whats wrong with asking someone out on your first email.the way i see it ,if you see a pic and there is initial mutual attraction, then its time to meet and really get to communicate or at least speak on the phone.this typing back and forth seems to be for people to hide who they really are or at least to reveal themselves very slowly like its a game.it just seems like wasting a lot of time to me unless you have nothing better to do.

On the first email it is a bit too forward. On top of that, it is highly unlikely to return a positive result. If you cant be bothered to spend time online emailing people, then an online dating site where emailing is the main communication tool, is probably not for you.

As a woman, I do not have anything to hide. I just do not want to get stabbed in a parking lot. So I take the time to get to know a perspective date a bit in a few emails just to see if my instincts will start screaming, RUN! If they don't, then I am good to go. Plus, it depends on how you asked for that date. Did you place that date for future plans or did you ask for that date where it seemed like you were going to attack as soon as she gets out of her car. Desperation and verbal perviness will scare a woman real quick and send her running. JMO

I feel the same way

call me

I wanna hear your voice

ask me out whenever ya feel comfortable

I'll either say yes or no

no biggie!!!

I was gonna, but I couldn't find your number ...

I agree with that!

i hope you were just trying to be funny in your reply.if you are really fearful of being attacked by someone that asks you out on the internet you should seek out help for your paranoia.does that seem rational to you that someone would ask you out and then harm you when you meet.wouldn,t they have a better chance of getting away with it if it was random unless you are some big tv star that have fans stalking you and can,t find you.i haven,t seen your show if thats the case.

Believe it or not, some woman are not as forward as some males.

Last time I checked I am a man and I would NOT respect a woman who asks me out after we exchanged just one email.

There's a reason why people say that "a picture is worth a thousand words".

There's no way that you will know a person by just looking at their picture.

Hey, some even say that serial killer Jeffrey Dahmer was a handome guy.

After exchanging emails for about a week and them talking on the phone for a while, THEN we can met.

Believe it or not, some females are not as forward as some males.

Last time I checked I am a man and I would NOT respect a woman who asks me out after we exchanged just one email.

There's a reason why people say that "a picture is worth a thousand words".

There's no way that you will know a person by just looking at their picture.

Hey, some even say that serial killer Jeffrey Dahmer was a handome guy.

After exchanging emails for about a week and them talking on the phone for a while, THEN we can met.

But that's just me.

No, I was not trying to be funny. I am always being cautious. I have been on dates from the internet. But I got to know the guys that I date a bit before going out with them. And yes it is rational that someone would ask a female out just to do them harm. Do you not keep up with the news? Ever hear of the Craigs list killer? I think that person alone gives every woman that has a brain in her head to take extra precautions to be safe. And I do not know where you live, or how peacefull your life has been, but having a son who is a police officer, he tells me to be very cautious of the creeps that are out there. He has gone on calls where women have been hurt meeting strangers from the internet. No, I am not famous and I do not pretend to be. Extra caution is not paranoia. Mutual attraction is more than looks for me. Mutual attraction takes place when a couple's mind and heart connects. That can not take place after one email. Thanks for the question.

And see above me, MikeAngel even brings up Jeffery Dahmer. They are out there.

I had a gal that wanted to meet me RIGHT NOW, (1 am) she had a few drinks under her belt and only lived about 10 mins away.

Not me.......I suggested we meet the next day for coffee.

From a male point of view I was wondering if you would share with others why you would not take advantage of a drunk woman at 1a.m.? I could guess that you were not afraid or paranoid of being hurt. So why? Thanks

I would never live my life so recklessly. Have you ever heard of Ted Bundy? He didn't use the internet - imagine the playground the internet affords the freaks of the world!

I have no problem meeting someone online but I use caution. If someone brazenly asks me out on the first email I would think he is a loony tunes. I would think the same thing of a guy who met me in person and asked me out on the spot.

I need to know a little about a person through phone calls, emails, and his circle of friends first; nothing too prolonged but for hellzz sake, I use common sense.

Once I decide to date a guy, I always meet him for our date (internet match-up or not). I would never allow him to know my address right away.

Goof's email timeline:

1st email: "Hi! How are you? Nice rack! Wanna shag?"

3rd email: "Would you like a penis pic?"

7th email: "I should probably tell you that I used to be a woman."

13th email: "After dinner tonight, let's go to your place and play Barbie dolls."

20th email: "I was anal probed by aliens. I swear!"

30th email: "You mean, you looked me up and found out I gave you a false name, and that I am really this Tito guy who is wanted in Mexico? Huh.......I swear, that is not me. But, I need to go. Forget you ever heard of me".


This is like a rough draft, but this is kind of how my emails go.

True story! I received those exact emails!

By the way. The charges in Mexico were dropped.

*whew* Good to hear,Tito ... errrrr, I mean Goof!

let me know when you are in south america....