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Topic: Cheating
Suzanne20 Joined Thu 11/15/07 Posts: 9261	Thu 07/08/10 11:48 PM
Just a curious question for people out there in Mingle land. Say you are dating someone and you find out they cheated on you, do you give another chance? If so, how many? Personally, I don't give second chances. Once you mess up, that's it. What about you guys?

misterfreeze Joined Fri 06/25/10 Posts: 252	Thu 07/08/10 11:58 PM
Nah, I couldn't be in a relationship with a giant pink elephant in the room. I'm kind of possessive as in I don't want to share who ever I'm with. That is my treasure and it's just not special anymore, it looses it's magic if somebody else sees, touches or takes it.

labsme Joined Sat 06/05/10 Posts: 25	Fri 07/09/10 12:06 AM
If the damage he has done is not too serious and he sincerely said sorry to what he did then I will give him a second chance. After that second chance, I will no longer give another chances..

Jhavez Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 15557	Fri 07/09/10 12:18 AM
Dump Him!!!!! Move On

MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Fri 07/09/10 12:20 AM
Heeeeelllll NO! I would not stay with a cheater. I have more self-worth than that ...

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Fri 07/09/10 12:26 AM
i've cheated before...........while playing checkers

prettybubbles Joined Tue 07/06/10 Posts: 37	Fri 07/09/10 01:15 AM
even if you cheated in your exams dammm teachers wont give you second chance! i don either give a chance if it happened in a relationship, chances you will be duped again. although we are not here to judge and also we havent hear the side of the cheater only the cheated one. so lets be fair of judgement!

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Fri 07/09/10 01:15 AM
Unless you are a Bad person, being cheated on is not about you. A cheater is going to cheat. Likeing you, loving you, being his soulmate, have a bunch of kids with a cheater. None of that matters. No one Woman will be enough for any Man. If he has the chance, he is going to cheat. Some are just dumb about it. So one chance or none, at some point he is going to cheat.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 07/09/10 01:21 AM
cheating (IMO) is one of the most hurtful things you can do to someone. I don't give second chances on it. That is a bridge burned immediately. I would just move on.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45399	Fri 07/09/10 01:24 AM
One mulligan.

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Fri 07/09/10 01:25 AM
cheating (IMO) is one of the most hurtful things you can do to someone. I don't give second chances on it. That is a bridge burned immediately. I would just move on. Isnt it really just a fantasy that we can only have or want one person? Just asking, I think about it myself.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 07/09/10 01:31 AM
cheating (IMO) is one of the most hurtful things you can do to someone. I don't give second chances on it. That is a bridge burned immediately. I would just move on. Isnt it really just a fantasy that we can only have or want one person? Just asking, I think about it myself. anyone that wants more than one shouldn't be in a monogamous relationship. If someone wants more than one then either leave the relationship or let the others know you don't want to be exclusive. If someone wants to "play the field"...I don't care...just be honest about it. IMO cheating is cowardly. It implies tricks, lies, etc. Something I have no use for myself Now if someone is honest with me, then I have a choice to be ok with it or move on, but I could at least respect their honesty

myshell711 Joined Thu 06/25/09 Posts: 610	Fri 07/09/10 01:36 AM
Just a curious question for people out there in Mingle land. Say you are dating someone and you find out they cheated on you, do you give another chance? If so, how many? Personally, I don't give second chances. Once you mess up, that's it. What about you guys? Personnally I wouldn't give a second chance, IMO once a cheater always a cheater...Trust has been broken...

tombraider Joined Wed 09/12/07 Posts: 5042	Fri 07/09/10 01:37 AM
...the way i look at it is .."you cheat you're gone" plain and simple..don't like deceivers and liars= LOSERS..

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Fri 07/09/10 01:38 AM
cheating (IMO) is one of the most hurtful things you can do to someone. I don't give second chances on it. That is a bridge burned immediately. I would just move on. Isnt it really just a fantasy that we can only have or want one person? Just asking, I think about it myself. anyone that wants more than one shouldn't be in a monogamous relationship. If someone wants more than one then either leave the relationship or let the others know you don't want to be exclusive. If someone wants to "play the field"...I don't care...just be honest about it. IMO cheating is cowardly. It implies tricks, lies, etc. Something I have no use for myself Now if someone is honest with me, then I have a choice to be ok with it or move on, but I could at least respect their honesty Well sometimes you have that dessert you are not suppose to. You just dont tell anyone, you just enjoy it while it last.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 07/09/10 01:41 AM
Well sometimes you have that dessert you are not suppose to. You just dont tell anyone, you just enjoy it while it last. Ahhhhhhhh my friend....BUT it is dishonest, correct? Usually the other person finds out eventually

prettybubbles Joined Tue 07/06/10 Posts: 37	Fri 07/09/10 01:47 AM
in a relationship both parties must be open to each other and trust each other. if there is no trust it may mislead to something. if both have trust and respect to each other theres no way to cheat ones heart!

ChangeofHeart Joined Sun 10/26/08 Posts: 1280	Fri 07/09/10 01:50 AM
Well sometimes you have that dessert you are not suppose to. You just dont tell anyone, you just enjoy it while it last. Ahhhhhhhh my friend....BUT it is dishonest, correct? Usually the other person finds out eventually If you a are a dumb cheater, you will get caught. True. But a true cheater knows how not to let cheating become thier life. Just a part of thier life.

JustaSimpleMan56 Joined Mon 07/05/10 Posts: 447	Fri 07/09/10 01:51 AM
Just a curious question for people out there in Mingle land. Say you are dating someone and you find out they cheated on you, do you give another chance? If so, how many? Personally, I don't give second chances. Once you mess up, that's it. What about you guys? I have to ask. Is the relationship a LDR? Or a local relationship? That would matter in if I would get upset or not. If it was a LDR,and we both knew that we couldn't be together for awhile. Well, I'm a believer in that a woman does have needs. The same as a man has needs. So. As long as she told me that she boinked, I wouldn't mind. But then again. I believe in open relationships.

prettybubbles Joined Tue 07/06/10 Posts: 37	Fri 07/09/10 01:53 AM
in the end of the topic a cheater is not always be a cheater