How do you deal with it?
I have been on my own for nearly 4 years now and the lonliness I feel sometimes is unbearable, I keep praying about it but it doesn't get any easier.
I recently met a man through a dating site and we have been chatting and getting really well but he lives 5000 miles away and the time difference makes it difficult to talk and I know it will be a while before we can meet and that kinda makes the lonliess worse...
I put a brave face but sometimes it feels my heart being being ripped out of me...
Does anyone else suffer like this?

Been there. Done that. I had a lot of women friends on this site and the I came to before this site. One of my buddies was only 4000 miles away. I guess you had it worse than me. She sent me a box of Belgian waffles and a roll of duct tape for when she would crack me up. But she was a widow and I was a widower. I called her Taters and she called me Beans. Ain't nothing like beans and taters except for maybe cold milk and cornbread. Oh, and good hot onion when you are crying so hard it hurts that you can't see the screen but you got the onion to use for an excuse to save your pride at least a little bit. Then there was the other friendly lady. I told her hers tears were beautiful but my tears were ugly. Of course, she argued with me but you get the idea.

It seems that you two have
a lot of love you need to share
with others...Have you thought of
joining a seniors group in your church
or community group?
Maybe you know someone
in a nearby nursing home who
needs little helpful deeds
done for them or with them.
Give a fruit basket or
share a pot of chili
with your neighbor.

Acts of love can fill
our own empty hearts.

Thanks I am starting to get involved with my church x

Besides being on your knees in prayer and getting to know the Lord better, emerse yourself into those gifts that the Lord has given you. Remember to "cast down vain imaginations" like dwelling on the loneliness you are experiencing and walk a lot. If you don't do something you will end up depressed.
God bless, and I will be praying for you!

Hi, thanks but what do you mean by....

hello i know it can be very hard to live with i sometime ask my self what are you trying to till me you hurt so deeply down inside.but i think we want to give love and feel we are love yes i do hurt form it my self.to me it is one of the hard thing in life to unstand with me it eat at me some day are better than other all i know is we have big need to love and to fell we are loved but why god but that in us i do not no, I look for but its hard to unstand it.but i do not know.but it is one thing that scears me so but god must put it in us put why i look hard but i must be missing it god bless you and hope all the bestto you

i suffer like that daily.not sure how much longer i can cope with it.

"Casting down imaginations,
and every high thing
that exalteth itself
against the knowledge of God,
and
...bringing into captivity...
...every thought...
-->to the obedience of Christ;"

2Corinthians 10:5


Trust HIM; Not your fears,Not your worries.

Well all i have to tell you is that nothing good comes easy.just try and control your motives and pray to God then one day you will be under one roof with your love.but still if you love that man invite him for a dinner ok

hello bigjockey i here what you are saying it can get really hard on you .yes i have suffer my with it .and still do .i ask my self what is my brain trying to tell me.but when you are lonely it can eat at you all the time so i know how you feel about it but i think the mind is telling us we woood like to give love to someone and get love back .at times it can be hard to cope with but there is another side to it maybe you could think about .when we suffer like this we are more to look at suffer of other poeple we can feel there hurts and three pains and we have a scents there suffering as well and can make us more kinder to other.i my self not been out with anyone in fifteen years so i no how you feel it can be at times a very hard thing it eats at you and eats day in and day out you just wood like to go way but it does not. but what it is, mind is tell you what it needs and feel,, love a sent of friend ship with other around us and it telling you that part is missing form your life but some times we get lost in feeling of this . if you wood like to chat, your just wood like to talk or message me i wood be open to it or if you are having a hard copeing with it my door is open to talk cos a know what it like may your day find some happiness and no you are not the only one who suffer so smile for your father love you and the lord love you may yours day be fill sunshine you are not alone with this one

Thanks to everyone for your replies, I am no longer chatting to the man in the US, he wanted us to have a relationship over the internet and he was going to come over sometime next year and visit to take me out. There was no way that was going to work, it was actually making me feel more lonely as I was developing feeling for him (how? over the internet? wierd).
Anyway, thank you all for your replies, lonliness its a horrible thing to deal with and we just have to remember to turn to God during these times.

Rejoice in the Lord alway:
and again I say, Rejoice.
Php 4:4

Let your moderation be known
unto all men. The Lord is at hand.
Php 4:5

Be careful for nothing;
but in every thing by prayer and
supplication with thanksgiving
let your requests be made known unto God.
Php 4:6

And the peace of God,
which passeth all understanding,
shall keep your hearts and
minds through Christ Jesus.
Php 4:7

Finally, brethren,
whatsoever things are true,
whatsoever things are honest,
whatsoever things are just,
whatsoever things are pure,
whatsoever things are lovely,
whatsoever things are of good report;
if there be any virtue,
and if there be any praise,
think on these things.
Php 4:8