I never really asked for it, other than the job; I have to stay employed and earn income. But it comes with a price. I work at a hotel, and part of the time it's 3-11 PM for 3 days, and the other two days are 11PM to 7 AM. My girlfriend who I live with, does not work. She is very hostile over my hours which I have no "real" control over, and I sleep at different times of the day depending on whether I am working, swing or night. I really don't understand how she can be so inconsiderate of me by calling me names and threatening when all I'm doing is trying to make an honest living. She actually expected me to go to bed tonight after only being awake for 8 1/2 hours. Really? That's like telling somebody after waking at 6 AM to go to bed at 2:30 PM. Ridiculous! It's unfortunate that I don't have a 9-5 MF job, but NOT everybody does. It is what it is. I really wish God or someone would talk to her and get some sense into her. She is becoming very irrational almost regularly. Yes, it was good for us for a few months, but it would seem my "erratic" hours are getting to her somehow. By the way, I cannot change my hours. It's either the schedule I have, or no job.

How you doing amigo. If you love the job that much keep it then lose the girl. But remember also its justed a job.
a job that can be replaced like the girl. Don't work to hard.

Not that simple, my brother. I moved all my stuff from Denver to Moab, and made a gi-normous committment to be with her. Denver is burned to dust and ashes as far as I'm concerned. Too much heartache left behind, I can't go back, even if I wanted to. I'm here to stay in Moab, and the greater issue is how do I deal with the "3 faces of Eve" and get her to see the light and stop having these emotional outbursts? If it was me, I'd propbably be locked up, but since it's her, she can sleep soundly in her bed knowing that she just got out of control. She really needs help and I love her, but apparently I'm not trained enough in therapy to know how to deal with these emotional issues she keeps having, real or fabricated. I love her very much, but more and more I find myself withdrawing and keeping my distance, in order to keep either one of us from being hurt. Things have gotta change.

Dude....I work three nights a week.
7pm to 7 am.
Then I am off 4 days.
Same schedule for 7 yrs.
They've cut back on some of the bonus dollars for this shift but its still a money maker.

It was an issue when I was married....so I asked if who was going to get the second job to make up for the shift differential if I went to days. At the time it was about 10k over the course of a yr.

Its the Golden Rule scenario.
He who earns the gold...makes the rules.

Michiganman said it all.
You must really be frustrated Cats, to play
this out in the forums, where you met.

Love is a roller coaster.
At the top, love is everything.
At the bottom, issues abound.
Somewhere in between is where the
best ride is.

having seen topics on the two of you meeting on here i can't help but ask....choosing the forums to talk of someones emotional issues is going to help this how? this doesn't seem fair to the other party involved IMO. i do hope it can be worked out tho, uprooting is certainly challenging and clearly indicates a desire towards committment on both your parts.

Sorry I have to agree with this.. For two wrongs does not make a right....

Sure she needs to look at the whole picture as well due to income. But then maybe in the process you could actually look for another job on the days you have off.

Hopefully ya'll will find a happy medium... It is all about working things out together.

Why isn't she working? How about you suggest that you will quit one job if she gets a job.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VfiJEfBNRqg