dude, chill!

You wanna know what controversy I have or a few of them? Ok, let's start with history in the past. I am too "Hearing" in the Deaf world and I am too "Deaf" in the Hearng World. I get rejections from both side of the fence to this day.

Second of all, I get upset at short women my height or SHORTER wants much TALLER men and I aruge with them to look beyond height, appearances, etc. Look at the inside!

Third, I recalled when I was about 23, 24 years old and was at church with my brother. I liked some of the ladies our age. My brother is 3 yeas younger than I am. And um, the ladies told him secretly to tell me they were not interested in me because they thought I was my brother's father! Yes, I had mustache and gray hair already!! I had gray hair since 18. So, dating was real tough. Only I could find are pure trash. And yes, I had consequences from those trashy types. I felt I had no choice at the time. Christian ladies did not want me but the trashy ones did.. why? They wanted me to drive them around!! One tried to kill me, another stole my car, and another falsely accused me of harassment. I lived! No physcial scar because the knife went in the car seat. Whew. The other ex stole my car. I got it back a few hours later. Third ex accused me of harassment but I was breaking up with her and telling her good bye.. you know? Breaking up! So what the lawyer explained that I am Deaf and my ex's hearing so it was misunderstanding and the judge let me go. Charges dropped.

I also had girlfriends real nice ones but some jerk destroyed each one behind my back and I wondered why and some told me why. That is why I despite some people. I am not very people person. No.

I have a mind of my own and very different than everyone so they say I am not normal. I am so different. Really!

Controversy really goes back further. When my mom was pregnant at 3 weeks, she got ill with Rubella (very common and an outbreak in mid-1960s). 3 Doctors wanted her to abort me but my mom refused and believed I will be fine. I am fine! Only I was born at normal 9 months and weighted at 3.5 pounds! SMALL baby! That is why I have small hands, feet (size 5.5), etc..

Um, as for adult life, I have more gray hair now than before. But my eye brows are still the same. Brown. Um, still good looking.

As for other things. I am a Freelance Designer/CAD Operator. Ok, the controversy about this is that I have no work. Never mind the current state of recession. This has done the same as always before. Not much work! I tried FOR YEARS to get a Full-Time in the field I am seeking in. Already earned that stupid piece of paper! I personally do not believe in college education if you believe in talents God gave you. My own personal faith and religion opinion is that I don't believe in college education. They say only you need is a portfolio but then companies being 2 face, say, "Oh you gotta have a degree." That is why I refuse to listen to those jerks. Now I am sure they all are feeling what I am feeling. I am glad the recession is happening.

Now, do you see why I am so "Controversal" to you?

I am also very conservative politically because of moral, fiscal, and patroitic reasons. I literally beileve all liberals including communists, socialists, leftists, obamaians.. all has to go and get out of the country. If they love that doctrine, they need to check Cuba, Libya, Venzeula, China, North Korea, Iran, Bin Ladan's orgainzation, etc and live with them!!

Only thing I agree with those jerks is we need a National Employment Lottery System. That is, draft names out of a drum and you are hired. No discrimination and therefore employers can not fire you for at least 5 years. Then I would be very happy when I am drafted without any discrimination because of the so called requirement of that piece of paper and because of my deafness.

Everything else has to be conservative in US.

Hmm.. you gave me an idea.. more controversal!!! Hahahaha. How about National matchmaking Lottery System. Once I am drafted to marry someone I like!! Hahahahahaa. ;)

Ocean, me-chill? Well, how about yourself? Are you chill?
I am not chilling! It is nice out!! Very warm!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=81NygS5pyYo

I forgot to mention that the other controversal is.. many older women are crazy about me since I was 20. I was like, no thanks!! I wanted someone my age when I was in my 20s and 30s because I wanted to marry and to start a family! Yes, I do want to have children. I am the 2nd child of 3 children. I come from well known local families. Some were politicans, some were well-known farmers, one was owner of this local famous landmark that is the symbol of my hometown. That one should be easy if you do your research about my hometown. LOL. Also one was a socialite who donated all of her money to a museum here that was designed by I.E. Pei.

I am first born male of first born male of first born male, etc.. Yes, I am the torch bearier of my last name. I had pressures from my family to carry on!!

My brother and my sister have children already. I hate to break that tradition and pass it on to my weird nephew. He is weird. Hardly talked with me. I wondered why.

About the older women, I get angry emails or comments from older ladies in chat rooms, in other dating sites. Why? Because I limited to younger women. That is why I am also controversal. LOL.

Ted, whats in the video? You did not explain.

I was hoping this thread was moved twice.... Just for added confusion And THAT would of been a Mingle first!


Sir, It could be worse. You could be Canadian, and as such be ignored as a third world country person LOL

Cheers!

I don't think you are controversial. I think you tell too much about your personal like to a bunch of internet strangers. Wow – that was a lot of drama.

I have a lot of preferences; there is nothing wrong with preferences.

If a guy isn't into me because of HIS preferences, I always respect his choice. I don't complain nor do I allow being turned down to infect my life. People like what they like – and dating is very subjective.

It seems you are just complaining. Someday you will meet a woman who appreciates gray hair or a man that stands the same height as her, etc. You want a woman who appreciate you rather than meeting someone who is settling for you.

Being contentious to me is having extreme opinions, against most social norms, and delivering those opinions with such blunt force that you don't consider the potential sensitivity of your audience.

You mentioned being banned on other sites. So far, I have heard nothing offensive come from your postings. Maybe you haven't fully let loose yet, and there is no need to be odious, but relax and be yourself.

Join the forums and get to know the members. You might be surprised at how many friends you will make here, and you might even find a connection. Many have before you.

Mingle is a great site and always welcomes diversity as long as the members are cordial to one another.

Who cares if your family wants kids? Let THEM have the kids if you really don't want them. Having kids should be something you want - and not a task to carry on the family name. The anxiety some people put on others to have kids is so ridiculous. Live your own life! If you want kids, great! But, drop the martyr attitude about being pressured.

Again, I see no controversy - just grousing.

Try to shift your attitude a little, and be more welcoming and gregarious. Once you stop putting a timeline on your life, and relax, you will attract more positivity in your life!

Anyone still have some popcorn left?

Have a seat! I share!

I am off to the gym now that I have had my entertainment for the today!

you got to post dude

I am VERY American, born and raised in USA! Proud to be American! Very anti-illegals including you know who is in the W.H. I know I was born here. Can not say more details than that because I am not the President of the United States. When that time comes, I will explain which hospital, date, time, etc. Hahaha. Ok? Hahaha.

Well, to be honest, I DO want to have kids. My father.. he does not know how to show love and all. He thinks money buy love. But he never do things with me like.. taking him under his wings at the family business that his father--my grandfather started. His father--my great grandfather did not know how to show feelings either. And he did not care about my grandfather.. well, to make it short, I want to have kids because I know I will have kids and I love kids. I even took a lady friend to the hospital so she can have her baby! I was all calm. I felt like she was mine. Her baby's father dumped her. Ohh.. that special feeling.. However, I stopped seeing my friend because she went back to partying and not focus on her TWO daughters. I told her to grow up and be a mother!

There is another reason why I truly wanted to have a baby. My ex-girlfriend aborted our baby without letting me know. I hate that law in this country. I am not looking for a replacement baby but I would love to raise one as my own. And pass along the wisdom and all. I am very smart. Um.. also pass along not just name, my posseses and then I want my kids to bury me. Who is gonna bury me when I am old. My family live up to 90 something.

So.. there you go. Where are you my bride??

Hahaha, both of you, Melody and Tanyann, really crack me up! If you like what I say, maybe I should start charging admission here!! Hahahha.

Oh wait, maybe I can forgive admission if one of you is willing to come out to my hometown and spend the weekend with me and you will have a loaded knowledge of me but of course, you pay for our dinners. How is that? Hahahahaa. ;)

That looks like my kids, Popcorn addicts.

give it some time dude you go straight into talking about brides and stuff

yeah, i think you talk too much like a teenage girl on the party line. That might be something that's holding you back. Leave a lil mystery. Girls like that

There you go again with too much personal information. Is anything private?

I am fascinated by your attitude and how antiquated you seem at times but not fascinated in being interested; it's more like a psychological and pathological analysis.

It seems you just want to marry the first girl down the pike. Slow down.

I think you would add an interesting element to the forums. I hope to see you around the topics.

make them work a little bit dont just throw your life story out there like its nothing

Mel, that is what I was trying to say at the beginning.. that is why I did not want to be in forums!!!! The more private, the better!! Now you all have asked for it.. Now are you all sorry for asking me for info about me?

Well, I am gonna stick to just emailing to the ladies.. like anybody would keep applying for a job.

So, no more forums. This will be the last statement. If it goes out of control, I might pull my profile. And another to cross off..

Thank you all for the answer but I like this topic to close or stop.

One more thing, you insulted me saying I am antiquated. Why you say that? Why did you say I am that? What does that word even apply to? I am still sticking to the old fashioned way. They earn it! For example, if your computer crashes, you lose info. Right? You still have papers you filed in your file cabinet.. that won't go away unless God forbid.. you know what I mean?

Is that what you are talking about? I do not want to know anymore answers. This topic ends now. Thank you!!