This is an age old question apparently but, why do nice guys finish last? Is it because most guys anymore are only looking for the here and now and not a future with someone? Please explain this to me. Most people that know me tell me I'm too nice and am such a great guy but I have such a hard time with relationships due to being affectionate, sweet, and caring although touchy feely. I am very passionate in the way I feel when I am with someone but apparently that is wrong anymore. Why is that? Is it because women love being with people that treat them like crap most of the time but then apologize for 2 minutes in the bedroom and all is better? What is the deal? Can someone please chime in and explain this?

the reason most chicks are like that is because its an addiction just like speed or heroin. they get used to being treated that way and to be treated with respect and loved passionately scares them to death. its incredibly difficult to break away from that addiction especially since there is no rehab for it. all you can do it work with them and pray to god that with time they can learn to accept being treated kindly because thats what they deserve. treat them with kid gloves!

i dont know if that helps but whatever....
good luck!

That is definately a different aspect than has been presented before. The question is still there though of why? Why be scared of something that most women want to begin with? All I see on here and anywhere else is how women don't want people that play games, people that are real, etc. So when they find it, and know its for real, why do they freak out? I understand that women do not make sense to men. I don't expect them to. It's the perception for women to think that all men are predictable and know what will happen based on some words and, persuasion, in some cases that makes me wonder. I guess it seems there is no direct answer but I think that one day reality will set in and many people will regret what they've done and missed out on during the chase for something greater than what they already had and didnt realize.

you don't think that you're gonna become addicted to something when you first begin to do it. you think "oh that will never happen to me. i am not like everyone else." but then..... it happens! sometimes questions don't have to have answers, so just get the "why this, why that" when it comes to relationships out of your mind and just live life. if you keep thinking about those particular why's (and what ifs) then your not living! think about other types of whys. and honey you may think that women don't make sense to men and the other way around but you aren't completely right. men make perfect sense to me. do what i do. put yourself in the other person's shoes. also, you have to think, what if that person and you just aren't meant to be together?

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