Would u help raise another mans/womans baby well if u where dateing a man or woman with kids not ur own

dating? no...but if I was in a serious, committed relationship then that child would be part of my life and therefore I would feel responsible for being a positive adult figure in his or her life.

(in deepest voice ever) yeah, what she said.

I have a daughter and IMO I would not want their help to raise my child unless I knew we were seriously committed.

Why should my child or him get attached if he is not going to be in it for the long run? It's not fair to either one of them.

I can remember my dad asking me when I was a small child, "What you think I took you to raise?"

(still in deep voice mode)yeah, what she said.

there was a girl i went to high school with she had her oldest later on after high school and when she finally met her husband she was pg with with her 2nd child by another man
her husband clamied both her daughters as his even though they wernt

he was a great provider for her 2 oldest
i never heard a complain from or about him


when my i met my son dad
my daughter was 2yrs old
when i met him
and he actually had talked
about adopting her
but of course that didnt happen
he allowed her to call him daddy
she doesnt now. for we split up
when my son was a baby


but yea if i was in a relationship
and he had a child he was raising i deffently
would help out

i dont see that as a problem

my older sister married a man with 3 great kids
but my sister has a attitude issue that my daughter, and i cant deal with. and i think that could be the main reason they got divorced


when my 2 oldest grandkids were little
my daughter had been separated from there dad for quit sometime
and she had met a guy and they were together for awhile..
he loved my grandkids he would had done anything for them and my daughter
they just had some issue as why they broke up

Hell no!!

I am not a breeder and I don't date breeders!

There are people better equipt at co-parenting than me. Bless them!

I fully respect you on this Melody. It's not everyone's cup of tea. It's better to have someone be completely honest then to lie and try and co-parent someone else's offspring. Knowing what you want is key.

since you asked the question i can only assume there is real life reason for it. well, as someone who has no biological children, but one who did help raise a little boy for nine years i can give you this from my experience.

before you can answer that, you need to ask whether or not you should be dating this person at all.

to me, you know they have a child from the outset, so this question should be asked before any kind of relationship has the chance to develop. when people have children, they have children, there is no separating this fact. it would be grossly unfair of you to expect anything different.

it sounds like you have some kind of insecurity about this situation that goes beyond the presents of an innocent child. you need to deal with that or to tell you the truth, the child, in this case would be the one better off without you in his or her life.

i know it sounds weird... but i love kids alot but i dont want any of my own.. if im with someone and they have a young child i would treat that child the best way i knew how.. i will not shy away from someone with kids... they r blessings from heaven

Spawners... Shudders.

No thanks. Lol.

A person and their children are a package deal. My opinion, children should always be loved, appreciated, and even respected - if you can't or won't do that, it's best to be honest and back away. It's not easy to blend families, it's important to be willing to work at it. I love kids, so yes I would.