I know that the enemy comes to destroy our marriages, I just don't understand how he's so successful. Could it be that married christians are always looking for someone or something better that they feel God has for them?

Being a recent addition to that statistic (ok so there wasn't one given, but still) I would say, too many "Christians" aren't ready to dedicate their entire lives, including choice of a mate, and the timing of that choice, to God. It is so easy to be doing all the right things, and even living out a real relationship with God, and then allow a small amount of discontent to grow. Eventually, We take the job of finding a mate into our own hands, and tada, we walk down an aisle, hoping God will help make this relationship, that we just put together on our own, work. On the other side of the picture, (the un-churched world) I think there are some things in our modern culture that are affecting that stat as well. I see more people co-habitating, or dating the same person for YEARS, and never marrying. I think that the unchurched are more likley to wait longer, and be pickier. Where, in the churched world, we tend to think if we are both "Christians" then God will make it work for us. Then the same root of discontent that got us to date that other person in the first place, shows up in the marriage, and once it grows big enough, a judge gets involved. I say all of this from my own, first hand observation. Maybe I am the only one out there that just got tired of being single, picked a "Christian" girl, and eventually found out that I picked her, not God. Now, 7 yr marriage, two daughters, and a little over a year of being divorced (she chose to leave), I realize, I don't wanna pick. I want Him to.

christians are humans, afflicted with the same obstacles as any other

I think we have a worldly view of 'love' and it is beautiful and therefore it cant possibly not be good(we think),,so when the love is not there we turn away and any time the 'love' is there we have a seeminly uncontrollable and nearly mandated choice to explore it and see what happens,,,, I think it is very easy to confuse the worlds commonly preached and commonly held ideals about love and what the Bible instructs about love ( I am guilty as well, I think, 'if its love it cant be BAD can it?),, I am slowly and surely changing that outlook but its hard to break when that idea is pretty consistently supported and encouraged everywhere you look,,,

Yahshua spoke pretty clear on the subject. Blessings...Miles

God hates divorce. Yeah that is clear. Problem is, most churches muddy it by turning it into some dogmatic rule that means, if you get divorced, God hates you. That is far from the truth. God loves every one of His children, those who have recognized their need for salvation, and those who don't understand that yet. His son's blood covered every sin, past, present and future. So what is this deal about Him hating divorce? He hates it because of what it does to those that are impacted by it. It is not a sin that separates us from God. It is not something we need to recognize as an ongoing lifestyle that we need to repent from and make attempts at reconciliation so that God will love us again. It is a reality of many of our lives, that God so desperately wanted to guide us through life without us having to ever experience it, but since we (or our spouse) chose to start following our own thoughts, instead of His ways, a true marriage did not get a chance to grow. And in the end, the attempt at marriage ended. Imagine if your child wanted to do something you didn't want them to do. If they disobey, do you reject them. Of course not. How much more does our Heavenly father love us?

There is no such thing as divorce. The ONLY way to be seperated from your spouse is fornication. Other then that this is what God has to say about it Mark 10:9 "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man separate"

the bible calls it putting away,, legal definition of the legal process is called divorce