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| Topic: Is it a trust issue..... | |
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Agree ^^ in the case of anything I'm not that experienced at then someone else knowing what is best for me is not really unusual. having an issue with them telling me would be a personality problem on my part unless they are rude in their expressiveness. opinions of others about your or my actions is always worth considering and you may be surprised at how often they do know better. I think you are speaking of advice here. Although advice would be meant for the betterment of all who can listen to it and get something positive from it. I am speaking of actually trusting someone, to say, make a choice on my behalf with me trusting that they know me well enough to do it to my satisfaction. Although if you took someones advice and acted on it blindly that would be doing the same thing. Not happening for me. I always see a person trying to conform me to what they think I should be or to something more like themselves. I have to distinguish that they are not doing the above before I can take their advice to heart and consider it valid. not always advise ... could be life and death ... you must do this. really depends on the actual situation and what specificly you are talking about. if its what you will eat for dinner on any given day it sort of doesn't really matter that much ... although they may know way more about nutrition than I do and may know I have some medical problem that I happen to be ignoring at that time .... so they are working in my best interest and I am not. or the drink you are going to get ... and its the same thing every time you go in the bar ... well even the bartender knows that. It could be that simple. without actual specific situations ... I cannot think any comment is valid about this. I only know that many people know better than I do about what to do and not do when I go into a factory I've never been in before and I must trust they are looking out for my best or there will be major law suits and compensation investigations to answer to. I think someone who goes to a club I've never been to would be better at picking out what I should wear better than me also. trust is essential in all aspects of your life ... not just your love life. I am in total agreement with you, in all aspects yet especially with your love life. I do have a elder sister whom is very verbal (conrtrol) about what i 'need' to be doing with my life to go further. Thiing is, she is especially strong on this now that her life she has lost control (her job) she is projecting onto me her inabilty to control what is going on with her, yet she doesn't realize this and there is no way this could even be suggested to her. She is in such control due to chaotic events when young that she grew into controling things as to not let events go awry again in her life. She is, btw, a very difficult person to be around, always attempting to control everything around her. |
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