That the regulars target the newbies?

Had say Morena (nothing gainst Morena just an example) had posted the
topic called "GUYS" she never would have gotten s*** from Anyone because
everyone loves Morena. Yet nooo one's giving the newbies a chance to
become loved like that.

fresh meat(jk)

((((((((((((((((beth))))))))))))))

No one's given me ****.

Or maybe they have but I'm too aloof to notice it.

-the second "had" lmao

That whole damn thing looks drunk I'm sorry. I'm just tired, no caffiene
in a whole week now

I have no idea what you're talking about now.

Yep many feel that way....most leave some stay but the key is to have
fun either way..........

4 diffrent people today alone, has felt the same way hmmmmmmmmmm

Then don't you think people oughta try and CHANGE thinggs?

nice, caring, kind, non-territorial, non-threatened, normal people
would.


Sad thing is they don't know who they are. They think they are doing
the right thing so, they will never change.

Kind a like, stupid people don't they are stupid, same thing.

Hmmmmm I know Im stupid!!!

and that does not apply to everybody, just too many. Its sad.

Gypsy, if you know you are stupid that means you not stupid. Silly

ok Im just silly then!!!!

Song, it's because there are some self-centered individuals who hold an
entitlement attitude and believe that the site exists solely for them,
based on the fact that they were here before others. They believe that
their seniority should allow them to hold JSH in a sort of stasis, never
changing beyond they way they want it to be.

They conveniently forget that they themselves were once new, too. They
also conveniently forget that the site exists for anyone and eveyone who
wants to join, regardless of whether that joining occurred on Day One,
or yesterday, or sometime next month.

When you see new people talking about cliques, when you see new people
leaving because they're frustrated over the fact that they're being
ignored or disrespected, when you see long-time members complaining that
newcomers are "going to take over the group," when you hear them talking
about "my friends are all gone from here and I don't like this place
anymore," those are all indicators of this misguided and self-centered
entitlement attitude.

only if you want to be....

Lex you rule............

So How Do ya like me now??


When the damn forums get flooded with threads...
Can't keep up with even 1/3 of them.
WE ALL FEEL IGNORED AT TIMES!!!

jjjeezzz!! There is many times that I type that I must be typing in
invisible ink!!

or I'll come in hit 1 or 2 threads then get notes.
it's like the phone ringing I never let them sit for long.

Catch, I think the difference is that those of us who have been here for
awhile know how these things work -- I mean, there are some threads
where it's pretty much doomed from the start -- but I have (recently,
like within the past few days) seen frustrated newbies starting a thread
and then getting aggravated when no one responds....

OK, so maybe after they've been around for a month or two, they will
realize that it's nothing personal against them, it's just that this is
how it works sometimes (and yes, even for some of the old-timers' posts,
too) --

But my point is we need to keep them around here long enough for them to
get to that point of understanding this in the first place. Otherwise
they leave after 3 days, and we MIGHT have just lost a really good
person who would have contributed a lot to the group.

Sure, that's all hypothetical, insofar as it relates to any one
individual, but think about it -- if 100 leave quickly, out of sheer
frustration, I have to believe that 5 or 10 of those would have been
really good people to have kept here.

Vanchau and Mike have a thread in General Discussion called "Help
JustSayHi.com Grow" -- it's not called "Help JustSayHi.com Stagnate So A
Handful Of Old-Timers Don't Get Upset Because The Group Is No Longer To
Their Liking." I've elaborated on this before, so I won't go into great
detail here, but the site NEEDS to grow if it's going to serve its
purpose.

Growth is better for the site, because it allows VC and Mike to do more
things with JSH, add more features, etc. And for the members, well, if
THAT person you're looking for isn't here today, maybe he/she will be
next week. Or next month.

Catch, I feel ignored at times, too. And that's OK, because there are
other times when it seems like I'm being swamped here. And that's OK,
too. I won't complain about it too much, either way, because that's
just part of the ebb and flow of a venue like this.

And I can't keep up with all the threads either, so I don't try. I
learned it's better for me to stay away from the religion forum because
there are too many people in there who won't listen to anyone except
themselves! And that's fine, but it's not "communication" in any sense
of the word I understand.

Yeah, I have an agenda here, and that is simply that I want the site to
grow so I can find more people to talk to, and maybe even someone to
meet up with in person. And I figure, based on simple statistics, the
more people that are here, the more chances I've got to do that.

And a lot of other people tell me they feel the same way -- the one they
want to meet doesn't seem to be here right now, but maybe later --

More people means more posters and more posts (at least if there's any
sort of members-to-poaters ratio, which I assume there is, but it
probably fluctuates within a relatively small range from day to day) --
so I have learned which threads are of interest to me, which posters are
of particular interest to me.

It's not mandatory that we all read each and every thread (there are
plenty I don't even want to think about, let alone read), so we just
need to find a way to pinpoint the ones that hold some interest for us.

Yeah, I've done the invisible ink thing too.

And some days are better than others.

I just think we need to give everybody a chance to fit in. To get to
know how the place works, to get to know some of the regulars, to get
to know the rules.

And, mainly, to get to know that they are welcome and wanted here....

LEX, I went & checked times for 1) Song that GUYS thread was started at
10:15pm how many people were really in here posting?
Not many, I wasn't even here, I came back in with Bigpappa, when he gets
off work & comes in for a bit. We had joked around in a couple threads,
didn't even come into Gen.

The site was dead tonight for that matter I had 3 sites open they
were all totally dead..

I know it's wrong of me & I should make a point of saying Hi! to the
newbee threads, I just got tired of 90% of the time they never come back
in there anyways..
Anytime I see a newer person in a thread I'll will welcome them.
Maybe we need to make a thing in newbee's saying people don't
perposely ignore newbee's it's just frickin life...
Yes I would love all the newbee's to stay I enjoy new people
I enjoy having fun with all differnt people..

I hate when were playing in a thread & somebody acts like it's all
about them...
I'm very sorry if people don't get house warming parties just for
joining!!!
I'm sorry If some people feel like they should have a date the first
weekend they are here...
I'm really sorry I'm wasting my frickin time typing this because I can
bet you no matter how many posts are after me, not one person will
respond to it...

Because as always I write in invisible ink....

Do you ever see me making all these frickin pitty party
mememememmemememe threads???
Hell no!!!

Because we can't even keep the good threads alive,
they all get buried in pitty!!!

I've got over 8000 posts I bet I don't 5 threads in here.
couple in the aahh head hunters.. Jokes is the only threads I make.