Topic: HAVE YOU ALL REEEEALLY ..
dbledge's photo
Fri 08/13/10 08:07 AM
The forums, the workplace, does not matter. It is all what you persoanlly make out of it. There will always be the people out there that like, and thrive on Drama, and BS, however, you choose to let it get to you and you choose how you will react to it. Just as all the people here I have been seeing that seem like exceptionally great people.

Enjoy life, have fun, and treat EVERYONE with respect. Each and every individual here has something, some quality, or some knowledge that can add to anothers life, and make it more enjoyable, and just a little better:)

ok.... well Post #....2 for me?? or 3? ya... should be fun:)

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Fri 08/13/10 08:09 AM


Well, let me say this:

I love this site. Best people -- by far -- of any of the 15,623 sites I've tried. I have friends here who are better friends than any I've had in real life. The forums are full of people who are supportive, encouraging, funny, helpful, and caring. If you've ever spent any times on the forums of other sites, you know the difference.

Is there BS here? Sure. That's everywhere. On line, off line, billboards, TV, whatever. BS is all over the place.

But my perception of it is that there's a lot LESS BS here than anywhere else. Seriously, I have an account on one site where I have NEVER gotten a message that wasn't from a scammer. I get a few scammers here, too, but Mark and Charles take care of them very quickly, and the vast majority of the messages I get here are legitimate.

And I suppose I have given up, insofar as finding a dating prospect is concerned, but I don't think that's the fault of the site. I think it's more about dating sites in general -- there's a mindset that seems to permeate ALL dating sites in this regard, and it's a mindset that just doesn't work for me in a relationship context.

Dating sites are like anything else -- there are good ones and bad ones. I happen to think that this is the best one.





But Lex, don't you think that's true in REAL life too? I mean have you found the woman of your dreams "out there" either?

just sayin ...........:tongue:


Well, I haven't met anyone in real life in a very long time -- so it's hard to compare -- but I don't remember running into this overbearingly monolithic "reproduce at all costs" mentality back in the days when I was meeting people in real life. Don't get me wrong, most of them seemed to have had the agenda, they were just a lot more subtle (and deceptive) about it.

But I was a lot younger then, too.


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Fri 08/13/10 08:21 AM
This is the only site that I have posted in a forum. We have something for everyone topic-wise. I've went on a few dates and flying to meet someone. It didn't work out, just like in real life. My advise-if it sounds too good to be true, too fast, it usually is.

I have met wonderful friends, some who I've chatted with for 3 years and I'm sure I'll meet or visit even more friends. I've had a creative outlet for my writing and have been able to support others in theirs. I've never really gotten serious about dating from here in the last year.

I'll probably never leave, because I would miss the back and forth of people that seem to be a part of my life. Combined with my friends and family in real life, I have the best of both.



Goofball73's photo
Fri 08/13/10 08:36 AM
I'm still trying to get banned!:tongue: laugh

newarkjw's photo
Fri 08/13/10 08:50 AM

I'm still trying to get banned!:tongue: laugh


You could post something like this............smokin



mbcasey's photo
Fri 08/13/10 09:03 AM


I'm still trying to get banned!:tongue: laugh


You could post something like this............smokin



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RoamingOrator's photo
Fri 08/13/10 09:17 AM
Edited by RoamingOrator on Fri 08/13/10 09:17 AM
Given up? Well my friends have always told me that the best way to find someone is to not be looking for anyone. So, I figure that by giving up, someone will fall head over heels for me. It's all part of my master plan. Of course I never did get that Masters, but I did start researching my thesis. huh

You should never underestimate the value of being sneaky. That nonchalance will sometimes working in your favor, well maybe your favor - mine, I'm still waiting for results. Never-the-less, by giving up, I'm actually trying harder than most, and someone is surely going to notice that! :tongue:

In the interim, I'm perfectly content to see what my "friends are up too." Even the ones I don't agree with in forums like religion and politics, those can be really be fun! Me, as long as I make at least one person laugh a day, I've done my job here. happy

venusenvy's photo
Fri 08/13/10 09:46 AM
Besides, you can never give up neva neva neva...Isnt that why we are all on here? we are enternal optomists eh flowerforyou

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Fri 08/13/10 10:51 AM


I'm still trying to get banned!:tongue: laugh

You could post something like this............smokin


I ruv you :-)
I hope it is not a collateral ban.

Goofball73's photo
Fri 08/13/10 10:58 AM


I'm still trying to get banned!:tongue: laugh


You could post something like this............smokin






This would only grant me a slap on the wrist.grumble laugh

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Fri 08/13/10 11:06 AM
Well many of my dear friends are on here and U all accept my pervy ways and my doll!!!bigsmile :banana: drinker

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Fri 08/13/10 11:07 AM

This is the only site that I have posted in a forum. We have something for everyone topic-wise. I've went on a few dates and flying to meet someone. It didn't work out, just like in real life. My advise-if it sounds too good to be true, too fast, it usually is.

I have met wonderful friends, some who I've chatted with for 3 years and I'm sure I'll meet or visit even more friends. I've had a creative outlet for my writing and have been able to support others in theirs. I've never really gotten serious about dating from here in the last year.

I'll probably never leave, because I would miss the back and forth of people that seem to be a part of my life. Combined with my friends and family in real life, I have the best of both.



flowers flowers flowers

Goofball73's photo
Fri 08/13/10 11:13 AM

Besides, you can never give up neva neva neva...Isnt that why we are all on here? we are enternal optomists eh flowerforyou


I'm only an optomist on weekends!laugh

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Fri 08/13/10 11:45 AM


Well my friends have always told me that the best way to find someone is to not be looking for anyone. So, I figure that by giving up, someone will fall head over heels for me. It's all part of my master plan.




Oh, no, so giving up is, in effect, a strategy!

laugh

Lex are you aware of this theory?!




Absolutely, and I've implemented it on several occasions!

The problem is, whether I've quit or not, the only ones who are interested in me are the ones I would never be interested in, and vice versa.


PATSFAN's photo
Fri 08/13/10 01:09 PM
Well Judy, it is a huge waste of time ( as far as dating is concerned) I firmly believe dating sites prevent people from dating . I think people should just have fun & have no expectationsdrinker

Ruth34611's photo
Fri 08/13/10 01:34 PM

My advise-if it sounds too good to be true, too fast, it usually is.




So true.

Dragoness's photo
Fri 08/13/10 01:34 PM
I haven't given up hope at all.

I kinda stepped back a bit when I had issues but not to the point that I gave up.

I am still hoping to find a man who fits me intellectually, emotionally, politically, spiritually and of course physically.

I know it won't be easy since I am so unique but I know there is at least one for me.

Fade2Black's photo
Fri 08/13/10 09:35 PM

I'm still trying to get banned!:tongue: laugh



We hear ya bro :tongue:

Fade2Black's photo
Fri 08/13/10 09:40 PM


GIVEN UP? ohwell

I've been reading thru a couple of recently started threads about how much BS there is with online sites.

Geesh .. I WAS having a good day spock Can we hear it for all the GOOD reasons people ARE here?

frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated

I mean if it were such a HORRIBLE devil place to be .. then WTH are we all doing here????????????????????????????oops

Honestly, the world has enough drama .. can't we be uplifting instead of downing and haters?

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I've met GREAT people from online sites. Dozens of them. Same as in real life. I'm all about seein life from the glass 1/2 full ..


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just sayin ................ smokin





Because.......shhhhhhh.......dont tell anyone but I am on a top secret operative mission to make friends enjoy myself and and disband all attempts at control and conformity........please be advised I may need your help.........I must go now I think someone is following me......u never saw me K?


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DTHRomeo's photo
Fri 08/13/10 09:52 PM
Why i'm still here?

Hmmmmm ... let's see

The free snacks drinker

To say hi to my friends waving

To say go "F#ck Yourself" to the haters :angel:

Oh i almost forgot ... And to post on the music thread bigsmile