U GO MOMMYx4 !!! I AGREE.. I HAVE ONE LITTLE ONE.. AND IF A GUY IS
INTERESTED IN ME THATS ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS I ASK HIM.. IF HE LIKES
KIDS.. IF NOT THATS COOL.. JUST WONT WORK.. AND I CAN UNDERSTAND IF A
GUY DOSENT WANNA JUMP INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MOTHER ... HE OBVEOUSLY
IS NOT MATURE ENOUGH FOR THE RELATIONSHIP AND ITS GOOD TO FIND THAT OUT
FROM THE START!

if the man can't take the full package then he don't need to with the
lady.

To love me you gootttttttttttttta love my kid.......he is exactly like
me but taller and funnier!!!!

if a guy cant take your kids well he dont love you so telle him to beat
it.lol

your kids are part of you they are your blood and d.n.a so if i guy
rejects your kids he is rejecting part of you he isnt worth it. but
there are alot men out there that dont mined cuz today recomposed
familyes are verry popular you just need a little patiance and he will
come. I found mine after about 6 years of looking.hope you get better
luck.

I find that guys always seem to have a problem with raising another
man's kid...not sure why..(.but yet they expect a woman to accept their
kids no matter what)....but i do know that there are gys out there who
are very willing to accept a ready made family...they are just hard to
find....lol.KIDS ALWAYS SHOULD COME FIRST!!! ALWAYS!!!

OK...All you females don't look at the man's point of view.

Example 1..Here's a guy wanting to make a fresh start of his life and
start his own family and continue his blood-line with his own blood. He
meets a nice girl and later finds out that she has children and she is
fixed. It kind of changes the plan doesn't it? He will not be able to
continue his blood line and his family tree gets screwed up. There are a
lot of people out there that want this.

Example 2; A guy marries a girl with children. The ex is very possessive
and doesn't want you messing with his kid!! If the child starts calling
you DAD in front of him it turns into a big fight!

Example 3. The child could reject the new dad in fits of rage and
scream "You are not my real father!!" Kids are not stupid.They know who
is there dad. They are caught in the middle and many times will side
with one. That leaves new Dad feeling like he is growing someone elses
child.

Don't sit there and say there is nothing to this...It's easy on the
female side because the child is your blood and you are just looking for
someone to accept the whole package. If the package is full of
problems...then it is a big deal for the man to take on this marriage
which can turn his life into an unhappy chain of events. even if a man
goes into this with all good intentions it can blow up in his face!!!

Example 4

i've had that problem. a guy told me once that one kid, no prob, 2 kids
was workable, but 3 kids was a no-no. so i guess since i got 3 kids i'm
screwed.

Thanx everyone I really do hope that i find someone who will except me
and my kids. They are my world and I just want a man who can except and
understand that.

lakeman....

My kids are very young and thier father really didnt want to take
the time of day with them. He hasnt seen his kids since my daughter was
2 weeks old and she is 14 months now, so what can you say about that.

Then I met a new guy who I thought was going to be the one, then one
day he just called me and said he wants nothing to do with me because of
my kids. So come on you got to admit even though yes some men would like
to continue thier bloodline, they could be passing up their one true
love because she has kids.

A believe that IMHO that a guy should take the package. If He Really
loves you then we will love your kids as they are part of you.
I will date a single mom.. I will try to be as much of a part of her
children's lives as she & they will allow....

no but your ex will tell u that

I think there are many situations... kids are always the most important.
Personal experience by dating a man who is not the father of my 3 kids
... Him and I were great!..He was okay with excepting my kids,and
tried to get along with them. He gave it a valiant effort. My kids
could not stand him or his kid. I could not get along with his kid
either. It turned into a huge mess . It did'nt work. Such is life, time
to move on, and my kids still love me! :) Thats what it is all
about

If the guy is worried about carrying on his "Blood line" then his azz
should of settled down long before he's in his 30s or 40s lookin for his
pure woman!!

Sorry, since people don't respect the til death do us part..
There are many with kids now a days.

The problems I've seen is single parents are alot easier on kids or
coming from a "broken" family the kids are more spoiled, So when a
outsider comes in they see this as something that needs fixed & they try
to fix it over night.

Of course that never works.

Any of these guys that want kids of their own so they don't want to
deal with someone elses, isn't a safe deal because they should be able
to love a child no matter where they came from.
How could anybody not have that compassion for a inocent child.

I would appreciate a man being honest and saying he can't do the kid
thing.I have a six yr old and I am hesitant about taking on anymore
little ones at my age.I am willing to try but hey not all kids are
innocent or loveable.I mean lets be real here.

blended family's can be a challenge, i myself have bin part of that ,but
you accept the full package or nothing.

I don't have any kids, but I don't care whether or not someone else has
them. If you truly love someone you should be able to accept them and
their kids, otherwise it's not love it's just self gratification.

what about the guy who wants kids and the woman who does not?

They don't belong together because that will always be a
contention...One will never be satisfied!!!!!!!

They each need to be with someone who wants the same things...

I'm single female w/ no children. I love children, but do not have any
desire to have children. I enjoy my freedom. I agree that children
are a blessing, but they are also a great responsibility which requires
quite a bit of sacrifice. I come from a single parent family and had a
great mother, but my mother, my brother, and myself all had to make many
sacrifices to survive. Thus, although I would not reject a man simply
because he has children, I would definitely think twice.

For the sake of the child/children, I would think twice before getting
involved w/ a man w/ a child/children. The child/children should
always come 1st. If the relationship doesn't work, then it is the
child/children that suffer the most. I wouldn't want to put any child
through that kind of pain and/or loss.

therefore, my search is long with no close light.