If you don't know.. were you really even in love before???
That is my question... Hmm I ponder it time to time...
I do know that true love has different meanings for different people.

And believe yes once I was...

I believe it's love when you want what's best for them, even if it's not you.

That's a great question!!

What if your feeling feelings so different than before? Is it a different type of love?

Just because your feelings are so different than before doesn't mean this time its 'real or 'true' love.. It is just maybe different levels of that emotion. There are different types of love and different levels with in as well. When a relation is new. We are excited and happier than ever. Doesn't mean the past was never real or this is.. it is just us enjoying that feelings.. that high that we get from a new "prospect" Er I don't know if I am making much sense anymore. He hee

Funny this topic should come up. I've actually been doing some reading on this and how brain chemicals come into play in the falling in love process. It's interesting and something important to think about when you first meet someone.

Yes, that would be real love.

Considering that being in love and loving are two separate things we would need to specify which we are talking about. They intertwine don't get me wrong but they are two different species.

In love with someone is.....
You wake up and the world looks better somehow
no way to explain it but it does.
All those normal everyday things that annoy you
seem to not bug you so much.
If you are going to see that person after work
the day seems so damn long
You don't need food but if you eat with them
it is better than you remember
You don't really want to sleep if the person
is with you because you just don't want it to end.
You are usually so distracted by thoughts of your love
that people really just have to leave you alone
You find laughter comes easy and bad moods come hard.
You find that you miss that person the second
they are out of your sight.
If you have a falling out with this person
your heart and mind doesn't work right until you make up

Most of this is temporary so hopefully you have developed
real love for the person before this dies off.

Real love for someone....
When you look at them you feel good, comfortable
When you speak to them, you like hearing their voice
and value what is going to come out of their mouth
You respect their time, their life, their needs, their wants, their dreams, their opinions, their likes and dislikes, etc...
Your time together is a positive experience for both of you.
You feel as though both of you are working towards a mutual goal in life.
No matter what issues you have because of the mutual respect it can be worked through, apart from abuse, infidelity or something like that, in which if that is happening you don't have mutual respect or love anyway.

This is my opinion of what real love is and how you know it when you feel it.

The feeling of love is wonderful, but like most feelings, it can come and go. Loving someone is a choice and a decision that you make. But, I think before you get to that point you go through the "feeling in love" phase.

Ya know....when it comes right down to it, I guess most people are not looking for love....they're looking for commitment.

That is another reason why they say to hold of with sexual tendencies when first dating someone. Oxytocin and Vasopressin are released and BOOM.. you think they are fireworks and all. Then is all lust, don't get me wrong.. sometimes lust totally turns to love He hee

So true! Sometimes it does...and sometimes it blows up in your face.

A definite reason to hold off on sex!

Why to be so technical with the terms?

The 2 comes in hand in hand. You cannot be in love if you aren't committed. If you are committed, you must really like (love?) that person.

Love is a feeling deep within. One that when you think of them it brings a smile to your face and puts and extra step in your walk. It is when they hold you within their arms you know you are where you want to be and the world around you no longer matters.......

Ya I'm still looking for that kind of love have had it in the past but it seemed to have withered away...............

Love is when you want someone and they want you just as much.....

I don't agree.. Some people were never showed/taught how to truly love another... and respect them.. They might truly do but they do not know the proper way to show themselves or another.. being if it means commitment, or else wise.

In my best Forest Gump voice......I'm not a smart man, but I know what love is.


And there are so many kinds of love, but the deep, emotional, sensual, sexual, soul bending kind is the hardest to find, but you know it when it happens, it's life altering..

Love cannot be thought. It supposed to be a basic instinct. If someone don't know how, that's a big problem. That's almost to the point of need to start seeing a psychologist.

You can definitely be in love and not be committed to a person. People do it all the time.

I want both.

Loving yourself is the only basic instinct. Loving someone else past the point of infatuation or lust takes some effort. I don't care how wonderful someone is....no one is lovable every second of their lives. We are all obnoxious at times.

I am so with you, that is not to much to ask, is it??? Sometimes life is not how we wanted it to be, but it is what it is....It shouldn't be so hard to figure out, but sometimes it is...

It is suppose to be yes... but those who grew up with a sadness of not knowing or seeing it suffer in their lives as adults not being able to be in healthy relation with others.


IMO anyhow :-/