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Topic: Trust
newarkjw Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 17172	Fri 07/02/10 05:59 PM
Well I just got ripped off. It was only $15. Should I show compassion or kick her to the curb. Did you call her on it?

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Fri 07/02/10 06:23 PM
Well I just got ripped off. It was only $15. Should I show compassion or kick her to the curb. Did you call her on it? Yes and she denied it.

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Fri 07/02/10 06:26 PM
Well I just got ripped off. It was only $15. Should I show compassion or kick her to the curb. Did you call her on it? Yes and she denied it. wow if she denied it an u know she took it then that more of honesty an trust u need honesty an trust in a relationship for it to really work

seriUS2 Joined Thu 07/01/10 Posts: 2	Fri 07/02/10 06:26 PM
Stealing is Stealing......you can color it grey how ever many shades you want. It was $15 that you know of but have you really checked around to see what else you might be missing......watch, ring, .....etc. She may have a drug or gambling problem is which case your best bet is to get out while you still can....it will get worse and may never get better. When someone derespects you, ask yourself "why do I feel I have to stay with this person?" If the answer is because you don't want to be alone, then you need to get help. The fact that you are on here asking, means that you have lost the trust in her.You deserve someone you will be able to trust as a partner in your life.

newarkjw Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 17172	Fri 07/02/10 06:27 PM
Well I just got ripped off. It was only $15. Should I show compassion or kick her to the curb. Did you call her on it? Yes and she denied it. That's a problem. Don't feel to bad bro. Learning that for 15 bucks is a bargain. Trust me.......

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76450	Fri 07/02/10 06:28 PM
Humm is this the same one that got ya for more then a $100 if so then sure she figures if ya did not have a problem with that why would ya over $15???

Seakolony Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 11968	Fri 07/02/10 06:34 PM
Humm is this the same one that got ya for more then a $100 if so then sure she figures if ya did not have a problem with that why would ya over $15??? well if this is two different women...then that's a pattern that you maybe putting off.....and were they both young......u could be putting on a show as their sugar daddy so why would they think its wrong if that's the case? is it possible? has it only been twice? same women or different? have u ever said help yourself?

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Fri 07/02/10 06:42 PM
Well I just got ripped off. It was only $15. Should I show compassion or kick her to the curb. I would have to have more details to advise on this situation. Unless of course you want a tarot card reading. LOL

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Fri 07/02/10 06:47 PM
Humm is this the same one that got ya for more then a $100 if so then sure she figures if ya did not have a problem with that why would ya over $15??? Where did you get that.

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Fri 07/02/10 07:05 PM
What I'm thinking is this. an hour before this happened there was $2015.00 there and I took all but 15 to the bank. I just feel we aren't living together. Your not going thru my office drawers. Hell when I was married my wife paid all the bills. she aranged them and showed it to me. and I handed over the money. It's not like that here. Trust has to be earned.

Atlantis75 Joined Wed 12/03/08 Posts: 8581	Fri 07/02/10 07:10 PM Edited by Atlantis75 on Fri 07/02/10 07:10 PM
Well I just got ripped off. It was only $15. Should I show compassion or kick her to the curb. Seen worse. For example, I drove to Philadelphia and back for nothing. (4hr ride one way). That's why I don't trust long distance lovers.

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Fri 07/02/10 07:11 PM
What I'm thinking is this. an hour before this happened there was $2015.00 there and I took all but 15 to the bank. I just feel we aren't living together. Your not going thru my office drawers. Hell when I was married my wife paid all the bills. she aranged them and showed it to me. and I handed over the money. It's not like that here. Trust has to be earned. i believe you just answered your own question again trust an honesty i think both need to be earned in a relationship in order for it all to work

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 07/02/10 07:19 PM
Next to trust, there is the issue of being considerate, no matter what stage the relationship is at. i agree with this.. age, situation.. taking money that is not yours is all a different thing.. shacking up or not.. then to deny it.. im sorry.. this is a red flag.. no matter what the situation was.... if the person was my husband and was my age and i was with him for 10 yrs.. i would ask! not get in his wallet and just take it!! even if i did tell him.. who knows maybe that was money planned out! i would ask! then to be asked about it.. and deny it.. wow! that is not good! JMO

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76450	Fri 07/02/10 07:22 PM
Humm is this the same one that got ya for more then a $100 if so then sure she figures if ya did not have a problem with that why would ya over $15??? Where did you get that. Humm seems I was thinking of this time when ya spent money to get them out of jail instead and guess they did not think they had to pay you back............not sure if it was the same girl or not......... http://mingle2.com/topic/show/264494

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 07/02/10 07:24 PM
What I'm thinking is this. an hour before this happened there was $2015.00 there and I took all but 15 to the bank. I just feel we aren't living together. Your not going thru my office drawers. Hell when I was married my wife paid all the bills. she aranged them and showed it to me. and I handed over the money. It's not like that here. Trust has to be earned. i think being married or not< just living together> that both parties should be involved in the bills.. I think your ex was right.. though you say she paid all the bills you were a part of it by her sharing with you... its a very good thing that she wasnt controlling of the money and made you have knowledge of what was going on.. even if she lived with you.. and saw that 15 bucks.. should of asked.. what if it was for say a prescription you needed to pick up? it was plain not hers!and she lied!!!!!!!!!

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Fri 07/02/10 07:24 PM
Well I just got ripped off. It was only $15. Should I show compassion or kick her to the curb. Did you call her on it? Yes and she denied it. wow if she denied it an u know she took it then that more of honesty an trust u need honesty an trust in a relationship for it to really work that would do it for me... sounds like crack ho... boot her, as quick as you can

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 07/02/10 07:28 PM
Is this the 22 year old you speak of being so happy with? Yet, now you are questioning "trust" concerning her. I'll "give" whatever I have, to have "it" taken does change things. Only you can figure this one out.. Good Luck brother ps but one hella sexy pic! sorry mark!!

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Fri 07/02/10 10:18 PM
I've had a similar thing happen. She took a few bucks from my billfold while I was sleeping to buy a few things she needed. If she'd have asked for the money I'd have given it to her. But, it pissed me off that she just took it. I told her not to go into my billfold for any reason. Ever! we haven't had another problem sense. It's about boundries. She probably wouldn't care if you went into her purse and took a few bucks. I've known lots of women that didn't. But, I'd never go in there even when she asked me to.

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Fri 07/02/10 10:23 PM
Taking money without permission is a bad sign for either sex or in any relationship. Ladies who would do that in my opinion lack integrity and trustworthiness. I would imagine it will not be the last time if you stay with her.

Tribbles Joined Tue 11/17/09 Posts: 7349	Fri 07/02/10 10:56 PM
You need to catch the next flight to Vegas and marry this one! I think you've found a keeper...