looked at themselves in the mirror, thought about their past, what they have done, no matter the reasons and wondered:

"What the f()ck have I done to myself?"

I'm talking mentally.

DO you think that the choices you make, weather the intentions behind the decisions were for the greater good or not, Drastically effect a way a person acts, carries themselves, and their ability to have a relationship?

DO you think that a person can unknowingly train themselves to keep people away from them, making the unable to have a relationship?

Can it be reversed?

no, yes, no, and maybe.

Yes and yes.

believe it or not...we all try to make the BEST choices at the time...

hindsight sometimes reveals otherwise...

there really are no right or wrong answers..its all about learning...

and you can change whatever you what... whenever you want..free will man...

Yes. I've looked at past mistakes in the current and regretted it. If you learned from it...that's what develops wisdom, if not then one's stupid should they repeat it.

Yes (as May said) it is recoverable. You may have to go back to the point of the mistake to set it right, but it's possible. That of course is relevant to the amount of time you have left though. :)

Life is like trying to lick honey off of a cactus. Ya know what I mean jellybean?

K.

I used to be the queen of disaster. Making the same mistakes, time and time again. When someone gets used to it then it's almost like an addition to be let down. I knew it was going to happen, so it was no big surpize when it did. But, then I took a very good a very long look at the past and delt with the parts that were holding me back from finding what I want. I think that we have all made our fare share of mistakes in the past but it's up to us if we want to continue making them again. People are very similar in a lot of ways and I know when I meet new people, I keep that in mind. We all have our moments whether good or bad but, the past will never change and so many still want to try to hang onto it for whatever reasons they might have. I found it tough to take steps forward without taking a few back but those days are long gone for a very good, good, reason. To me, there is so much more to look forward too without looking back anymore. Good friends and good positive support make it so much easier to not look back. :-)

awesome

for taking that first step

and the many more that follow everyday

Yes & If it can tell me how?

Y
Y
Y
Y
Godspeed!Cy

Lamenting the past does not gain you wisdom for the future, only hinders you from improving upon yourself.

No, sure, sure, and probably.

has n e one ever NOT done that?
decisions do make an affect
Yes people can subconscously train themself
it can b reversed if said person is willin 2 change-not just say I want 2 change but really really do change

at times, to a degree, yep, gawd i hope so

I just drink and it all becomes a fuzzy image in the back of my head...

that just put a fuzzy image in my mind.

I have and have forgiven myself, but i guess there are stigmas that come with certain decisions we make in our lives, or dont make, for instance, people who are adopted are often pegged with mental disability by default, although they did not choose to be given up-- or those who have had drug use in their past--- say LSD or something and some people will forever think they are un-trustworthy--- while others have cheated. . .and ruined a good thing forever. all examples, but YES to your question.

i have done this many times...looked back n wondered...did i make the right choice? sometimes i did and sometimes i felt i didnt...and for the ones where i didnt make a good choice...i have done my best to try and learn from it.

sometimes what it takes is just owning up to the mistake...sayin yeh i messed up....and then going from there. acknowledge the past and learn from it and living today and hoping for the best for tomorrow heheh

I've done things in my life that I would hope no one in their life would ever have to do. Do I think that that has had an effect on my life and the choices I've made since then? Yes it has because I tend to put a shield up around myself and make it hard for some to get to know me. It sucks but I just know no other way but to protct myself and family.

I've been in most of yall's positions. I've done things, had to make decisions, that I would wish on anyone. I gained a reputation for it.

"What you won't do, I will" was a motto of mine for a long time.

I did it because I though I was doing the right thing, or I was getting paid to.

It was well knowen where I live, when all else has failed, you called me. I would fix it, no matter the cost.

And at the end of the day, I'm usually drinking alone in a dark room, waiting for the phone to ring so I can go fix someone elses problem.

And I look back at the shreads that make up my life, at all the betrayals, and wonder why I keep doing it. But at the same time I can't stop myself. Especally if there is a female involved thats in trouble. I know I have the abilitys, the power, the connections to make anything happen.

I find its impossible to say "Its not my problem" or "Sorry I can't do anything."

And again, at the end of the day, I'm looking at whats left of my life, drinking alone in a dark room, waiting for the phone to ring so I can go fix yet another problem of someone that I may or may not know.

Is there such a thing as a "Jesus complex"?