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Topic: first email
Teditis's photo
Tue 08/10/10 05:59 AM
Edited by Teditis on Tue 08/10/10 06:02 AM
Hey, everybody's got their own ways... so if it makes sense to you, go for it.
I need face to face time in relationships too... don't want a "pretend" romance on the internet. So I think that meeting early on is important... for me. (not talkin about fwb). Still, people move at different speeds for different reasons; it's not always about "hiding". That's what I see the emailing is for... to get feel for the other person, find out if there's any real commonalities. jmho
Also, some relationships... friendships for instance, don't need that f2f time... some peeps are here mainly for that. That works for me too...

(btw, if it's your "first" email, how do you know that the feeling is mutual?)

venusenvy's photo
Tue 08/10/10 06:18 AM

i hope you were just trying to be funny in your reply.if you are really fearful of being attacked by someone that asks you out on the internet you should seek out help for your paranoia.does that seem rational to you that someone would ask you out and then harm you when you meet.wouldn,t they have a better chance of getting away with it if it was random unless you are some big tv star that have fans stalking you and can,t find you.i haven,t seen your show if thats the case.

Bullcrap!!! Shes a smart chick in cyber space. I exercise extreme caution when meeting someone from the net. Ever hear of the Craigslist killer? Have you been living under a rock??? Its tough enough to be a single woman out there trying to date. But you HAVE to be smart about it! Goodness!! I hope your not raising daughters!

shoesmonkey's photo
Tue 08/10/10 06:24 AM


whats wrong with asking someone out on your first email.the way i see it ,if you see a pic and there is initial mutual attraction, then its time to meet and really get to communicate or at least speak on the phone.this typing back and forth seems to be for people to hide who they really are or at least to reveal themselves very slowly like its a game.it just seems like wasting a lot of time to me unless you have nothing better to do.
Believe it or not, some woman are not as forward as some males.

Last time I checked I am a man and I would NOT respect a woman who asks me out after we exchanged just one email.

You know what? I saw a guy on a site and, I said to myself..I want him. We barely chatted and, I told him to pick me up. We decided to shoot pool. We hit it off right away. I took a chance and we worked.

There's a reason why people say that "a picture is worth a thousand words".

There's no way that you will know a person by just looking at their picture.

Hey, some even say that serial killer Jeffrey Dahmer was a handome guy.

After exchanging emails for about a week and them talking on the phone for a while, THEN we can met.

Seakolony's photo
Tue 08/10/10 06:26 AM
Not long ago wasn't the Craiglist killer arrested? Starts out all nice and the next thing you know someone's disembowled along the side of the interstate.......yep no dates here until I am sure that you aren't whacked out of ur skull.......

no photo
Tue 08/10/10 06:53 AM
Like the Nike ad directs us: "Just do it."

We'll read about you in the paper the next day in the story next to the picture of the body parts still intact in the wood chipper ... ever see 'SAW' ... ?

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