective then...

She needs to get it in her head to cut her family off and move on. Sometimes family is the worst enemy we have. I can say that with utter conviction.

I have had GFs in the past pull that "mommy and daddy says" BS on me and this is what I say in those situations. "If you really love me what your parents say does not matter. If they can't say what they have to to my face they can go fuque themselves. If they mean more to you than I do in the light that they hate me so obviously either it is them OR me and if it is them go and do not bother me any more. If I matter more to you than they do grow a spine tell them to shut the fuque up and deal with it." I also have told past GFs that if their parents continue to talk about me behind my back I will eventually confront them and I may get into a fight with them when I confront them. I would just assume end a relationship then and there if the parents are going to be trouble rather than put up with the drama. I have no need for parents in my life. If they contribute to my happiness that is good. If they detract that is bad. I am done with detraction in my happiness. I hate people who talk **** behind my back and will not say it to my face!

Men who put up with that BS are spineless pu@@ies! Nuff said!

She has chosen. It is now up to her family to grow up and accept that all grown ups make their own choices and live with them.

Her family will come around eventually. There grandchildren will cause it to happen.

I would suggest they don't make things worse by aggravating things and just live happily and accept that the family will come to them someday in the future.

First of all heck when I got married my family found out after the fact as well. We went to the court house and got married.

If parents will take something like that and let it become a wedge between them and their kids it seems there are deeper issues then just them getting married.

It would be tough to know I would let something so trivia come between me and my kids.

The only suggestion I have is go have a picture taken of their family now. Send this to them in the mail or drop it off on their door step. Inside put a invitation for them to call in order to leave the past in the past and lets start a New Beginning.

The problem is no one wants to be the one to make the first move. Sad on both parts. But if they at least made that move and the parents do not comply then I would say move on without them...


I would almost bet the picture of them and the baby together would be enough for them to realize what they are missing out on....

BOTH FAMILIES ARE IN NEIGHBORHOOD...FIVE MINUTES AWAY FROM ONE'S HOUSE....

I feel as if the parents should respect the child's decisions for a romantic partner regardless of the situation. The parent cannot control the child's emotions and romantic impulses, and the child should develop their romantic philosophy empirically since no one else has yet to develop one logically.

I think your GFs were siblings with my BFs!!! I have dealt with so much psychotic momma crap that I no longer want a relationship at all!!! Some people are just better off without their family, a sad reality, but if they can not accept her decision, then why bother calling them family!

first of all they should pack up and move away...at least to another neighborhood where they can have privacy and not have to deal with the constant reminder of the situation....

and I agree that they are now adults, either the family accepts their decisions or the family gets cut out of their lives...

HEY..I WANNA HAVE A PRACTICAL APPROACH TO SOLVE THE ISSUE..IF ONE CAN SUGGEST ME..

Problem is neither of the party's are willing to bend. Unless one of them takes the first step in order to mend fences it will never happen. Sometimes it takes a stronger person to see this in order for things to move forward.

So someone is going to have to make the first move.....

Heck thought my idea was pretty good send them a picture and set a time and date for a dinner invitation. One may be surprised what may come of it.

Issues do not solve themselves and if they each keep waiting on the other to make the first step then things will always remain the same... Someone has to step up to the plate and make the first step.

Then if in fact it does not work at least they put their best foot forward and tried. At times that is all we can do is try.....

The real fact here is this couple comes from a culture where marriages are arranged so thats why the mother is being the way she is... its a cultural thing that is totally different from the american way..