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Edited by
Dragoness
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Is it a trust issue if, even though you know someone loves you, you cannot bring yourself to believe that they can know what is your best interest in life , in anything?
I cannot trust that someone else knows what is best for me because they can't climb inside and know from my view. Is that crazy? 
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I don't think that's a trust issue. Maybe more of a control issue?
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Hmmm?
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Is it a trust issue if, even though you know someone loves you, you cannot bring yourself to believe that they can know what is your best interest in life in anything? I cannot trust that someone else knows what is best for me because they can't climb inside and know from my view. Is that crazy?
Makes perfect sense to me. All my life, it seems people have been giving me their interpretations of what's "best" for me, never mind I want no part of any of it. Outside of the really obvious stuff like "Don't fall asleep on the train tracks" and "Don't pet the crocodile," I have absolutely no faith that any of them have any idea what's "best" for me. |
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I'm gonna have to agree with totage. I can trust someone completely but I do not feel that has anything to do with whether or not they know what's best for me. I know what's best for me and I don't need anyone who is going to try and tell how to live my life. Constructive criticism is another thing completely and I believe you have to respect (trust) ones opinion in order to receive it.
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Edited by
Dragoness
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Mon 08/02/10 01:47 PM
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Is it a trust issue if, even though you know someone loves you, you cannot bring yourself to believe that they can know what is your best interest in life in anything? I cannot trust that someone else knows what is best for me because they can't climb inside and know from my view. Is that crazy?
Makes perfect sense to me. All my life, it seems people have been giving me their interpretations of what's "best" for me, never mind I want no part of any of it. Outside of the really obvious stuff like "Don't fall asleep on the train tracks" and "Don't pet the crocodile," I have absolutely no faith that any of them have any idea what's "best" for me.  I agree, no falling asleep on the train tracks and no petting the crocodile.
So Lex, what does it say? No trust? Or a control freak? I know I do not like to be out of control of myself that is why drugs and alcohol were never a problem for me. I do actually feel more like it is a trust issue for me though. I don't know for sure That is why I asked
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If someone loves you shouldn't they at some level have your best interest at heart?
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I'm gonna have to agree with totage. I can trust someone completely but I do not feel that has anything to do with whether or not they know what's best for me. I know what's best for me and I don't need anyone who is going to try and tell how to live my life. Constructive criticism is another thing completely and I believe you have to respect (trust) ones opinion in order to receive it. I have to agree with this. I am the only one that really knows what is right for me, but I can still trust someone. |
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Edited by
Dragoness
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Mon 08/02/10 01:46 PM
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Okay so it is a control issue for me then.
Makes sense. I have a thing about being in control of myself all the time. Thanks for the responses. |
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Oh and thanks for not calling me crazy...
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Oh and thanks for not calling me crazy...
I thought it was a given.  
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Is it a trust issue if, even though you know someone loves you, you cannot bring yourself to believe that they can know what is your best interest in life , in anything? I cannot trust that someone else knows what is best for me because they can't climb inside and know from my view. Is that crazy?
Actually, I understand perfectly why this is problematic in this context ... |
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Oh and thanks for not calling me crazy...
I thought it was a given.
 
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Sounds to me like you know yourself well, thats good thing
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Is it a trust issue if, even though you know someone loves you, you cannot bring yourself to believe that they can know what is your best interest in life in anything? I cannot trust that someone else knows what is best for me because they can't climb inside and know from my view. Is that crazy?
Makes perfect sense to me. All my life, it seems people have been giving me their interpretations of what's "best" for me, never mind I want no part of any of it. Outside of the really obvious stuff like "Don't fall asleep on the train tracks" and "Don't pet the crocodile," I have absolutely no faith that any of them have any idea what's "best" for me. I agree, no falling asleep on the train tracks and no petting the crocodile.
So Lex, what does it say? No trust? Or a control freak? I know I do not like to be out of control of myself that is why drugs and alcohol were never a problem for me. I do actually feel more like it is a trust issue for me though. I don't know for sure That is why I asked
Well, it's a control issue for them, it's a trust issue for me. I don't trust them enough to let them have any control over whatever it is I do. |
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Edited by
Dragoness
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Mon 08/02/10 01:56 PM
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Sounds to me like you know yourself well, thats good thing
Thanks
I am still figuring things out. Part of the reason I have been single as long as I have by choice. |
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Is it a trust issue if, even though you know someone loves you, you cannot bring yourself to believe that they can know what is your best interest in life in anything? I cannot trust that someone else knows what is best for me because they can't climb inside and know from my view. Is that crazy?
Makes perfect sense to me. All my life, it seems people have been giving me their interpretations of what's "best" for me, never mind I want no part of any of it. Outside of the really obvious stuff like "Don't fall asleep on the train tracks" and "Don't pet the crocodile," I have absolutely no faith that any of them have any idea what's "best" for me. I agree, no falling asleep on the train tracks and no petting the crocodile.
So Lex, what does it say? No trust? Or a control freak? I know I do not like to be out of control of myself that is why drugs and alcohol were never a problem for me. I do actually feel more like it is a trust issue for me though. I don't know for sure That is why I asked
Well, it's a control issue for them, it's a trust issue for me. I don't trust them enough to let them have any control over whatever it is I do. So is trust giving over of our control or some of our control? Can we truly love without complete trust? |
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If you love someone why would you have to control them and figure out what's best for them? Wouldn't you trust that they know what's best for themself?
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I have had this issue since I was young by the way. It applied to my parents first of all.
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If you love someone why would you have to control them and figure out what's best for them? Wouldn't you trust that they know what's best for themself? I don't want to control others, I just don't want anyone trying to control me in the name of love or whatever. |
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