How do you get over a friend who you dated? We still hang out together in large groups occasionally and usually it's fun, so I don't want to start avoiding him or anything.
Also, my best friend is sometimes trying to flirt with him and cuddle with him when she knows that I still have for him. Eventhough it bothers me a lot i don't want to comment about it too much and ruin our friendship.
What should I do in both situations?

screw their best friend

A bottle of rum and a 23 year old.......


Works for me everytime!.........

1. be a friend to the friend you dated, or find new friends.
2. be a friend to the friend who is flirting with the friend you are no longer dating, or find new friends.
if it hurts you to see them together, you may need more time away to heal from the breakup. if you value their friendship, you need to get over yourself. if the breakup was on good terms, then hold up your end. if it was a bad breakup, find new friends.

Some people seem to love the trama, drama and make a sad, feeble, pathetic attempt to make you feel bad. It just shows to all the other people that she is very imature and not very self controled. It's sad, really. Don't worry about her though, just let her think it bothers you and all the rest of the people that she thinks are her friends, will see how crazy it really is.... Get on with your life.....And good luck

New friends

screw their best friend

Well if you still have feelings for this person let them know and if that person don't feel the same it will be hard and some tough times but you will have to just accept it. I have been and in some ways are right where you are and have good days and bad ones as well. As for your friend if there's any chance that you two may be able to get back together let her know and if she still keeps up with the flirting things then maybe she was not a real true friend to begin with. And if ya cant seem to get back together wish them luck and enjoy your life whether they be a part of your life or not. I wish you good luck!!

You need a grieving period away from the person so you can get a handle on your feelings. With it like this you are torturing yourself and will probably lose them as friends in the end anyway from the resentment you will feel.

And your best friend is not a best friend if they are cuddling and flirting with a man you have feelings for. Dump her.

I thought you chicks got over dudes by shopping for shoes, purses, a sugar daddy.....ya know...the norm?

If the "friend" was just a friend to begin with...I don't have
an answer for you...I don't do the fwb thing. They're either a
friend...or a partner.

If you remained friends AFTER a relationship/dating, then there
is a reason why you're not together anymore...but if lucky enough
to still be friends...then you need to decide if you CAN be just
friends while distancing yourself from the "personal ties" you
once had until you don't feel that type of "partner" connection.
Meanwhile adjust to the new level you are at and enjoy each others
company as it is.

As for the friend...it's natural to feel slightly betrayed and or
bothered by her attentions to him knowing how you feel, but at the
same time...you're not with him, so there is really no reason why
they can't start something (?) if they like each other. Sucks...
but it's life.

I wish you the best, things will work out however they're meant to,
we can only control our own feelings and such.

Very well said.

got any extra to sha re?

here is my opinion without having read anyone else's (cuz I want to think without influence) so pardon any repetition.

In the first situation, there isn't much you can do if he does not want to date you also. You can continue to hang out in large groups as a friend and see if it ever goes any where, or you can hang out where you can meet someone else - someone else being the best cure

As for your friend. I suppose you can redefine your idea of friendship, but that's about all u can do....well, join a gym or a book club...time for some new friends girlie

throw in bath & body works and a manicure and that's my picture, perfectly

hey Joshy on here has been after my butt - isn't he 23??? (he looks more like 15)

Hey Joe...wanna give it a go?.....

He's cute!!!!

lmao

#1 thing never consider yourself the common denominator cause your better than that,it's always the people that you meet,they influence you to choose the wrong people and pass this disease on,theres no cure...you can try self pity but yet you are correct it isn't you even after 120,000 relationships later