any body got any advice about staying in long tern relationship i've
been horrible at it could use a little input

Long term relationships require committment and that means striving to
make sure you are always there for the other person through
ANYTHING....It means having respect for that other person at all
times...keeping the romance alive (even just little things)....it means
laughing over silly things and keeping a sense of humor...Yah..it sounds
like A LOT OF WORK....but hell yah..it is...thats what "REAL"ATIONSHIPS
are about..keeping it real...hope this helps...lol

relationship has to be consent repair... my mother always said.... by
that... a kiss on the neck when she is cooking. or a complent on her
cooking or her shape. what you like about her perfume.. what nice color
nail polish she is wearing. get her some body and bath basket. women
love those things it will go a long way. she will use it for you... ask
her to late movie just you and her, get her flowers when you get
home.... mr. barry white on car cd will turn her on, on your way to the
movies.. the skys the limited... long walks at the beach at night on a
warm night.. talks of how you met her what turned you on about her that
time... park the car on the dark street and kiss her. and touch her
where she wants.. wish you luck...

communication

kiss her butt



just kidding listen to the ladies, what do I know LMAO

Do you expect to get paid at the end of the week, if you haven't done
any work?

Relationships are no different, you dont get the benefits, the good
stuff,(companionship, intimacy, closeness, even the love word) without
earning it..

Relationships are ever growing, ever changing, as are the people
involved in them, so the work is never done, you don't get to take
anything for granted...earn and learn your partner, everyday.

I agree with Jess

I am a dreamer...lol....I believe that if one simply finds the right
"fit"....it requires not much "work"...the great ones are near
effortless...find one with whom you can relate to...on nearly every
level...do not "settle" for less...do not let it get serious if it feels
wrong in any way...

So I feel like the most important part of a successful long-term
relationship involves the choosing...the careful and stringent
choosing...

I agree with CS -- after a lifetime of utter, abject non-selectivity,
and having lived with (and through) the results thereof, I really
believe making the right choice has to be the key to the whole thing....

i would love to have some kind of answer

Know who you are - therein lies the real 'work'. So many say who they
'think' they are and it may bear little resemblance to the real 'who' of
them.

When you can be clear about who you are then you can be clear about the
mirror you attract to you.

We change, we evolve, we grow. A spirit of curiosity, of compassion, of
understanding paves the way for deeper knowing of another.

Is it all candyfloss and rainbows? No, where is the dimention in that?

Relationships are all the colours, all the textures, light and shadow.

Without shadow there is no 3D form.

Embrace the whole of your partner (assuming that they are rational, well
adjusted, evolved beings) and choose one who is prepared to see all of
you. Grow together. Stay curious. Love from the whole of you. And
know that one you are with is exactly the one you need to be with to
show you ... you.

that's why i stick to this lovely lady
she always has answeres that i don't have

thx for the advice next time i get a girlfriend i'll try work a little
more

u'll be fine my friend

hey artgurl that was pretty deep

I tend to swim in the deep waters

call me if u need somebody to rescue you

got you on speed dial walker

Regarding "knowing who we really are, rather than who we think we are or
who we want to be" Couldn't agree more....That is "concrete" solid
information, knowing yourself, that well....but what if "I" am floating
in the ocean of the "abstract", what is my definition of myself? Or,
what is the "definition of the day" of myself?





Good seeing you C., hope all is well.

H.

Hi Airliner

Is that not the path of being ... without labels

And in accepting one's own being-ness it is possible to accept the
being-ness of another ... philosophically speaking...

Nice to see you