for instance.. does it bother you more when someone you are in a relationship with that you have feelings for to not call you when they said they would? rather than just a friend who said that to you that didnt call?

or how about like your kids? does it bother you just as much as the above when it is your birthday and they dont call you? or fathers day, mothers day? does it effect you the same way as the above statement?

I don't expect anything from anybody.

That way my expectations are always met.

yes it bothers me more when a love interest does not call when they say they will.


I expect the same consideration I give, and I would never do that to someone else. I won't play phone games with a man - not happening

When I let it bother me it's just for a minute...then it's NEXT!

I do what I say I will and sometimes forget others don't, but I don't want expectations put on me so I work on being mindful to not do it to others.

Everybody gets to do what they gotta do..

Well I hope they'd text and tell me why or a 2 sec call explaining

that's just common courtesy

even my family and friends


Pleeeese forget my birthdays pleeeease!

i have tried my hardest to always follow through when i said i would call to call but once in a while unexpected things have come up and take me away from doing that and which i call later to explain the situation..
and on the second part as i have no children of my own . itbothers me when i am in a relationship that her kids neglect to call her on such occassions.shows a lack of respect or even gratitude for all the things she has done for them and i tend to get a little upset..

I see no problem when a man calls as soon as he can to explain - that is certainly reasonable. But I honestly feel that it should happen within 24 to 48 hours - depending on the nature of the relationship.

I mean - I don;t even own a cell phone - but between email & the telephones at work or at home , I have never had a problem getting a message out - even if it's just to cancel & say I'll call later to explain...

My kids aren't real good about returning phone calls (cripes they're kids) but if they say they will call at a certain time they will. I agree it seems like kids take their parents for granted sometimes, but I do not feel that way with mine.

all good answers and make sense to me.. i think though... that the choice to not call them back when i originally made the call, is the right choice.. since they were busy and offered to call me back.. because they did not.. doesnt mean i should be a stalker lol! i dont play games... i dont expect games... however to me it does hurt as much as like my kids not calling <rather said they would or not , on mothers day or my birthday> i do expect more.. and deserve more, than just a regular friend... for i give more and should get that in return as well...

thank you all for the different views as well!

No, in fact I'd much rather them not call me. If they want to talk, they can visit me, or I can visit them.

It hurts me more than her...trust me...

Being a man is just as much about accepting responsibility as it is about neglecting pissy-poor moans about useless and trivial stuff.

well involved in what? a connection and mental contact? yes... sex nooooooooo! many many hours together....... in person and on phone..... to the point he is talking about the rest of our life together....... yes without sex! for a few reasons that is not anyones business but ours lol.. ill say this its out of respect for each other........on both parts...

Is this something that is passe'? I believe in common courtesy and if someone says they will call, then I would expect them to call. If they don't then I would hope they had a decent reason. I can understand being extremely busy and the time to call passes by though.

Are manners and courtesy the thing of the past? I am out of the loop and don't know what is in or out...

I see it as a respect issues.

so are you saying im too sensitive? and pissy? cause im not .. this whole thought never occurred to me before... even when someone did not call... however the feelings were there of hurt.. as much as my kids not calling on those days... so it occurred to me to learn others thoughts on the issue..and i cant learn unless i ask!i love to learn and have a open mind about things

Cheese usually makes things better

i do believe it is a relationship.. sex does not make a relationship other than sex.. now when he says to me he wants to see me more and has no interest in seeing anyone else... and only wants to see me... not by my saying but by his.... and lets me know how special i am... and talking about spending the rest of his life with me... that he has never in his life met anyone like me.. that is more like him.. im sorry i consider that a relationship.. in the bloom at least... and i only meant i dont detail my sex life lmao!!! thats all... my sex life with me and my partner or my relationship is only our business.. it wasnt directed at your question... just that i did not want to go into detail of why we have not had sex.....

I'm somewhat agreeing with you. Aside from the fact that it affects you more than me. Just personal opinion...but when I forget to talk to someone I enjoy talking too...it kills me inside.

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