Do women see a difference between guys who are either divorced or widowed....vs.....guys who never married?

Is there some sort of a bias...maybe looking at guys who never married as having some sort of a defect?

Or is it the other way?

huh - good question

At least a dozen women have told me they're leery of a guy who gets to be about mid-30s and has never been married.

Of course, these are the same women who think their mission in life is to turn me into a goat, so I don't know how helpful that is.

Sometimes...sort of, depends on the guy so I'm just generalizing from personal experience
divorced, they have been there, done that and have a clue..they can also be very jaded and walls up high...especially if SHE left him
widowed, they are wonderful, they lost one and understand how important it is to show they care, they don't want to go through another loss and really put effort into keeping the love alive
never married well, they just have never married and are use to doing things their own way, unless they have have had a long term relationship or shacked up and get the compromise part of it all

Like I say, just a generalization...all men are different with how they deal with their divorce, loss via death and never taking the "vows".

All comes down to how much he loves "her"

Any single man is suspect. But, it shouldn't trouble you because you can get past it. Just be fun and playful and it won't matter.

it depends atlantis. a man my age who has never married - I'd be cautious there

divorced or single is fine otherwise


separated NO - not just cuz of the risk of him going back to his almost ex, which IME is very real, but because he won't HAVE time/ won't be ready, and too much drama potential. I HATE ABSOLUTELY HATE DRAMA OF ANY KIND -JUST MY OPINION

Well I had an experience with dating a Separated man once I since then said no more only cause he decided to go back with the ex wife an said he would never. I for now only will only date divorce never married cause I'm also never married some find it hard to believe at my age never married came to it once but it wasn't the right time. I even would date some one who is a widow. but if they are separated forget it.

i kinda agree... i fell in love with a married woman once just because of the way she loved her husband, who was so undeserving of it... he treated her bad and cheated on her every chance he got...
i still think about her all the time...divorced or sigle, or whatever label you want to put on it doesn't matter to me, it's the person.

I prefer "never married" because that USUALLY means no baggage from a financially legal relationship.

Separated is still married.

Divorced is OK but as I said, there is potential financial baggage in terms of spousal support or other legal issues.

I'm not saying a person who is never married can't have baggage; however, the legal, financial baggage from a divorce does not bode well.

Also a guy who has never been married is more pleasing to me. I think he probably made better choices and didn't marry the first girl down the pike. I like a person who takes marriage seriously and doesn't have a ton of dysfunction under their belt.

you never know until you get to KNOW the person, is what I believe

but , I am sure it is cause for hesitation for many women if by 40 a man has still never married, or if they have three or four different families by as many women , or if they have had nine or ten marriages.

One marriage per twenty years of life,, seems reasonable to me, it shows the person takes marriage seriously to REALLY try as opposed to marrying someone different every year,,lol

Yeah baggage does suck. I have a whole truck load........

nothing wrong with baggage, we all have some. Just gotta know which suit case to not open..

so which one is worse? A man in his 40s never married or a man in his 40s married and divorced multiple times?

multiple times....I'd go for the never married in his 40's before one who has "several " ex-wives. WAY too much baggage there and prolly jaded, pissed off and bitter.

I won't date separated men. It's a "get off the fence" kind of thing to me. Either you are, or you aren't and in the case of a separation, rather then divorced outright, you aren't. Many divorces definitely doesn't look good. Also, saying one is a "good Catholic" and paying off the Church for multiple divorces (my uncle) also doesn't set well with me personally.

Never married isn't a problem for me, so long as there hasn't been many, many multiple short-term relationships. Then that might show some issues. Either being in long termers, even if never married, looks good, or someone who hasn't dated heavily because they have and stick to the standards they're looking for and won't settle out of desperation.

Same goes for sex, too. I wouldn't be impressed with a guy who slept around with a lot of women, because either he isn't taking it seriously enough or it brings up way to many issues with STD's and such.


And to turn this around - do men see a difference?

What about Marriated? you know they are interested in you but don't want their spouse to know.

Damn but I love how you think...

If their spouse finds out, they might find themselves marinated and tossed over a grill, being flamed for everything they got!

Almost 48 and never married myself.

I have bipolar disorder...a huge obstacle but I keep looking...

The stereotypes out there do a lot of damage to people like me. Not blowing my own horn here but to negate the stereotypes, I will elaborate who I am....sweet, kind, compassionate, loving, romantic, caring. I have and never would hurt anyone.

Just need someone to give me a chance.

both are gonna cause me the same hesitation actually