You posted in the forums to find out why you were not getting responses. Then you didn't like the responses you got, so you're leaving again? How does that help?

You don't know me well enough to use a nickname. I hate the name Mel! If you knew me, you would know not to call me that ...

You are still confusing controversy with TMI. You said you were divisive. You aren't; you just talk about drama. Big difference.

I didn’t ask you to talk about your personal life. I simply said if you wish to discuss topics of sensitivity, you are still welcome on the site as long as you are polite.

I didn't call you antiquated. I said you SEEM antiquated in your thought process. I don't know you and would never call you names. I can only assume things by your posts. It's no biggie. Everyone assumes something about each other by observation; it's human nature.

I felt badly when you said you were banned elsewhere. Unless you are extreme – you are welcome on Mingle.

Airing you personal business is just rash (and a little weird) but live and let live, right? Enjoy!

Whatever your name is (to melody), look, why you think I am old in thought process. Why you think that? I mean.. I do not think things are old to me. I am me! OK?? You think I am behind. I am NOT behind. People told me for years I think of things AHEAD of my time.

However, if you were to say I speak things before I think, then yes, I do have that problem. Hahaha. But I felt hurt. I already shut off my forums. I wanted to see if you said anything. You did.

I felt hurt so I turned off my community forums. So, this actually last post.

Thank you. God bless!

wow!!!!!!! good luck

good luck

First off, when you mention you are not a spammer, first thing that comes to mind is, are you blasting emails out to women on mingle. A form letter (email) will not work. Trust me when I tell you, that women want to think that you are interested in them and not anyone else. I don't know what you are emailing the mingle women, but perhaps you need to find someone you can dialogue with first, and see where it goes from there. If I was interested in a serious relationship with someone on mingle, I would read her profile and see why it is that her and I would make a great match. For example, if you like motorcycle riding and she does too, mention that in your email. READ her profile and go from there. If I had a volunteer mingle lady, I would give you an example of what I am talking about.

Second, your profile does not allow any woman over the age of 38 to email you. So you want someone younger. Understandable. But look at it from a woman's perspective. So you have a woman who is 35, if that woman does not want to date anyone her age because she wants a man who is younger, that is no different than what you want. From what I can see, not just here on mingle, women are able to date younger men much easier than a man can date a younger woman. Why don't you look for someone at least your age and younger. That would give you a much better chance to meet someone for a serious relationship. Besides, someone closer to your age will probably have a lot more things in common with you. Oh Hell, I would love to date a younger woman. For sex! But for a serious relationship, she would have to be within at least 6 to 7 years of my age. Not that serious relationships aren't possible with someone much younger than you, but what it does, is limit your chances to meet someone on a serious basis.

Third, this is the internet. Before I could ever even mention the word "marriage", face to face contact would be required. Your mention of marriage is probably scaring off those 38 year old and younger women.

Fourth, meeting someone on mingle whether in the forums or mutual match or by sending emails, could possibly mean that you could end up in a long distance relationship. Many women will not go for that. That cuts your list of choices down.

Fifth, many of the profiles for women on Mingle are outdated. Meaning that they never de-activated their account. If you see at the top of their profile "seen within the last month", you are wasting your time.

Sixth, you mention you are Christian. Is that as in very religious? That is what I presumed when I read your profile. If women are getting the same impression as me, and if they are not as religious as you, that could be why some of them have not responded. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong at all with being very religious. In fact, I would probably benefit from trying to be a bit more so. But the fact is, many women are not that religious and that may be one of the reasons why they have not responded.

Wow, we have not even got into physical appearance or personality yet. Someone mentioned in this thread that you can't show your personality on the internet. I tend to disagree on that point. If you project your personality in the forums or your emails, that will create responses, but only if you are positive and sincere.

You asked why you were not getting responses. IMO I think it starts with what I mentioned.

Good Luck in your search.

Pulls up a chair and grabs another to go with the popcorn and the show.

You have a couple restrictions in your profile that will definitely limit your quantity of mail.

Only dating baby-makers.

Being a Christian.



Now, I date younger myself. So I'm not knocking it at all, just saying it will limit your responses, because not all women of conception age will be interested in YOU. If you do want to date younger you might want to keep your look a bit younger too =)

I also am a Christian. I know it limits as well. No problem that it does because that is very important to me, to share my faith with someone. But plan on it affecting your interaction.


So there you have it. As they say in the match process, the more "specific" you are, the less interest you'll have.

BUT .. if those things are a make and break to you, then by all means stick with them!!!!

Will you get me some JuJuBee's
at intermission?

I am not sure if this is a request for information or a demand for attention in an attempt to find someone who meets your requirements?

If you are genuinely wanting to know why your are not getting reponses well that is simple. Attitude, tempo, social skills, and goals.

If you read this thread, were it written by anyone else but you, I think you would not respond. You don't seem to like to be made fun of, measured, judged, dictated to. or excluded from nurtureing. You don't like being used and disgarded. Neither do women.

Being well spoken, tactful, accepting, staying positive, being a little relaxed, even humorouse and courting is generally what attracts women of any age. There is a difference in having a stated goal and being so strident in getting to it that the person is shell shocked by your intensity.

A reasonably smart guy, not bad looking, employed, Christian, with traditional values is not that unique, even on line, so yes you do have to compeate. Not attack the process, compeate like a gentleman and good sport. Yea odds are you are going to loose quite a few rounds before you even get close to a score much less winning the game but if you keep giving up and telling everyone else how to play you are going to be alone on the field.