Oh dear God


How true that is!!!!!!!!!!!

so what's to be done? I hate to think that the only reason a man would say he loves me is to get sex. I've tried giving the sex anyway to try & get that element out of the equation - doesn't work....they just get lazy, figure they got it made & don;t even bother pretending about the love stuff...till u leave & by that time it's too late

I don't know bout you

but no man is playing in my secret garden

ever again!!! Lol

I would rather be a priority instead of just someones option......

but here poses my problem im willing to get hurt just to get laid lol that might sound bad but i love sex more than a normal person should im willing to put myself out there and get hurt...just because i know i can walk away and say i got something out of it...maybe some might say im easy some might even say i need to be put in the looney bin but i guess its my way of protecting myself from being hurt as bad as i once was i dont know...thank you guys for all your helpful comments ive been frustrated with this for a while and ive finally come to the conclusion that love is blind....you have to climb the mountain to know who is at the bottom, theyre exs for a reason. i left him because he hit me and abused me everyday, he wasnt there for me when my grandfather died and he still isnt here for me so thank you guys for shedding some light on my current situation, sorry for writing so much just had to get some stuff off my chest...much love, tiffany

They say a d!ck in the hand is better than....... No wait that is a bird in the hand. Oh well nevermind.........

lol

I don't think love is blind, but I think lust sure is.

this is very true

Sounds like you've been through a lot. Have you ever talked to anyone about it?

well u r a brave one appearing here! so what's to be done about this whole idea of the love vs sex, man vs woman trade off????

ive tried professional help i dont want it, they make it worse

IDK - to me it's like, men are like cars - can't live with them can't live without them

no, seriously. I love men, but it depends on what u want. If u want a long term loving relationship...well those don;t happen in a day - so it's best to let the sex wait

but if u don;t think a guy is relationship material and u r still hot for him...well ya gotta decide u can sleep with him & risk it - yanno - it may or may not work out...

or just forget about it - life is full of choices...

Women do that too. I just had that a few weeks ago. Non-stop texting and wanting to be with me..and then I meet them and boom..they don't even wanna hear about me anymore.

It has to do with the fantasy image people make up about others and when the real-deal, eye-to-eye, face-to-face date takes place, they bail out for whatever reason. Their "idea" of you is been crushed by the "real you".

The "real" you is not good enough..you are not meeting the expectations of the imaginary you.

i believe the saying goes...men..you cant live with them and you cant kill them no jkjk guys are awesome!!

Three days???

You could save a lot of time and just tell people to tell you what you wanna hear. That way, this very instant wont be a waste of time.

Just keep in mind you're not alone, and others have gone through similar situations. Talking to others does help, and even though now it may seem the professional help just makes it worse, perhaps some time in the future it may actually help. Not saying you need it or anything, but keep an open mind about it, it may help atleast a little at some point in your life.

Just make sure you take care of yourself. Learn from the past and find a way to move on.

IMHO, pursuing this man will get you trapped into a destructive, maddening cycle. He sounds like a boy, not a man. Hold out for someone who respects you.

awwww you guys are sweet

Here's what I think, based on this summary information.

These are just some rambling thoughts.

You’ll have to decide if they apply, or if you agree with the theories behind them.


Guy number one is simply not ready for a relationship, because he doesn't know exactly what he wants. Don't take it so hard; in fact you can be flattered that he likes you enough to have tried to push himself forward, and be glad that he is being honest about his misgivings. It's probably just not time for him to be in a relationship. Me, I'd only WANT to be this one’s friend, since he's not boyfriend material right now.

Guy number two...the ex. You can't fault him for dating someone new once your relationship was over. But if he really wants to reconnect, I’d think he’d be eager to break it off with the new girlfriend to do so. And I’m not saying he’s not. “Breaking up is…”, after all, “…hard to do”, and may take some time for him to man-up and do it. He may not want to hurt her, but hopefully he’ll realize that he’s not doing the new girlfriend any real favor in continuing to dating her while he's thinking of you.

Or, he too, may not know what he really wants.